We are friends for a long time. Our relation is never getting well. I ALWAYS try to uderstand her as my intimate friend..In spite of her cruel behaviour, I take care of her all the time....PLEASE note that I'm a girl too
2006-07-18 05:05:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why are you doing that ! go with someone nice with you and work on your self as you might have a problem with your confidence thinking thats all you deserve a friend like that.... well this is no good you must know your value and that no one is allowed to treat you that way....
Go on look at you in the mirror and say enough is enough - from now on i will be respected !
Good luck
2006-07-18 05:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Speak your mind in a calm and reasonable way. Model the communication methods you'd like to see in this person. In time, maybe she'll respond.
When you say you take care of her all the time, do you mean "putting out fires" after she's been selfish and hypocritical, or are you her caretaker due to an illness or disability? If you aren't bound to be her caretaker by employment or family connections, then why do you take care of her? No matter what, you don't deserve to be treated cruelly. Maybe it's time to move on, at least for a while.
2006-07-18 05:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by dukefan86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how do you said she is your friend if you think she is selfish and hypocrite person, maybe you feel sorry about her condition, but that's not called friendship...anyway congratulations for take care of her and think that you're her friend even when you know how bad she is, you should be a very nice person.
If you want to communicate with a person like that first of all you should show her some of her own medicine then she'll understand what about her behavior is wrong, try to don't make everything she said just be a little bad to her then she'll take your friendship more serious.
2006-07-18 05:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Houston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for you to stop picking up the slack for your "friend". If you've gone this long and she still doesn't value you as a friend, she is no friend. This girl is toxic and you don't need toxic people in your life.
The only advice I can give you if still want to spend time with this person is to be assertive. Remember where she came from. If she is cruel, it probably wasn't a happy place, but that doesn't mean she can make your world an unhappy place.
2006-07-18 05:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just can't communicate with a person like that. She will "NOT GET IT."
On the other hand, have you tried to sit down and speak with her about this situation. Maybe she's not aware that she's even being that way.
If you've done the best you can and are not getting results, distance yourself from her. Don't just turn your back on her though without saying something. That would really hurt her.
She doesn't have the right to mis-treat you though.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 05:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question to you would be "why would you want to?" you say you never get along well, she has cruel behavior, she is selfish and she is a hypocrite. just because you have known her for a long time is not a reason to stay friends. other than time, what keeps you connected to her? i would suggest trying to develop other frienships. there's a whole world out there of wonderful, caring and interesting people. enlarge your circle, get involved and make new friends. you have a big heart and deserve better than this. bless you.
2006-07-18 05:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by sunnyca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant get through to someone who doesn't want to hear what you have to say. If shes like you say then you should probably end the friendship with her. Tell her you just can no longer hang out with someone who _________and point out the things shes doing that makes her look selfish and hypocritical. Either she will realize what shes doing and work on it or she will tell you to get lost and then you will know she was never a good friend to start with.
2006-07-18 05:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know someone for a long time,it's natural to tolerate
behavior from that person that you wouldn't tolerate from someone you haven't known as long. It's not always good,though,
and sometimes even old friends have to be told where the line is.
Maybe you should try talking openly to your friend about this problem. If she doesn't listen to you,then consider changing the terms of your relationship-or maybe even ending it.
2006-07-18 05:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be as close as you are now. Move on and make other friends. When or if she asks what's going on, just tell her you don't want to be around her as much anymore since she became the way she is now. Be nice about it though. You shouldn't be around that because whether you realize it or not, she will influence you and maybe change you for the worse.
2006-07-18 05:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really consider backing away from this "friend". I know, from my own experience, how hard it is to sever ties with someone you've known so long but this person sounds pretty toxic and that's not something you want to spend your precious time and energy on.
Stop "taking care" of people who do not do the same for you, spend your timewith people who make you feel good about them and about yourself. Good luck, Darlin'.
2006-07-18 05:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋