(meaning wanting sex) But then by the time you get home you are too tired. how do you "recharge" yourself? I really want to -want to have sex, but i am SOOOO tired when it is time for bed.
This is becomming a problem and hurting my sex life and my fiancee keeps saying he thinks there is somthing wrong with our relationship. I dont feel that way, i am really just tired and wore out.
BTW, consider that I also have two kids at home so i cant do it as soon as i get home.
2006-07-18 07:22:12 · 17 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex aside, every person has a biological "clock". You're awake and alert, then a certain time comes, the clock ticks, and you're pooped and ready for sleep. It's not that you're really that tired, or uninterested. Your timer dinged, and your body shut down all those drives, hormones, etc. that would interfere with sleep.
Some people's clocks are very strong, others very weak. Yours sounds pretty strong.
You can't stop the clock, but you can reset it. For several days, push yourself physically (not sexually) past the time your timer goes off. It's not enough to just stay awake. You have to physically exercise, the harder the better. Stay busy a couple of hours longer. It will be hard. You won't feel like it. Your body will rebel a bit. Then, your body "learns". It resets the clock.
You may be dragging in the mornings and a bit less energetic at work, but... you're body will be literally primed for physical activity at bedtime.
2006-07-18 07:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try texting each other sexy messages while you are on your way home? Or go all out and talk out right nasty to each other right before you get home. Then you'll be turned on still and keep it in mind as you take care of what needs doing around the house. OR, the two of you sneak off for a quicky. There is no rule that says kids have to be in bed sleeping before parents can have sex. Just make it a priority...
2006-07-18 07:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are excited (about sex) more in the morning than in the evening and vice-versa. Some are just horny all the time (you all know who you are). If it is possible, try to change your work hours to where you can get that urge taken care of. Or, set up a few times with your man for a "nooner". Hopefully you know what that means and not like Al Bundy where he thought he was going to get fed by going home at noon.
2006-07-18 07:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Master Kenobi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you come home from work, just the thought that your work isn't really done because you have kids to attend to and various other things is probably making you tired, there is probably not time to really relax after a long day, you can ask your fiancee if he will help out on anything that needs to be done to lessen some of the load and then maybe you will be less tired....
2006-07-18 07:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmm, thats a tuff one. Finding alone time, especially sex alone time with a married couple with kids is a big problem in all those types of marriages. You have to tell him that to begin with..so he understands..dont tell us then say he figures this and that but i just say no...explain it to him! maybe he will find a way to give you time...maybe some nights he can help out ALOT and you can just chill and read a book until hes done and kids are in bed, you will have the energy to do it i bet then. If not..maybe go to bed early and wake up early and ride his morning wood?
2006-07-18 07:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make arrangements to get the kiddos out of the house, the two of you relax in the tub with music/candles, etc., give each other a long erotic massage and take it from there.
Maybe an espresso on the way home too...lol
2006-07-18 07:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by RenagadePriest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I walk around work all day fully erect. My friends Gregg & Tony will frequently have ladies from local establishments stop by work, especially on Jimmy Day, to help me with this problem. Ever once and a while I get a really special treat like a lovely tranny or a lady who will give me a really wonderful yellow treat.
2006-07-18 08:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sounds so familar to me you have no idea, im going through the same thing. With me I dont have kids so I take naps and drink a that new energy drink that mountain dew has out now, think about a couple past sexual experiences that me and my man have had, and next thing I know im top of him making him scream. Excuse my graphic expression!
2006-07-18 07:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by caramel_kisses4u2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to keep a quivvering butterfly in my desk drawer for just such occasions.
Maybe you have some deep underlaying feelings for a co-worker and the only way to release that frustration is to jump his bones. I have a friend via the internet that I fantasize about all the time!
2006-07-18 09:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by egg salad shooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- we worked it out by having it in the morning....
Sometime you just have to plan when you will do the deed to get it done :) Like you, I am always too tired at night.
2006-07-18 07:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋