I have friends who left their country just to be with their boyfriends. But some failed in their relationship simply because their boyfriend expects them to convert to their faith. Conversion is tough as the cultural differences are simply too great. And moreover the society rejects them as foreign brides.
So, tell me, is it worthwhile to change oneself totally just for love?
2006-07-18 07:19:30 · 14 answers · asked by TEsha 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Love is acceptance of your true self. I don't think changing someone's religion/faith is a sign of true love. Marriages like that can work but why suffer through it? You only have one life to live. Choose the one YOU want.
2006-07-18 07:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by avenus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't. I was in a relationship where I was asked to do those things, and thank goodness it didn't last because I was almost crazy enough to try. It's hard enough to live in a foreign country and have to learn the language and customs, and still never be considered good enough because you're a foreigner, especially as a woman. To change your religion for someone else is just plain flat out wrong. Your religious beliefs are between you and God, not you and anyone else. Otherwise it becomes meaningless.
2006-07-18 07:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good working relationship has as its foundation a compassion for the views of both people involved. To marry with expectation of change is never a good idea, One should marry someone who respects our views and beliefs, and only marry a person who you can give the same to. That DOESN'T mean you always have to agree.
Can a person love YOU if they want to remake you into SOMEONE ELSE?
2006-07-18 07:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by vvxxzzvv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are flexible enough to really change your faith to the other faith and believe it totally. Otherwise you're faking and it will never work. It's tough to make it in a different culture.
You can't change yourself totally for love. You can fake it for a little while but not in the long run. You will resent it if you can't be yourself and aren't loved for who you are. You can't get true love unless you are being your true self.
2006-07-18 07:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT. If your boyfriend doesn't love you for who and what you are, then for crying out loud DON'T MARRY HIM!!! Neither the man nor the woman should have to make such serious fundamental changes for a spouse. It's one thing if you have a bad habit of leaving bath towels on the bathroom floor and your spouse doesn't like it, but it's quite another if your spouse doesn't like your friends and expects you to choose him over them. Women who leave their homes to be with their boyfriends are foolish. Don't go there.
2006-07-18 07:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is worthwhile to convert for your love.
Always keep in mind that GOD is ONE, People address
HIM in different ways, that's all. In reality HE IS ONE. You worship in any ways, finally all ways lead to HIM only. By converting what
you are doing is just changing the way to worship HIM, but the
end result is all your prayers will reach HIM ONLY.
Keep one thing in mind, and that is, Once you understand the fact
that HE IS ONE and EVERYWHERE, then actually religion#1 and religion#2 are one and the same.
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2016-12-01 20:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by jaculina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is actually true love, there should not be a need for change in religion, looks, attitude, etc. Of course it may involve a change in living quarters but that should be about it...lol! You should never have to change to please the one you love, and that loves you!!
2006-07-18 07:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by MSHOTTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. Actually it's unfair of anyone to ask someone else to change their religion. If they love you they love you for who you are not who they want you to be.
2006-07-18 07:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by nahimana34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you love someone, you should respect him/her and not forced him/her to convert to their religion. You always have to be your ownself and not to change yourself for the sake where your bf/gf wants you to change
2006-07-18 19:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋