PLEASE can U HALP ME!!!!!?

Question

I got marriage an year back, my wife lost desire every time we go to bed. i never enjoy her, i got a doctor, she exemine her and note, "no problems", i think to devorce her.

Answer 1

Maybe you are a selfish lover and it ain't worth her time.Or
Maybe she is tired.You can try cooking and cleaning for her sometimes so she wont be so worn out.

Answer 2

Well I read your question carefully and its all about you you you and the wife is like a work horse that you took to the vet to find out why he is not doing his 'work' and the vet said the horse is ok. Well Mr. Green I get the feeling somehow this could have been one of those arranged marriages or your wife is in one of those countries where she does everything. WAKE UP! because I get the feeling you are now living in America. Marriage is not a free ticket for sex. There are other things that are just as important. Something is wrong with the poor woman, she could be tired from running around for you all day and washing your feet at the end of it all. Then you expect her to turn into a starving ho.. Like the other answerers suggested you need to treat this lady with respect and give her 'real' and not pretended affection. Make her feel special with the loving things you can do for her and she will do for you in return and stop being a slavemaster!
if you cant do that then do her a favour and divorce her.

Answer 3

Be patient, women are designed to be able to enjoy intimacy...but also, women are designed to take a little longer to get turned on. Ultimately, There has to be some reason why she's lost her desires in the bedroom. Could be physically painful, could have bad experiences in the past haunting her, could be medication, could be low self esteem with her body, could be that she just hasn't been able to enjoy herself as much as you have...the point is, I don't know what the reason is, and it sounds like neither do you. Don't go searching for a divorce without even trying to find the reason for this first. Chances are the cause is simple, and can be overcome with some patience, love, and understanding from you.

Answer 4

There are many psychological conditions which can result in a loss of sex-drive without any physical symptoms. Your wife may be suffering from depression. I understand your frustrations - but your lack of understanding and patience could be making the problem worse.
Stop pressuring her and appreciate her, be loving towards her without expecting anything (over time this can make a big difference - the secret is to keep at this technique even when it gets hard)
Most importantly talk to her about it, if anyone knows what the problem is it will be her. Be understanding and listen to her fears and problems without trying to solve them or disrespecting them, even if they seem silly & petty to you they are obviuosly hurting her deeply.
Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Marriage is about GIVING, so as long as your doing your part, she shouldn't CONTROL the sex life with SELFISH behavior.

Their are times I'm not in the mood and my wife is, I still take care of her because I love her. Seriously 15-minutes at the end of a day is not a whole lot to ask.

If you are doing your part, working, treating her nice, and she don't have time for you. DUMP HER CAUSE That's a SELFISH pig.

Answer 6

Sex should not be a reason to divorce anyone. What is going on in her life? Has she had a baby, is she suffering from depression, relationship or career issues, what kind of medication is she on? All of these things can effect desire. Also, What are you doing? It is possible that something you are doing is effecting how she feels. Evaluate yourself. If none of these things are effecting her then you might want to consider couples counseling or sex therapy.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but you speak about your wife as if she's an animal. YOU got her a doctor who confirmed your wife's body is normal? What kind of husband are you? Why don't you talk to her - earn her affection? or would you rather just throw her aside and let whatever will happen happen to her from then on?

Answer 8

Come on .I dont think you are being fair.She is your wife. Just because she lost the desire to have sex u want to leave her. So it means that you married her so that she can be your sex machine. Be a better husband. Im married exactly 1 yr this weekand sometime u are not up to it. but you say that she is never up to it. Maybe its your approach. Try new things.Oral may be nicer.

Answer 9

I think you need to ask your wife what the underlying problem is.

Women often go off sex as a form of punishment to their partners. I know I done this to one of my ex's. Maybe you've upset her, not helping around the home or she's just too tired.

Ask her to be honest, talk and hopefully you'll be able to work it out and get back to bedroom activity.

Good luck.....x

Answer 10

Most every woman relates emotional ties to bedroom calming.If she feels appreciated & respected outside the bedroom,she will probably be more eager to show it in private time.
Work on yourself,not trying to change or alter her.If you react differently to situations,the other person will naturally do the same w/o even noticing a big change has been accomplished.Do you show her that she is worth anything more than just a hole in the wall??Think about it...

Answer 11

so your going to divorce your wife cause she doesnt' want to have sex with you. that's kinda shallow what ever happened till death to we part. But if she's not excited then maybe you should try to excite her give her some foreplay or you should try to hug her and kiss her all through out the day. I mean she needs something to go on. YOu can't just try to be sticking it in her all the time.