2006-07-18 06:24:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the parents and the relationship. If your woman likes to be treated like a lady and has old fashion values then I'd say you'd better get to talk to the parents cause she's going to expect you to do the proper thing.
If you guys are already living together there's no real point unless you wish to just be respectful. In this day and age its more or less a thing about respect, nothing more.
2006-07-18 06:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by morrdak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. We don't live in an age where you give the womans father some livestock and land in order to marry his daughter anymore. Those customs are no longer appropriate. And for any women who say that it is still the proper way to do things, ask yourself this, what do you do if daddy says no? Do you listen to daddy? I doubt it. Why don't you listen? Because it's not the 1800s anymore. Because women are free to choose their own destiny nowadays. Isn't that what women fought for? So drop the outdated customs already and let's move on.
2006-07-18 06:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That implies the woman is property - it's up to the woman to decide who she wants to marry, not her daddy or anyone else. It demeans the woman by implying she has no power to decide.
This old tradition goes back to the time when women were considered having fewer rights than men. It's sexist and has been unfortunately portrayed as something romanic-lame!
If you are sure the family approves, you could indicate your intentions if you feel you want to do that. But to ask "permission" no.
2006-07-18 06:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an self sustaining female myself i could be slightly annoyed if my boyfriend asked my dad permission to marry me. My dad is the form of individual who could additionally discover that extraordinary. i'm no longer slightly components. Others could disagree yet i think no person has an exact to grant permission different than for the guy which you rather desire to invite to marry you. i could bypass with the two thoughts 2 or 3. in case you have been to choose for for option 2- ask for the two parents blessing or help extremely than only the daddy. yet i assume the factor is that it somewhat is my opinion in basic terms - your lady chum could produce different concepts thoroughly (and her kinfolk could have distinctive perspectives from my kinfolk too). perhaps you ought to aim the waters- communicate a pair of chum who asked a fathers permission or some thing and notice what her perspectives are. If uncertain- ask for blessing or help extremely than permission.
2016-12-10 09:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship between the father and daughter.... I would have been very very very annoyed had my husband asked my father's permission... at that point I didn't want his "yes" or "no" on anything. .... but my best friend is very close to her father, and was touched when her hubby asked for permission. It depends.....!!
2006-07-18 06:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is a good thing. I mean, yes it seems like old fashion, but when you ask the father, at least you have her parents blessing. So what if she says no?
2006-07-18 06:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that shows respect for the family especially the father.
2006-07-18 06:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary but you will get some major Brownie points from her Dad. Maybe you should talk to him about your intentions and leave the asking for the question you are asking your girl. You will still get the Brownie points and you wont offend your girl.
2006-07-18 06:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the 21st century Your girlfriend is not the property of her father to ask her dad first would be an insult to her. kind of like you and her father arranging her future for her. Most women won't like that. I would have been very angry at my husband if he had gone to my dad first.
2006-07-18 06:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by happy_jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on her family tradition, but if it's just a regular family, I think you have to ask her first, then you both can announce it to the rest of the family.
You two are a couple and I think you're both groun ups, so make your own desicions...
2006-07-18 06:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by bershka_girl25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋