2006-07-18 04:58:17 · 13 answers · asked by Lisa K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
no
2006-07-18 05:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship....is he a father to the girl? How long have you been broken up? Did he always take your daughter places even when you were broken up? How much will it bother your daughter to be disallowed to see him? Are you doing this to lash out at him or to protect your daughter? Has the woman given any indication of harm to the child? Have you met the woman? Are you putting the well-being of your daughter first in the situation or your own feelings about the situation?
Put your daughter and her needs first. If this man is her predominant father figure, you may want to think about this. She's already losing in the long run because a) she's female, b) she is fatherless, c) there is another man that was in the picture as a father figure, whether he was good or not, and is not anymore. What is she losing? her chance to be everything you would want for her. Do you want her to get pregnant at 16? Not graduate from High School? Marry or shack up with a loser, wife-beater or criminal? Sure, you can sugar coat it, but these are the statistics, and they're not in her favor.
Think about this long and hard before you decide.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-18 05:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by gg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything.
I think it depends on how old your daughter is and what the relationship between your daughter and your ex is now, and what you envision that relationship to be in the future.
If your daughter is young, it may be too confusing, and I would say no. Cut it off and everyone move on.
But if she is old enough recognize and understand the situation, then she may benefit from having him as a male figure in her life.
Bottom line...every one, including you and Mr X, need to be mature enough to not use your daughter as a pawn or tool in this situation. Emotions are involved and can skew rational behavior, and if our daughter is brought into an unhealthy situation, she will end up paying the biggest price.
However it seems that the kicker here is your daughter being around his new girlfriend...you have to answer how you can handle that. You can't put your daugter in the position of "spying." And you can't bad mouth the new girl in front of your daughter.
The adults here have to set the proper environment.
2006-07-18 05:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by jayh1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. He has no legal right to visitation. The question is, do you want to? I would guess not, or you wouldn't be asking here. It's usually better to have a clean break with an ex-boyfriend. No, you really can't 'just be friends', that never works.
2006-07-18 05:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by oklatom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to. How old is your daughter? Does she want to? Were you two together long enough for them to have a real connection? All that aside, it's still your decision, but don't be ruled by bitterness and revenge, but what is best for you and your child.
2006-07-18 05:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way----He has no rights to her if he is not the father. If you still allow them to spent time together, you get to set the rules
2006-07-18 05:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should leave it up to your daughter...
Otherwise... trust your heart.... live and be free... let Jesus do the work for you and PRAY
2006-07-18 05:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he is not her father, he has no paternal rights. It is completely up to you.
2006-07-18 05:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by lj1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! And you're not very smart if you let him take her.
2006-07-18 05:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Farly the Seer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not her father, or listed legally as her guardian, then absolutely not.
2006-07-18 05:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by korr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋