My wife and I have been having problems lately (see previous questions). Well recently things have gotten better. We're now sleeping in the same bedroom again, back to laying next to each other when we watch tv. She still doesn't reciprocate a whole lot with the kisses or the holding of the hands and it's going on close to three months now without sex. Recently we had a conversation about our current status and she said she didn't see this having a positive outcome and she didn't want me reading into anything and that she can't just quit me cold turkey so that's why all these little things have happened yet at the end of the conversation she said she's not a cold person and excuse her for being unsure. Then the following day on our way to work she said I have to stop taking every little sign of rejection as if it's always going to be this way, that i need to stop thinking things won't get better and she just needs me to relax. So I'm confused. Is she trying to figure things out?
2006-07-18 05:16:41 · 10 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe it or not it is common with women, There gets to be a point where the just dont want intimacy. Dont take it personal. But it needs to be addressed. There is medication for woman, seek some help, matters will only get worse, and I'm sure she would rather be the loving wife she once was. It happens to me it just gets worse and it eats you up inside but you tend to blame the spouse, dont give up just get some help asap.
2006-07-18 05:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by ms.mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I'm not sure of the ages, but it's similar to a mid-age crisis. Learning to accept the responsibilities of a family. A lot of people have a hard time adjusting to that. I was having similar problems with my partner of 2 years. we have a 9 month old daughter and he had been distant for the past 4 months. it started affecting me, so I let him go. he lives on his own and I live with the kids. Our separateness actually helped the relationship because he realizes that he misses the family and I. But I need more than that. Because it took me to kick you out for you to realize it. So I would suggest some time apart, no communication with each other for a week, and then take an afternoon to talk.
2006-07-18 05:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what is going on:
You're super insecure about things right now. That is not attractive.
Whatever thoughts she had about reconciling is getting blown out the window with your insecurity. No one wants to be with a needy insecure person - it is the biggest turnoff. It sounds like she already wasn't into the relationship, but add to that insecurity, and it cements the lovelessness.
It's a downward spiral. You annoy her with your talk and comments...and she frustrated you with her distancing herself.
What you NEED to do is go start working out, and getting an outside hobby that gives you a life instead of her. This will turn her head and she'll be like "hey...he's got a life now...and I'm missing out." She might stay...or become more attracted - BUT you HAVE to stop being needy.
IF she doesn't - it is not meant to be
2006-07-18 05:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just listening to what's in your head, rather than listening to HER. Women can be very subtle in giving signs. I would jog by memory lane and look at the things you might and should have done differently. It seems that she is very dissatisfied with certain things, but you need to find out what those things are. Try to make her happy by doing little things, flowers always work. Take her out to a nice dinner. Have a heart to heart talk with her, and instead of figuring out how to solve 'the problem,' just listen to her and ask her what she thinks is missing. Let her know that men can be insensitive and unless she says things outright, you might never find out what the root of her dissatisfaction is.
And hey, intimacy comes and goes. What matters is you love each other and you're willing to work through your problems. Good luck to you. I hope things work out.
2006-07-18 05:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to ask her what she want and that you do anything for her and she will or might tell you and if not... but do you and your wife have no plm with other things??? if not then I don't know what to tell you and I guess you need to spy on her where she is going and take a 1 week vacation and act like you going to work and follow her where ever she going and find out nothing and then I guess you need to know that i guess she don't like it and I guess she playing game about best sex on honey moon. so sorry about that bro.
2006-07-18 05:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to let you down easy. Probably she already has someone else, that's why there is no sex.But she doesn't want to hurt you. Hire a detective to catch her cheating, that way when you guys go to divorce court she can't clean you out. Sorry to be so blunt, just being real.
2006-07-18 05:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy a million is the daddy of guy 2. Take first component of riddle and final section and distill it right down to the certainty he's speaking approximately himself. for this reason, the riddle then reads, "....that guy's father is me."
2016-10-08 01:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's trying to lead you on until something better comes along. Respect yourself and set her free.
2006-07-18 05:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She's flip flopping back and forth. As a woman, I would suggest to you to be prepaired.
2006-07-18 05:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU TWO NEED MARRIAGE COUNSELING NOW
It is the only way to break through the confusion!!
2006-07-18 05:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋