Do I have a reason to be worried or not?

Question

I know this is long, sorry.

My man and I have many friends of both sexes, however there are two girls that come over to visit way too much. One of them I know for sure wants my man, she always has. They come over in their little short shorts and tiny tops all the time. The other night he told me he was going to his friends house and I found out he "stopped over there". These girls are both very pretty and very easy. The one that likes him hangs on him and touches him in a friendly way while I'm around. I don't want to start any trouble or anything because I think that she can beat me up (she's a real hard ***) I just wonder what is happening if anything. He also has ED (erectile dsyfunction, he can't get it up). Does having ED make it less likely that he would cheat, because he doesn't want our friends to find out about it, you know because girls talk. Or do you think that maybe he can get it up for someone else that's not me. I don't think he would cheat on me, but you never know.

we have been together for five years and have two children.

Answer 1

I would be worried if I were you. I would have a talk with your man and tell him your concerns. If he blows you off, go find another man.

Answer 2

I think what you have just said here that you also let your man know about it.. talk to him and tell him that you are worried.. say that you know that the other girl likes him and that you want him not to be around her too much because it makes you uncomfortable and insecure.. If she continues then the next time she is gonna come over wear ur shorts and ur tiny tshirts and be around ur man =P u r a girl.. show her u can keep ur man and that she worths nothing.. u r the one who got him and u r the one he loves .. tell him that u r a lil worried but tell him that u trust him.. if he had anything in mind then im sure if u r sweet and caring with him he ll change his mind..do something for nice for you two and remind him who u rly are..im sure he loves u just remind him how good u r ;P

Answer 3

Listen,
If your man knows these girls like him AND they have made it obvious they do,then,him going over there and staying there is smelling of trouble.
1)He is rubbing your nose in it
2)this ED sounds like a cop out
Sit him down and firmly tell him you know he stayed there and if he does it again hes out the door and forgotten about.
Never mind this girl is a hard a**,she knows what shes doing and its not very nice of her.
You must tell your man the girls do NOT come round anymore and he is to stay away.
I know you dont own your man but surely for your sake he can understand where you are coming from,especially since you know this girl likes him.
This sounds like its heading its way to your man asking you for a 3some with this girl to correct his ED.
Be very careful in this situation and make sure your man knows exactly how you feel about this situation.

Answer 4

I would be a little worried. Not to get you more worried but i know this man who told his ex-wife that he couldn't get it up anymore and it turned out that he was just lying so he wouldn't have to have sex with her anymore. And then there's the men that just like pleasing women w/o actually having sex with them. I would try and ask your husbands intention with those girls though. And when she touches him in front of you just tell her "get your hands off my husband". And if she tries or beats you up slap a charge on her. Right below the middle of your ribs is the solar plexis. If she comes at you, just land your fist in there. It will knock the air right out of her so you will be able to get away.

Answer 5

Ummm, you shouldn't be worried at all. Women in short shorts and tiny tank tops have no effect on men whatsoever! Easy girls are also a turnoff. So don't worry your pretty little head and get your *** kicked. Also, the blonde question I asked before...nevermind!

Answer 6

i say you protect whats yours(aka your man) from other vulture chicks. Him "stopping over there" to a house that has 2 girls is wrong, maybe hes not screwing them...but he has a girl and he should only be alone with 1 girl you. He might now be a cheater but the oppurtunity probably comes up every time hes alone with them...and about the ED...ya idk, either he has it all the time or he could get it up, all i say it tell him that if he wants to stay with you..hes gotta stop hanging out with those sluts.

Answer 7

U have to trust your judgement. Seems that you have a lot of questions in your mind. Ask yourself, life like that worth your day or not. As for that later question, only you will know. If he is not your man, then do what u think best for urself. And I believe you love him so much. Is all about risks, no right or wrong. Either we take it or leave it.

Answer 8

Before jumping ahead of the problem talk to him. Let him know you just can't deal with the females coming and going. Let him how you feel about him going over to the females houses.. Don't be afraid of these females.. Just because her bark is loud doesn't mean her bite will hurt..

Answer 9

If he really cares for u he would understand that hanging out with these other girls is upsetting to u and he would limit it or stop visiting them alone its one thing when ur there its sneaky when he goes there alone these other ladies should get thier own man

Answer 10

i would tell these girls that he has herpies. say " i just got a pap smear done and he gave me herpies". so what if they talk. only you would know the truth. then i would talk to your man about them. ask him to not go over there because you dont want him to cheat and if he did that you would have to leave him and you dont wanna do that to him because if he did that you would tell everyone he has ED and then you would go online to dontdatehimgirl.com and post him up as a cheater.

good luck.