My boyfriend is almost 25 and 6'2" and about 300 lbs. Alot of that is muscle but signifigantly more is fat. He drink about 3 bottles of 24oz Mountain Dew every day (that's like 234 grams of sugar), and he smokes about 1 pack a day. As far as food goes he eats what he wants when he wants as much as he wants. The reason why i am so worried is because I met his dad the other day and my bf is a spiten image of his dad. They look like twins! The difference is that his dad is 50, weighs 400 pounds, is an inch taller, and smokes 5!!!! packs a day, and all he eats, literally, is fast food and little debbie. He is extremely sedentary. Still though, at my bf's age, his dad was lean and healthier and smoked only a pack. The dad's health is so bad, i do not think he will live another five years. When i try to tell my bf, in gently, sincere, caring ways that his health is the most important thing in life, he just doesn't listen. I don't want to be alone someday like his mom might be soon.
2006-07-18 06:22:59 · 31 answers · asked by Elle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get some good life insurance on him!
2006-07-18 06:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... and sadly, it might take losing his father to realize what he's doing to himself. God forbid... but maybe you could try to help him by example, if you're not doing this already. Try to support any effort he makes to quit smoking, and cook him healthy meals (not to say this is your "place" but it may be the only way to ensure his eating habits improve) -- you can always guilt him into eating that rather than something fattening, as you "cooked it for him!". Replace the Mountain Dew at home with diet instead. Ask him to go on walks with you, or find a physical activity he enjoys and participate in it with him. If all else fails, explain to him that you don't want to spend your life with someone who is slowly killing himself. If he doesn't love you -- or himself -- enough to take care of his health, tell him you need to move on. Good luck :)
2006-07-18 06:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be big too - I'm about the same height, 6'2 and used to be about the same weight, I was 287lbs. I never really cared about what I ate, when I ate, or how much I ate, but I went to college...a Military college - they helped kick me into shape, quick. I'm 21 years old now, about to graduate from college and I weigh 224lbs to this day. I never really realized how out of shape and fat I was before I started exercising like crazy and had my meals basically rationed for me. That whole experience made it easy for me. I also don't smoke. Your boyfriend is going to have to wake up and realize HIMSELF that he is living a self destructive life, and he'll have to decide for himself that he wants to change it. That's all it takes, is will power and want. There really is nothing you can do to make him change his mind, he has to make a conscious decision. If he does so, then make sure that you back him up all the way. I wish the best for him, and for you.
2006-07-18 06:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lokii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your man knows the dangers of his eating and smoking habits (most peep doing damage to their health already know it) He is either doing what he wants and not caring about t the consequences or he can not help himself. Unfortunately it will probably take a tragedy for him to see the light. Hang in there as long as you can but there isnt much you can say to him about it that will get through.
2006-07-18 06:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand this. And I know he knows you are concern. He also know the bad side of them. He may think other than eating what else is better than that. Don't be too upset, one day he will understand because god will let him know the signal to stop all these. Too much theory, he may not like it. So just pray hard for him and let him enjoys himself. Nobody will escape the go away part. So take it easy!!
2006-07-18 06:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by apple pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation....Its hard to tell someone how you feel about something like this with out hurting there feelings....my brother is going down the same path....my mom is overweight and her dad was over weight......they eat what they want and they drink too much alcohol....my brother is the same way...once he starts eating its hard for him to stop....he drinks way to much alcohol....my grandpa died of a heart attack from all the bad food he ate and the alcohol he drank.....its hard to break someone of there habits.....if i were you I would start with one first to try to help him out with so your not trying to get him to change all at once.....maybe start with his eating habits.....try to get him to eat healthier......and maybe the two of you can go on walks for exercise.....its really hard to break a smoker of smoking....so i would leave that alone for a bit and once the eating is under control maybe try to make some bets with him.....try to bet him something and reward him every time he cuts down on a few cigg a day......i really hope this works out because i know that being over weight runs in the family......you just have to be there for him and help him through this....let him know how much you care about him and you'll work with him every step of the way...good luck!
2006-07-18 06:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by 1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its clear that you are worried about your boyfriends health and not his appearance so i am sure he wont be offended if you tell him all of this. And i think it is very reasonable for you to be worrying about this. I think the best thing to do is tell him how you feel, and let him know that you care about him so much and need him to be healthy or you guys cant continue a healthy relationship... that may sound bad but if he doesnt care about himself how can he care about you.... sit him down and talk to him!
2006-07-18 06:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by LaurenLovesYou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concern and I understand your boyfriend getting settled in his skin, too. Since you've addressed your concern already, maybe suggest activities incorporating more activity into them: going for walks, bike rides, joining a health club... Does he have any friends he might be motivated to go to a health club with and have fun being pushed by a female personal trainer or something? You can be subtle and gentle in your suggestions. Be supportive. I know it's hard to watch.
2006-07-18 06:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. He doesn't want to listen? MAKE him listen.
If you plan on spending your life with this guy, it's time for some serious action. Honestly, you cannot stay with him is he keeps on being that way. You'll have countless of arguments on his eating habits, and possibly even hospital bills to pay for if something bad were to happen to his heart (God forbid).
Sit him down right now. Make him listen to you and let him know you care.
2006-07-18 06:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by blocupables 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water but u cant make him drink. He obviously likes Mt Dew. The best thing you can do is let him know how you feel and then drop it. It's not fun watching someone kill themselves. It like someone on drugs, u see them deteriorate but can't stop them. Dont say anything gently, be firm but sensitive. Let him know that he could die and then its his choice from there.
2006-07-18 06:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by sami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno u want him 2 do rite but if u keep pressn him he'll shut down.
Try 2 talk 2 him about what he's doin and how u feel & then see if he's willn 2 take steps w/ u. Anything u can do w/ him u'll do. If he still doesn't stop then leave him alone and let him b him, even if it is dangerous for him. His choice
2006-07-18 06:27:54 · answer #11 · answered by brooklynkimep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋