As much as I didnt want to do this, my husband has proven to me that my marriage is done. (I can't work in it for the both of us anymore) So, here is my question. Do I slowly hurt him and just start lieing to him and be a total b*itch to him or just let him go?
2006-07-18 05:01:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean to edit this instead of hit submit, I mean slowly hurt him as badly as he has done to me the past year or so. He has put me through so much pain and teary nights, Should he know the pain I have known for so long? Or just be the bigger person and kick him to the curb??
2006-07-18 05:02:54 · update #1
We have gone to many marriage counselors, he sounds WONDERFUL there! I wish that same man was the one I took home with me. He says one thing and does just the opposite.
2006-07-18 05:11:13 · update #2
Honey take it from a woman who has been in Ur shoes.
WALK AWAY.......
Just walk away, he will eventually hang himself...(not literally)
But I did the same with my ex-husband, and he's the most bitter and miserable human being on the face of the earth. He WANTED this other woman, so I let him have her. Now he's married to her and so unhappy he's still trying to get me back.
All I do is laugh at him. One thing U should remember and it's a proven fact, if U treat people like **** long enough, it WILL come back to bite U in the ***. So sit back and watch his world fall apart. And it will, it may not happen right away, but before long it will and besides U maybe blissfully happy with someone else by then and may not even notice.
Just get out and start a new life for URSELF.
U deserve better.
2006-07-18 05:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you would benefit most if you just left quietly. With or without him knowing. I'm speaking from experience. I tried. Believe me, I tried SO HARD to keep everything, my husband, my marriage, my life!! In the end, I just realized that I had went as far as I could in that marriage. I told him that I wouldn't take his actions towards me forever. One of these days he'd come home and I'd be gone. And one afternoon. after bawling my eyes out for 3 hrs wondering what I did,etc. I cashed my last check and booked me a flight out of New Mexico. I did it. I left. quietly. and imagine this, he and his little princess did not last long at all. He and the kids came flying all the way up to Montana and he asked my to come back. Well, It was not easy for him. He had alot of explaining to do and I did not leave Montana until I was ready to leave and take another chance with him. Well, it's going on our 2nd year since all that has happened and we are doing pretty good actually. Take a chance, I was exactly where you are right now and I know how you are feeling hun. Don't lower yourself and be just like him. The best revenge is not seeking revenge at all and looking good while leaving!!!
2006-07-18 12:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by tara l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be the Bi**chest you can be and becasue he telling marriage coulsing different story than going home different.... so I think you should be the bit**est and then let him have hard time to deal with you and if you share the money one bank get your money and put diffent bank.... and you tell him ok i pay 1/2 rent bills and food and you need to do the same thing. That will be it and If you don't like it that fine... If I were you get my lawyer first and find out and then pay back and do what you need to do and tell him to make his own food and do his own clothes and other stuff.
He will think divorced will be the fast and easy but you got the lawyer ahead of him to make sure that he will pay you money and making sure that he will take care all the bills not you and stuff and if he said want divorce you have the paper ready and give it to him and boom he is screwwwweeeedddd!
2006-07-18 13:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself on his level. It won't do you any good. It will hurt you more and in the end leave you with guilty feelings for becoming somebody you are not. It will make you a bitter person. Don't allow this to happen to you. If your marriage has brought you only unhappiness and pain and there's nothing to solve it just tell him that it's over and that it's time that you move on with your life and start all over again taking responsibility for your own life and future without him.
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-18 12:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by aysha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb, but kick him hard. Revenge does make you feel good for awhile, but it doesn't last. Make a happy life for yourself, and that will be the best revenge. Please think before you act, because it might just come back and bite you in the butt. So, he ain't worth the effort, spend that time and energy on you. He does not need anything else from but the divorce papers, and hopefully you can clean his bank accountant out. That's how you get revenge--take him for what he thinks he is worth. Then you go out and find somebody who wants your life. Who is going to treat you with respect and kindness, and proves to you that you are the most important thing in his life. Please don't give him the satisfication of thinking he is making your life miserable. God bless...
2006-07-18 12:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is to hold him close not meaning to stay with him. Leave him now, but show him how happy you and the kids are without him. Keep the peace that will bother him more than you hurting him, you see when you hurt someone they have the right to be upset with you. Don't give him the satisfaction of being able to be mad give him no reason at all. You hurt your enemy with kindness. Always keep your kids first and think about their feelings.
2006-07-18 12:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not the answer, especially if you want to prove that you are a better person. Are you sure there is no way of fixing it? There is no way you two can sit and talk about what's wrong like adults? Is there absolutely no way you can forgive him? Pray about it and see if the answer come to your mind, if you still feel that you can't be with him anymore, then don't be with him anymore. But revenge is not the answer. Not only would you prove that you are not better than him, but quite possibly worse.
2006-07-18 12:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take the higher road in this situation. Of course you want for him to feel the same pain that you have, but in reality the action of cutting him out of your life so quickly and easily (or at least if it seems this way to him) will hurt him just as much without allowing him to feel as angry with you. The best revenge is living well.
2006-07-18 12:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out, act like your happy to be doing it, if he asks if theres someone else, shrug your shoulders, smile, wink & send him on his way. The best revenge would be withholding any feelings you have left for him. If he calls crying to come home, yawn in the middle of his plea. Then when you feel good about it, move on & be happy. Thats the best revenge without doing something wrong.
2006-07-18 12:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you and your husband are the parents of the 4? then you are going to ahve to let him be a part of your life until the last one leaves home......do you want to go through all the hell for so long for being the vengeful bit*h? that is what you must consider.....thsi war could go on for a long time.....if I were you, I would jsut tell him to go, and kick him out of the house....right after you file for divorce. Yes, do it first, if you can....good luck
2006-07-18 12:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋