He's sexually great, really, and I want to let him know that as often as possible. But at the same time, there are things that I would like him to do differently. He doesn't take subtle hints very well, especially body language.
i'm ready for a bunch of cheap, smutty responses, but hoping to get a few serious ones as well!
2006-07-18 07:10:49 · 27 answers · asked by profejeder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if body language doesn't work, talk to him WHILE he's doing whatever he's doing. Say things like "I love it when you...(insert phrase here)...hard/soft like that," or "You've got me so worked up...I'm so sensitive right now...be gentle..." or "it turns me on when you..."
The bottom line is that he will love hearing you narrate what's going on, and he'll love hearing you get excited. But you can give directions as long as you don't hurt his ego. Make sure you tell him what he's doing right before you tell him what else you want..
2006-07-18 07:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't want to let him know that he is in any way inadequate. You will destroy so much so quickly you can't imagine. Some things to think about, and some ideas:
There is a difference between ignorance and stupidity. Ignorance is lack of knowledge (learning is an easy cure). Stupidity is the inability to gain knowlege (there is no cure). He doesn't lack ability, he just lacks knowledge. He is very adequate, just doesn't know you well enough.
1. Tell him you're sorry... you haven't really let him know about you. You haven't opened up to him about the things you really like and the additional things you want him to do to/with you. (The "fault" is yours, not his. He's not inadequate, you just didn't tell him.
2. You two aren't communicating. So, start with him. Ask him what his fantasies are... what he'd like you to do to him that you aren't. Tell him you want to fulfill every sexual desire he has. If he cares about you at all, he'll then ask you the same question. When he does, you tell him, in an embarrassed sort of way, that you'd like xxxxx....
3. Get a book. "The Joy of Sex" is a good one. Read it with him. Talk... explore... Try saying "Hmm... that looks like fun (as if you'd never even thought of it before)"....
There are a hundred ways to do it right. Just approach it in a way that does not question his ability... only his knowledge. Where possible, "blame" yourself and ask him to make it all better....
2006-07-18 07:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is not a cheap smutty response so maybe i can get the 10 points, maybe u need to use the words "hey lets try this" when doin the nasty .. ya know that way it comes across like a new idea instead of a insult or anything see if it helps
2006-07-18 07:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're good at acting, you can always use your hands to push him where you want him as if you were lost in the moment and not thinking, and then be much louder and more vocal when he's doing it right. Basically make him think that he's already doing such a good job that you're so lost in pleasure that you don't care what he thinks you just want him to move exactly where you feel he should be.
Kind of reverse psychology... but not. Guys are dumb though, he won't look too much into it.
2006-07-18 07:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by ymingy@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save Sex For Marriage.
2006-07-18 07:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by maccie211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the first thing to try (I'm assuming that you've already gone through the usual "putting his hand there" kinds of things) is ask him for what you want DURING sex. Say something like "ooh, try ____" and then when he does, make a big thing about how you liked it.
Also, you could try talking to him in a neutral setting or even right before sex. Say something like "you know I'd really like to try ____" or even make a sort of game out of it in a "If I do this to you for a few minutes, will you do this to me for a few minutes?"
2006-07-18 07:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having sex with this guy you should be at the point in your relationship where making sex as best as it possibly can should not effect him. Just be like hey will you try this my g/f told me it would feel good. Or be like do it like this. I am never hurt when my g/f says anything because i want to be the best sex partner i can ever be.
2006-07-18 07:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ben H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. the best thing about haveing a relationship is learning from each other and being open to new things. tell him how you feel or the next time your having sex direct him and just say do it like this in a sexy but authoritive tone. you never know it might turn him on to see you take control
2006-07-18 07:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Qu'ee Roxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a good heart-u try to help about poverty and stuff-yet the best way to advise him would be-honey i desire the best for you-why not go pay for a pro and let me go-or try and be the princess u r and respect yourself and your body-and find a guy that will honor you instead of giving u such low self esteem that u gotta come here and ask about how to give your self away for free and waste more of your life-find a prince-and first from above -Jesus the prince of peace-Isaiah 9 vs 6 the almighty God and the wonderfull counselor-he is all that to me. ty your precious be what u were made to be-ok-see my sight to know what brought me to the light-and a prayer to help u most of all-communications is the key to life-but what to communicate is the lock to life heaven and hell and emptiness too
2006-07-18 07:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him suggestive questions about sex;
1. is there anything you'd like to try
2. or lets try this
3. or I wonder what this would feel like
4. have you ever
seems to be good starters to open with
or even, you taking the lead and talking him through with sexy conversation and foreplay
2006-07-18 07:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋