2006-07-18 07:12:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First.... I would be very very upset and then serve him divorce papers! No woman deserves to be cheated on! Also... how can you bare to sleep with him ever again knowing that he slept with another woman! What if while you are having intimacy, he is thinking that you are the mistress! You don't deserve to be treated so horribly and wrong!
2006-07-18 07:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by UnKnOwN 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand why he felt he needed to go somewhere else. There must be a reason in the first place. I am sure that some couple manage to survive this, if both want it. Need to talk etc
Good luck to you.
(Getting a revenge and all those nasty things? What for? Where does this take you? Be an adult and try to save whatever you think is worth saving).
+ also, depends on the circumstances. Is he still having the affair, how did you find out etc
2006-07-18 14:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if this is not the first, or if he obviously doesn't care about how you feel, or if you have had enough, I would document this. Get him on tape admitting to the affair. Get all the evidence you can about the affair. Get an attorney. Kick his butt out of the house. There are laws protecting you. Adulterers often repeat. File for divorce.
Secondly, if you have also cheated, then you both need to seek expert professional counseling.
Thirdly, if children are involved. Get evidence. Kick his butt out. Tell him you will not tolerate this behaviour. Tell him to get counseling. Get counseling as a family and separate. Then maybe, maybe you will consider having him back in your life. Maybe!
p.s. Don't forget to find out whom it occurred. And please get tested! STD's are not always obvious! Protect yourself foremost!
2006-07-18 14:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you stay with him or not, you should examine your marriage and see if there was any underlying problems that led him to have the affair. In order to heal properly, you really need to look at the whole thing as objectively as you can. If there were definite problems in the marriage, you really should go to counselling. If there was no other reason than him being an alley cat, then send him packing. But no matter how you look at it, you need to really see it and heal from it so you can move on with your life, with or without him.
2006-07-18 14:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge? What are you Goldie? 13? 15 maybe?
It's up to the wife if she wants to try and make it work out or not. Men and women equally fail at having enough integrity to keep their vows. Only she can answer the question if she wants to trust and try again. Personally I don't think I could trust again after being hurt like that, but revenge is the most childish thing you could do.
2006-07-18 14:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open you eyes REALLY WIDE and see what just happened to you, and decide whether or not you want it to happen again!
Seek counseling first, you will know during the sessions if he wants to stay married. If he acts like he could care less, then take the ding and move on with your life. He was not the man you were meant to be with. There is much better out there girl!
2006-07-18 14:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-07-18 14:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You`ll never be able to trust him again and as trust is a great big slice of a relationship, it is one of the most important things you should have.You will be forever wondering where or what he is doing if he is the slightest bit late.I found out the hard way and took him back for 4yrs,but he had`nt changed and was soon at it again,so we divorced and I ended up meeting someone who appreciated and loves me ,for myself and I`ve never been happier.So don`t waste time on a time waster.
2006-07-22 09:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him out on it, and ask him what's goin on. And just depending how much the marriage means to you stay or leave. I think it shows a very strong woman to stay in a relationship afte something like that. I was talking to my g/f whose dad cheated on her mother and her mom is still with him. They love eachother. I think they may not be thinking with the right head at the time and if you call them out on it and make them feel bad about it, it may cause him to change his mind/
2006-07-18 14:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ben H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell ya what to do, get out, bc he will do it again, n if he begs u not to put him out and says itll neva happen again then he is a liar bc all he will be is laugh behind ur back and say to himself that he can do it again n u wont do anything about it. i know u prolly love him and dont want to lose him but what is worse u let him stay n he does it again, they always do. so if u respect urself then cut him loose u deserve betta
2006-07-18 14:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋