Don't want to leave marriage/family, but I desire the other woman badly, not just for sex, but for a relationship. Please help me, I am really confused.
2006-07-18 05:43:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off if your happily married then you should not be in love with anyone else. How long have you been married and how many years have you known your wife. Would you like the feeling that your wife is in love with another person? You say its not just for sex so have you already cheated on your wife? The marriage is not over like the other person suggested its you putting yourself in a situation that shouldn't be. You should answer these question for your self-Do you honestly love your wife? Are you willing to deal with the pain that your going to cause yourself and her when she finds out? If you have kids (if they are of age to understand) how do you think they are going to view you as a father if they find out?
There are alot of problems that can come from this situation and if you could answer these and send me back a message then I can give you more advise because. My father had this same situation and I found out about it before my mother did.
2006-07-18 05:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by newmother 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only you can decide what you want, but be honest and true and don't be deceiptful to whomever you choose as you will not only ruin respect from them, but for yourself.
You say you are "happily married" but if that were true, you would not be "desiring" another women, would you? What about the new woman attracts you? Could your/did your wife provide that to you in the past? Could you talk to your wife so she fulfils your needs so you won't look eslewhere? Only you can answer that, but first, you must talk, really TALK, to you wife. Along the way she may have been so overwhelmed with the kids and need YOUR help that she forgot that you have needs too.
As you are lusting after another woman, you have nothing to lose by trying to make it worth with you wife first...you might be very pleasantly surprized if you try to make her feel as special as you would the woman you are lusting after!
2006-07-18 05:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask yourself if it is worth doing anything that would cause you to loose your children and family.
Have a talk with your wife and let her know that there are problems between the two of you. Maybe you can get into counselling or something... just remember there was once a time that you loved your wife and desired her just the same as you do this other woman...who is to say the same thing won't happen again???
2006-07-18 05:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by ksgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you get some great answers because this has happened to me and I am wondering about the future also. But, I prefer to be with my girlfriend since I am happiest with her and generally unhappy with my wife for numerous reasons. Either end the relationship with the girlfriend now before you fall in love or be prepared to deal with the emotions involved in breaking up with one of two people you love - I am in love with my girlfriend and not so much my wife. Like me, you need to make a choice, and that choice should be what will make you the happiest considering all the issues.
2006-07-18 05:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Harold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should end the relationship and ask your wife to forgive you. not just for sex is a cop out! you have children and you are a father act like one. if your marriage is to the point of utter breakdown and your all suffering then get out .but starting a relationship like this if you have a stable marriage and great family unit, then it is wrong. you are putting your needs and desires ahead of your family and that is wrong. you have already crossed the line in the sand . get back with your family and ask for their forgiveness right now!.
2006-07-18 06:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave your family.
You're no good for them.
You are NOT a happily married man if you want "the other woman badly", period! If you are a real man, you'll do what's right and leave BEFORE you start this new relationship.
Also, if either you or this other woman think you'll be true to her for very long- you're both wrong.
2006-07-18 05:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by grandmastacos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am puzzled how can a happily married man , fell in love with another woman. I though usually only an unhappy married man will look for someone who can make them happy ????
Anyway , never, never jeopardized your own happy marriage by indulging yourself in adultery.
2006-07-18 05:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happily married and I fell in love with another is an impossible situation. If you are sooo happily married, you would not have strayed long enough to fall in love with someone else.
You are a typical cheating husband with no excuse for your behavior.
2006-07-18 05:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better have a talk with the wife before making any other moves. Sounds like the marriage is over.
2006-07-18 05:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not **** up your great life for something that may not even be what you want.
This is normal to get these feelings , but you must realize that your mind is playing tricks on you.
Seldom does a man find happiness following his desires.
Use your desires to fuel the passion for your wife.
It is ok to create an appetite outside of your home , but you must always eat from your kitchen if you want to be truly happy.
2006-07-18 05:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Matty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋