My husband spanks and whips our kids, and then he prays with them. Is this normal? He is a Christian who takes every word in the bible literally! He only uses the king james version. He has whipped my four year old son( from a previous marriage) for things such as spilling juice on the rug, or for drinking a sip of his juice after my husband tells him to wait until we get home. He uses the belt at times, but most of the time he just pulls down his pants and whips him with his gigantic hands. I hate it! I don't like it, and I am tired of having to walk on pins and needles trying to protect my son from getting a "holy whipping". We have five children, the 13yr old and the 11 yr old do not get spanked or whipped. Only our 7yr old, 5yr old, and 4yr old, with the 4yr old being punished more because my husband thinks that I spoil him and lets him get away with everything. He says that he is my "golden child", and that he is a "mama's boy", right in front of my sons face! Is this biblical?
2006-07-18 07:22:14 · 35 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look I agree that in some cases a child should be spanked.
ie: Starting a fire beating up someone much smaller things of this nature.
Your hubby has what I refer to as the Step-parent syndrome.
He needs to be stopped try to talk to him.
If you don't feel you can then go to your preacher or whatever your lead church person is and tell that person what is happening allow them to assist you.
If all else fails for the sake of your children's mental health (all of them) you must seek a divorce.
What he is doing will destroy the children and any chance they have at a normal life.
2006-07-18 07:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by CYNDIITA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband have a problem, because i was raised in a christian family, and my father never once beat me for nonsense like this. If he was a true christian he should be on his knees praying not constanly beating on the innocent little four years boy. You need to put your feet down and tell him that what he is doing is not fair, and if you do not stand up for that little boy, because right now everthing the father or anybody do to him, it's being recorded in his mind. So when he gets' older just thinking about it he might not never want to forgive you and the father, specailly if you just standing and letting your monster husband beading on him for no reasons. If you are afraid of talking talking do what a true christian would do go on your knees and pray about it. Or tell your pastor about it get some help before it's too late.
2006-07-18 07:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Prettygirl_20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible does say, spare the rod, spoil the child. BUT, it also says parents shouldnt be too overbearing on their children because it could drive them away. Your husband has the right idea, but his approach isnt exactly nurturing. Spankings should be given out of love and concern for the child's well-being - not just as a punishment for disobedience or out of spite for the relationship you two have.
2006-07-18 07:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christiantiy is about respect, any religion should be about respect, spanking is obviously not the way to teach respect, Jesus taught about words, about parables, about loving, spaking doesnt show love but anger and hate. Tell your husband to get into some sports to release that anger because that is obviously not normal behavior -well in some animals is normal, but not in people with mind and Heart
2006-07-18 07:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by frankomty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bible doesn't say "whipping = good". it says you have to respect your wife, children, parents and love one another as you would love yourself. would u whip yourself for drinking juice?? no. there are probably examples where it says something about using a rod to hit the child, or something like that (i don't know the specifics)..but it's not about teaching "yes hit ur children whenever u want". it's about a FITTING punishment for a misdeed in order to CORRECT and learn from your mistake. it's not to induce fear, and hate from ur child (fear and hate do not equal respect). gaining respect and love from ur child is much more beneficial in terms of teaching what is right and wrong. as a child grows, they may need certain types of discipline. as they grow older, eventually that discipline is stripped away and it is up to what they have learned from their parents to discipline themselves.... the whip or the rod is more a metaphor i think...doesn't mean "use whip and rod"...it means we need discipline in our lives, but we must understand why and then there will be no need for a whip because we KNOW what we should do.
2006-07-18 07:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it matter if its biblical. The bible says to kill unruly children. Does that make it right to murder your child because it says so in the bible. What your husband is doing is child abuse. It should have nothing to do with the bible. Hitting children is wrong. What the bible says doesn't matter. Do YOU think its right to hit children.
2006-07-18 07:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by chris42050 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no. I am only 14, but I am a christian and in TLW( true love waits) and I think he needs to control his anger. He might be taking past experiences out on your children. Believe me I am adopted for being abbused until I was 5. You need to take a stand and put them in time out or take things away. Hope I helped :)
2006-07-18 07:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by preppy longhorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a child abuser and is getting away with it under the guise of 'Christianity'....he is a sick minded person and you need to wake up and realize that it will probably just get worse....
***You keep coming back to this same issue in most of your questions....how many people have to keep telling you the same thing before you decide to do something?***
2006-07-18 17:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your husband isn't a true christian then.
If he had Jesus in his heart he wouldn't treat children this way.
Its horrible, its pretty much child abuse.
I think he needs therapy and anger management classes.
And if he still doesn't stop then I say leave him. He's dangerous and you shouldn't have to walk on pins and needles just for your husband.
2006-07-18 07:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by DisneyLover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sad story. um being a catholic i think it is ok to spank in order to punish. but i think your husband is going way over board and i now would consider this abuse. i know its sad and it all seems so wrong but you need to talk to him and ask him to tone it down a bit. well, a lot. and if that does not work , you need to pack up and leave and then report him. but you need to move out first because if not they can blame you for the abuse too because you did not speek up earlier.
~ be a mommy for your kids~ they love you
2006-07-18 07:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋