My ex-fiance and I dated on and off for 7 years and we were engaged from March 2005-September 2005. He came home one day and wanted to end things. We talked every now and then but when he talks me into coming to visit him, we end up sleeping together then I end up sad because I know we can't be together. I'm not sure what to do.. should I end all contact with him and just forget about it? He was my first love and I know I will always love him but it's hard to face the fact that we can't be together.
2006-07-18 04:27:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is currently in a relationship righ tnow
2006-07-18 04:49:39 · update #1
After 7 years, you are connected and dependent on each other.
It feels good going back to him, because you need that "fix." You KNOW how things will end up, but you don't care...you just want to go to your familiar place.
This is completely unhealthy.
You are wasting your time, and your life by repeating this never ending cycle. He will not change his mind, and you keep hoping he will. He calls you when he misses you...but once he's got your affections, he has strength to look for something better.
Basically, you're just his "fall back" girl.
You need to STOP doing this, and STOP talking to him. Get over him asap so you can be happy with someone else. Don't you think you deserve someone else? Maybe not.
Every day you spend giving your ex thought and a chance, is one more day you lose in finding Mr. Right.
Repeat to yourself: unhealthy addiction
2006-07-18 04:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like an effective concept. How before did he confess this to you? after all, if he's not over you, this may both reopen deep thoughts for you, or he will detect upon seeing and conversating with you that he's over you. yet contained in the before case, it doesn't be good for his modern relationship including his new spouse. If he nevertheless has thoughts for you, it ought to damage his modern marriage, exceptionally if he's protecting your assembly a secret from his spouse. What you should ask your self is do you pick to attempt this because of revenge for what occurred between both of you on your previous marriage, or you quite pick to ascertain in case you need to be acquaintances, or your curious to ascertain if there remains a connection. in case your quite over him and also you think he's not, do not see him.
2016-12-01 20:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're sure that you cant be together, there is no point keeping such relationship. In my own opinion it's share rubbish and waste of time. It's better you look for your own finance, somebody whom you can plan your future with. From what you hv said, it's you that love him, he does not love you. Just forget about this relationship.
2006-07-18 04:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the sentimental attachment issue. It's way past the time that you moved on with your life and stopped making booty call trips. There is nothing left for two outside of sex so stop torturing yourself.
2006-07-18 04:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you definitely end all contact !! all he wants is sex from you without the rest of the commitment package! the longer you continue to be in contact with him, you will continue to have sex and you will end up feeling bad!
in my opinion its very hard to maintain a friendship after there is/was sex involved with someone you used to be involved with.
2006-07-18 04:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is y did he end it.
both of u r obviously stll attached to eachother and if u end up sleeping with him than y rnt u 2 together. either end it all together or get some answers. ask him wat u 2 will b...if anything...if hes ready to commit or not. base yr descion on his answers
good luck
2006-07-18 04:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by babygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is over. You need to move on. Don't give in to him and go visit, he already told you in his way what you mean to him, didn't he? You deserve better.
2006-07-18 04:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by jenny in ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be too much emotionally. It seems as if it will be too much emotionally to deal with. Protect your heart and you can heal.
2006-07-18 04:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by living this life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if he don;t want you and need you when he want to have sex ignore him and don;t talk to him any more
2006-07-18 04:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wouldn't hurt if you visted
2006-07-18 04:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋