I hate my job, what should I do?

Question

I am being treated very unfairly. Out of the 20 or so clerks in my department I am the only one who is watched like a hawk. I get a nasty e-mail if I'm not doing enough, and today I got a nasty e-mail b/c I was doing too much. Everyone else stands around and talks, or sits on the phone all day, but nothing is said to them because they’re all friends. The girls here are nasty and cruel and they want me to quit. I don't want to give them the satisfaction of quitting, but I cannot stand it anymore. I do need the money, it's pretty good, and I have a daughter to think about. Is it worth it to stay and do everything and get treated like crap? My assistant supervisor is part of that group of friends and my supervisor could care less what anyone does…. I would love some good advice.

The nasty e-mails that I am receiving are from my assistant supervisor, not the other clerks. So it bothers me even more because she's sending them CC to my boss.

I believe I am being watched because my mom has worked here for 25 years and she is one of the AVP's (assistant vice-presidents) of the company. I think they're trying to prove that I'm not getting any special treatment, therefore mkaing an example out of me. This is also the reason why they do not like me.

Answer 1

work less, and try to get fired.

Answer 2

The first thing you should do is ask yourself why you are being watched like a hawk out of 20 people. Is there any basis for your asst supervisor watching you so closely?

If you still feel you are being treated unfairly, you should probably start by scheduling a meeting with your supervisor. Try to avoid personal complaints - instead word everything from a business perspective.

If you don't feel like any progress is made there, you have the right to go straight to human resources. I'm not saying that will help very much, but you never know.

No - it's not worth it to stay and suffer - it is affecting your mental health too much. But try and find another job before leaving. And make sure you give proper notice. You may not like the company, but you should at least be professional when leaving.

Answer 3

They say success is the best revenge. But we're looking for a quick fix here. But my first impression was that firstly, you're probably taking things from them that you shouldn't be. That's how it works in all situations. Humans are still animals. So to detour any conflict at an initial conflict you must stand your ground, but being beyond that point right now, it'll be something to keep in mind for the future. This is a workplace, which should be a team effort. The best bet in my opinion, and probably the most professional standpoint as well, I'd call for a meeting, if no meeting then I'd go into their group and ask for a small quick discussion. Tell them how you feel about the situation, and ask them how they'd feel if they were you. If they're the type of people that still wouldn't care and would continue dispite your request, then it's time to start looking for other options. Usually people respect people that are assertive and do not stand for being walked on or wedged into a corner. You may think you're helping a situation by not saying how you think or feel about a situation, but in a workplace it's supposed to be a team effort pushing the company as a whole forward. Let's try to keep things into perspective. There's no way all of them are highered but sit there everyday and do absolutely nothing. They may do some but it must seem quite incompetent to you speaking that they're talking and conversing whilst doing it, perphaps enjoying themselves. You're much more focused on work, and you're not a part of that group, So things seem a lot more dreary and you notice your situation moreso than there's since they're having fun it doesn't look like much work is being done. But in your defense, when you're talking in a group that way you're not being as productive as you could be if you were truly focusing on work first and conversation 2nd. The only resolve I can see is attempting to befriend them. No one cares but the opposing group. The owner wont do much of anything, they're too nonchalant about it. If you can't befriend them, or you can't stand doing it. I'd look for other employment and be as lazy as them at the job. They'll pick on you for not doing enough, because you're not a part of their group, you seem outcasted. So they'll be looking for a reason not to like you. By then it wouldn't matter cause you're already done with the company, you're there for the money. Which is true, there is little loyalty more or less dignity in corporate america, dispite the mission statements most companies have. You have to do what's best for you. Get your friends to help you look for other employment, while you put these techniques into effect at your current job. If things don't get better, you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you'll be taken care of either way.

Answer 4

i can imagine how you dread your job, but if you quit, you are giving them all the satisfaction. I think the best thing you can do (if you're up to it) is stand up for yourself. like someone said before, document all your tasks and activities, and print out all the nasty crap they send you. And TALK BACK, tell them you wont take it and really you dont have to. Even if you do end up quitting, you should still put them in there place, bc they think they have power over you and only YOU can set people like this straight!

Answer 5

stop looking at what others are doing, and just decide that you are gonna do the best job you can, and be proud of that.... you can gripe that the others are lazy and crappy workers, but that just feeds your anger about the situation.... forget them and do a good job, and be proud of yourself..... in the mean time, look for a new job, but know that getting a new job won't fix these problems, slackers are everywhere, and always will be..... but don't quit your job until you have a new one lined up, and hopefully a better paying one..... and who cares if you quitting gives them satisfaction, it will also give them more work.....
just try to be more positive about it, and work on not worrying about the other workers, because believe me slackers are everywhere and will always annoy you until you stop letting them annoy you
oh and i never understood why people think everything is supposed to be fair... your employer is paying YOU to work during the time that they are paying you.... that is all you need to worry about, not about any of the others, and what they are or aren't doing....

Answer 6

Look for other positions with similar salaries if at all possible..make some calls, find some references, etc. Although obviously paying the bills for the family is the top priority, if it makes you miserable going to work everyday, your quality of life is seriously damaged since the workplace is where you spend a lot of your waking hours.

Answer 7

you were looking for a job when you found this one.
i say "don't give them the satisfaction of staying"
but it's never wise to quit beforee you find another one
and after you find another one and you give your two weeks that gives you 2 weeks to get back at them...
suggestions
if you have drop ceilings you can put a fish in the ceiling above the assistant supervisors desk...or you can subscribe to gay porn in her name to be delivered to the office... or you can always pee on her chair... or reorganize her filing system
the options are never ending
but most importantly you have to get another job you spend one third of your day there (one quarter of your life) you cant put up with that for very long befor it will start to affect your health

Answer 8

Are you really going to choose money over your dignity? I suggest finding somewhere else to work, you might not make as much but at least you'll be happy, and probly alot less stressed out. Choosing happiness over being treated unfairly is always better.

Answer 9

Work your way up the chain of command until someone actually gives a damn. Just be sure you don't just say they don't like you and gossip about them (just like they do). You need to keep a log, print out the emails, or something similar so that you can make a legitimate case.

Answer 10

Start to look for another job yesterday.
Then start to ignore then and start to stand up for yourself.
No matter what, don’t let them know they're getting to you.
Don’t let them rob you of your self worth.
Rather see this present place as a grooming groud to where you're going.
Reduce the un-necessary hi's and replace it with bye's…..
Only acknowledge those that are worth it.


Good luck

Answer 11

I suggest you print the e-mails. I also suggest you document EVERYTHING that you do (all assignments, their status, dates/times, etc.) Then, take this to the Human Resources department in your company and file a grievance for harassment.