so i have 2 friends but nither of them like my cousin(f.y.i we go to church 2 gether)and they are always talking about her.and i'm in the midle cuz one of my friends is REALY nice but they don't want me talking to my cousin. and well my cousin is my cuzin i've known her 4everr.what should i do you guys!!!!?????
2006-07-18 06:09:24 · 10 answers · asked by Fishaay™ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lol..this doesn't sound much like church huh? haha.. i grew up in churches like that it was like high school, all these cliques, etc. if your friend was REALLy nice, she wouldn't stop u from talking to ANYONE. that's an indicator that she is manipulative, and possibly controlling when it comes to her friends. don't let anyone get in the way of what YOU think is right. if ur cousin is a good person and you like her, take care of her. if your friends are good people they will follow suit...and if not, no i'm sorry to say but they're not ur good friend.
i had a friend like that in elementary school..she was "nice", but she told me and this other girl that we CANNOT hang out with annnyone else during recess. she was just controlling!! eventually the other girl stopped being her friend and went off, and i stayed w/ the controlling girl cuz she was crying..but that's because I was sorry for her and was being a good friend TO HER. she was not being a good friend TO US. do what you feel is right, and make sure u are proud of all your actions. if u stop talking to ur cousin and feel guilty, then u won't be able to be proud of yourself. if u talked to ur cousin and that girl made u feel bad, SHE can't be proud of herself, but that has nothing to do with what you felt was right.
2006-07-18 06:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with most, about siding with your cousin. If your cousin hasn't done anything bad to you, and you have no issues with her then those problems of your friends is exactly that. You should talk to your friends about how it makes you feel and they should respect that, you don't have to hang with each other I mean your friends and cousin together. I think it would turn me off from my friends if they didn't respect my family, or made it a big deal not to like them.
2006-07-18 07:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by rene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 07:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your so called friends to go away and get out of your life.
Who the hell do they think they are talking about your family like that,and should know better than to sit and listen to them talking about your cousin.
Tell them to get a life and bugger off,
pair of cheeky swines.
2006-07-18 06:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are really your friends then they would respect the fact that your cousin is famly. And if they are truly your friends then you will be able to sit down and talk to them about that.
2006-07-18 06:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by bunches999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is to tell them....They dont have to like her or even love her....But they will respect her you and everybody around you guys......They have no right telling you who and when you can hang out with....It makes no since....Ask them how they would feel if you talked about their cuz in such a bad way...It s not right.....They are not really your true friends it sounds like....But you make your choice and pray nothing goes bad.....GOOD LUCK
2006-07-18 06:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water - any friend that spoke ill of a family member is hardly a friend, never mind a "nice" person.
2006-07-18 06:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why they forbid u to talk w ur cousin?? if they dont have strong reason, they are not friend
2006-07-18 06:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by d_profesor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never dis your famialy 4 friendz. famialy it last 4-ever but friends they come and go. c if there your true friend they'd understand that u cant b dicin ur famialy.
2006-07-18 06:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that your cousin mean a lot to you and then your on your own
2006-07-18 11:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋