Why do men seem to be so direct and woman dont??

Question

And how the hell do they do two things at once when we cant????

Answer 1

Because girls are taught to be polite and ladylike and not to hurt anyone's feelings. Which is why a lot of us turn into scathing bitches later in life... too many repressed emotions... and others don't wait until later... have you ever heard a pack of snarky little girls ripping into a girl they don't like?! Women tend to blame men for their body image issues, eating disorders and the like... NOPE!... We do it to each other!

But men are mostly direct with each other. You'll let a woman walk around for hours with spinach in her teeth, or raccoon eyes from migrating mascara for hours without saying a word. Probably comes from dodging that "do I look fat?" question. *L* Self preservation, no doubt.

I'm sure there is a scientific explanation for the multi-tasking ability... or maybe it's not nature, it's nurture... we do it all because we must.

Answer 2

women are trained from day 1 to be polite and not to express their desires. that's why your mum might have complained about cleaning up after you but never stopped doing it.

men on the other hand are told it's good to be forceful, to show your manliness and to go after what you want. women are trained to be good wives and mothers, men are trained to be the providers, no matter what the cost.

modern women are a lot more direct, ambitious and sometimes ruthless than our mums or grandmothers, but a woman who's direct and speaks her mind, even if people don't like what she says, is more likely to be called a hard b*tch than to be respected for being direct. it's an unfortunate double standard.

that's why a girl will almost never tell you 'sorry, i'm just not interested in you'. she'll take your number and then never call or something, but she'll very rarely say no - she's had it ingrained that she has to be nice to men and look after their egos.

as for the multi tasking .... did you ever see your mum cooking dinner, doing the ironing and talking on the phone at the same time?? now that's a skill worth picking up while the little boys are crashing trucks into each other going vroom vroom ;)

Answer 3

Your two questions are related. In response to your first question, women tend to be more naturally relational than men. This is just a (well-recognized) generalization, and there are plenty of exceptions. However, women may find a more politically savvy means to accomplish the same end. This is why I wish there were more women involved in politics. On the other hand, women can be too careful/indirect to the point that men don't know what women are trying to communicate. My own marriage has been an ongoing lesson on how I can be more diplomatic in what I say.

In response to your second question, it's already been answered well. Neurologists have found that more areas of women's brains can interconnect at one time than men's brains can. I suppose it's just a matter of opinion as to which type of brain activity is better overall--the focused or the complex.

Answer 4

1.) Men seem to be so direct because they seldom consider "feeling", but women do. Most of the time, women are more careful in expressing thing. They try to avoid words that can offend others' feeling.
2.) Men just pick out the main ideas, but women care for the details.

*) I think some men can do two or more things at once, can't they?

Answer 5

1) Women are far more emotionally expresive than men. For this reason, they are often reluctant to speak anything that will offend the listeners.

2) Women are not better at multi-tasking than men. This is a feministic theory. Though there are scientists that support such a theory, one must remember that scientists can be just as politically influenced as anyone else.

However, men are a bit more organized. Though we could do two things at once, men preffer to properly finish one task before even attempting to complete another. Unless it's necessary to do both at once.

Think about it, would you rather have a mechanic that tries to fix all the problems with your car at once, or one that takes the time to fix each individually and properly?

Answer 6

I think women are born with the propensity to multi task. At the evolutionary level, we need to protect the offspirng, get food to the offspring, and make sure the offspring are learning things they need to know. Its a busy world. we are just keeping up. As for your question about directness? I think some women have been raised to be passive. Some women also have a bitchy passive agressive thing going on ~ even if they dont admit it. Directness is often a learned skill that some women never get. BUT I am and know a lot of direct, clear and highly functional women also.

Answer 7

Women and men are simply not wired the same.

Men are simple. So simple, in fact, that women can't slow their brains down enough to comprehend us. They communicate through body language, which to a guy is about as difficult as telepathy. Men are more direct because their primary form of communication is verbal. Additionally, most women have significantly more interconnecting synapses in their brains than men, which allows them to process certain parts of their surroundings better, and allows them to multitask in ways that boggle the feeble male brain. They are constantly thinking and evaluating, endlessly.

On the downside, the common thread among women is they are preoccupied with portraying a sanity that just isn't there. They can't turn their brains off. Being a guy, I'm sure you know what peace and quiet feels like... you know, having absolutely nothing going through your brain aside from the involuntary underworkings that keep us alive and metabolizing. Most women have never experienced that. They are constantly self-conscious. They are constantly thinking of everything and the infinite possible scenarios that could happen to them in the next 5 years. It is a blessing, and a curse.

Answer 8

I answered this question while trying to juggle knives and blow my nose at the same time and needless to say, I'm glad I had the tissue to help me keep some pressure on the wounds until I was done typing the answer to this EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT question! Men can be so direct, because they like cheating and lying and using love to get sex... As far as why you cant juggle knives and blow your noses at the same time. It is probably because you are always trying to be direct... So just please, get it over with already and watch you don't stab yourself in the head!

We wouldn't want to see that happen....


And yes... I am aware that all men don't cheat and lie and sleep around... I said that to prove an indirect point. It is called sarcasm Can women do that?

Answer 9

I suspect these differences date back to pre-historic times...

Men's and women's roles have not always been quite so fluid, interchangable.

Back in the day,...
Men go to work- office, field, mammoth-hunting trip with the guys, whatever. These tasks needed direct communication- being wishy-washy could get you killed when you're hunting saber-tooth tigers!! They needed to be able to focus on the task at hand, so the men who were able to do that better, probably got more mammoths, were able to feed their families better, passing on their concentrating genes on to their sons.

Women were at home- Walnut street, 3rd cave on the left, whatever. They had to keep tabs on the kids, keep the rack-o-mammoth from burning, make sure the nice tunic got mended for the party, and remember where that nice patch of berries was last summer. Their communication was more of the building-friendships type- be kind to people's feelings. Directness isn't always the best way. If a woman was particularly good at multi-tasking, she would be able to attract a better mate who could feed more children, and she would be able to pass her multi-tasking gene on to her daughers.

Answer 10

Men were always the people who fought the wars, directed politics and all the big stuff in the past, women were suppossed to be home-makers right? but have you noticed that in history women would turn sly and start figuring out ways of making men turn things the way they want them to? I guess the point of all of this that that's just the way the genders seemed to be, the men were the open and 'let's seddle this outside, now" while the women were sneeky and seddle things in their own way. It's just the way it is.