Had I done the right thing or not?

Question

My GF was 16 an I was 18 We had chance to be alone and things got heated up. She said "I want you" and I was like not yet. Trust me when I say this a war went on in my head. One side was like her is a chance to finally get laid and the side was like not yet she is more than likely not truely ready. We are both virgins and I love her very much so I wanted are first to be special not on her dads sofa while he lift us alone for 3 hours. This happen while we were dating.

Answer 1

Every 18 year old guy wants to get laid. A young, vulnerable girl offered and you said no. Not because you didn't want to, but because you actually cared about her as a person. You cared enough about yourself to want it to be special and intimate, not hurried and risky. You wanted love, not conquest.

Hmm.... guess what? You're becoming a man. Many never do.

Answer 2

Its a refreshing change to hear a young man asking a girl to wait.
You did the right thing though.
If you were ready you would have dived right in there and as you say your first time would have been a disaster.
Talk to your girlfriend and reassure her it wasnt that you dodnt want to but you thought the timing wasnt right.
If she thinks enough of you she will understand,if she doesnt and just wants sex then shes treating you just like a piece of meat and you deserve better than that.
Good for you for knowing you were not ready.
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Answer 3

well i think that its great that you wanted to wait for a more special evening and stuff i mean wow how many nicer guys are there like you not much but that was definatley the right thing to do!

Answer 4

Wow, I commend you, you are truly a man! Most guys would have just gone for it. I hope she sees how truly special you are and please tell her how you felt about this.

Answer 5

your going to regret u didnt do it she's going to think ur gay i allready do