when i first came out and told my family i had this friend that i used to talk to who lives on the east coast i met him when he didnt accept me to be his friend on Yahoo360, he e- mailed me saying he only befriended people he knew. so i got to know him and he became one of my best friends! after i came out he doesnt talk to me like he used too he only talks to me if i start the convo, i kno he went thru a bad break up a few months ago, but for some reason he's ignoring me! i miss him, does anyone know how to fix a broken friendship that you dont know what went wrong!!! im just so confused!
2006-07-18 05:39:58 · 6 answers · asked by kaikai 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
maybe ur right, he might not be the person that i thought he was!!! but i was like the brother that i always wanted!! UGH.... depression
2006-07-18 05:49:32 · update #1
well, i know him form online but i have talked to him on the from for hours at a time!!!! we were reallly good friends!!!!
2006-07-18 06:12:14 · update #2
that makes me feel uncomfortable thinking that he wanted more then a friendship, but i guess he prbly was thinking that very same thing!!!!
2006-07-18 06:18:09 · update #3
You know if he is not interested in a friendship with you because you have come out then he is not really your friend because he doesn't want to know the real you. I would think it best to just move on. But going through a break up is tough and he may be withdrawing form all his contacts. I have had this happen where the person you are friends with gets busy with living trying to put a life back together or just day to day stress and seem to be genuinely happy to hear from me but never contact me and I end up being the one sustaining the friendship by myself. It is at that point when you have to ask yourself is it a temporary situation or is it likely to continue. if it is temporary and you know that eventually you will be as close as you used to be then it might be worth it to continue to maintain contact. If it is a more or less long term situation then you really should probably move on.
2006-07-18 06:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So you know him from online only? Send him an email, saying that you hope he's going well and you're thinking about him. From what you've written here, he could have ignored you because he found out that you were gay, or because he has taken the divorce really hard..in which case, he's probably ignoring everybody. Just write and let him know that you're there for him if he wants to chat. After his divorce he might be too busy in the real world to focus on the net. But if you can get a letter to him, that would be the best way. Instant messaging doesnt seem to be working in this situation.
2006-07-18 05:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by kenshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently in the beginning he was thinking relationship when you were thinking friendship/brother...???? His post announcement behavior seems to be, I don't really want anything to do with you. The best way to get through this is to confront him as much as you can on what you want. If the air isn't clear on what you both are wanting you will be kept in the dark. And you need to be honest with yourself as to how much "I really do care". To get over somebody you sometimes need to push things to the extreme to test the relationship.
2006-07-18 06:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by anitahooker_transvestite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to him about it it's over. It takes at least 1 other person to have a friendship. Sorry, maybe he wasn't the person you thought he was so you haven't really lost anything.
2006-07-18 05:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not worth your time and effort
2006-07-18 06:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not into you.
2006-07-18 05:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋