Is there anything I can do? I want to tell the University in question just what kind of person this chap is because he really is the lowest of the low - seducing one of his students, and my friend is just so confused because she's not sure she wants to be with him, but uni marks mean more than anything to her and she doesn't want to jeopardise that because he's a recognised figure in his field and in the area.
2006-07-18 07:07:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Universities have a policy whereby lecturers shouldn't date undergrad students. However, shouldn't isn't the same as can't. So long as the lecturer doesn't mark any of the student's work, and the lecturer informs the Head of Department about the relationship, then they are usually tolerated.
I would suggest making an appointment with the univeristy legal adviser that may be attached to student accomodation and have a chat. I would suggest that your friend collects any evidence that they have of the relationship - emails, letters for example.
The academics may close ranks if you report him, and will turn a blind eye to protect their colleague (especially if he is a star in his field) and the reputation of the university. He won't lose his job. However, getting advise from the uni legal adviser may help you. A quiet word in the Head of Department's ear might allow the department to act quietly on the matter, and they would appreciate that more than you yelling it at the top of your voice (but only do this if there is payback for ending the relationship). And remember, if you are in the same department, it could come back to bite you, especially if you are very vocal about it. Come exam board meetings they'll remember you as the one who ratted out their colleague. And if your friend has no evidence of the relationship they could remember you as the one who started unsubstantiated rumours.
Be careful. This is a political minefield and could blow up in your face. Your friend should probably end the relationship in the same way she would with any other first and see if there is any fallout.
2006-07-19 00:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need for her to put off ending this relationship if that is what she wants to do, because however scared she may be, it's not half as scared as he will be - she could so easily finish his career. He has put himself in a very dangerous situation by having an affair with a student. If he has any sense, and as a lecturer he should have, he will respect her wishes like a gentleman! 'Recognised figure!' Piffle - they're all the same under the skin!
2006-07-18 07:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that all universities have a non dating policy concerning students and lecturers. But if not she can talk to her student representatives at the student centre or union about the problem and they would be able to put an eye on how her work progresses and if there is any suspension of fowl play the matter can be taken to board of education of the university and they would be able to mark her work through an impartial lecturer to see if her work was bad or if there was misconduct in the marking. I hope this helps.
2006-07-18 07:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by pip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seduction is not one sided, To be seduced you have to play a part as well. I do think that the lecturer should have known better, however if the student and lecturer made a mutual decision then the blame should be spread around. In regards to ending it, maybe it would be better if she sat down and talked to him, explaining the circumstances before going any where or reporting him, after all if everyone involved are adults then there should not be a problem!
2006-07-18 23:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She holds four aces, especially if she is under 18.
He will be dismissed and his career ruined. She will complete her work there if she wants, but will be treated very differently.
If she is 18 she is a consenting adult and both she and the prof knew what liability exposure each had going in.
Confusion is not an excuse that works any more. Getting caught is the only thing that makes people confused. The only confusing part is to decide weather to run or fight.
2006-07-18 07:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by loligo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lecturer's are not meant to have relationships with students because it breaches university policy- it's similar to a school teacher having an affair with a 16 yr old. They would face immediate suspension. Plus with his reputation people would lose all respect for him and look at him in horror.
2006-07-18 08:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by m b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your friend really does want to split up with him. If so you or she or both should go to the programme conveyner, or someone at the SU. They can counsell her to get her through this, and they will change herlecture group so that she does not come into contact with him, and he doesn't mark her work.
2006-07-19 06:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cazza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look @ what the University policy is in this regard and then decide...also try to make ur friend understand that this is nothing but a disaster waiting to happen (or has it already happened)...anyway it would be purely up to your friend as to how she wants the issue to be resolved.
2006-07-18 07:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Sh00nya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Universities usually have policies to protect students. She should talk with a counselor in confidence at student health or her academic advisor. They can provide the best advice to ensure her protection in the classroom.
2006-07-18 15:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by The Big Shot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend anyway? truelly i secretly fancy one of my lecturers and i would love to go out with him not for marks though ! But, as you said marks do mean alot to her if she is old enough leave her to it i say you do not want to be caught up in the middle if the guy is also your lecturer.
2006-07-20 05:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by f.harrison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋