plz read the situation and help me, i really need ur help guyz!!!?

Question

So here the story goes:

Sara (ME) emailed F (a good male friend...just a friend)

"I dont know why ive been still talking to u even when uve been so rude to me, u know what?...u can never have close n good friends b/c u dont know how to have patience and how to compromise with them...i just wanted to talk to u and make things better....i liked u n wanted to remain ur friend even though my b/f hates u, but i like u....and i wz sort of attracted to u...dats it....but u....u only know how to say "u s**k and get lost"...u can never have good frnds....BYE"

A(MY B/F) read the above mail I sent to F(friend). A(b/f) and F (male friend) hate each other like hell...always fighting...the serious fighting. my b/f always stopped me to talk with him, but i still used to talk with him because he was my very good friend...and as A(b/f) used to stop me...i started talking to F(friend) secretly.

A(b/f) was alot hurt when he read the above mail on my email adress as he's got all my passwords, just like ive got all of his. After reading the mail my b/f messaged me which said:

"My plans aren't a joke, my life isn't a joke...when u say u're my girl then how can u talk about likeness and attraction with someone else? What r u doing? Is this some kind of drama going on? r u playing with me? How shall i trust u now...u said u hate F(friend) and have stopped talking to him...u lied to me???"

since that message im trying to call A(b/f), but he's not recieving it. I love A(b/f) alot and watever i said to F(friend) abt likeness and attraction was only to make F(friend) regret and to make him feel that how it feels, loosing a friend dats it!...its just a friendly likeness and nothing else...the only person which is in my heart and on my mind is A(b/f)...i dun want him to leave me...just 4 dis............i emailed him as he wasnt recieving my call...i cleared everything in my mail....he read my mail but he didnt reply....he didnt even call me...

now tell me what should i do.....how shall i make him understand that he's the only one for me and noone else.....im disturbed and confuse and i want u to help me....plzzzz.....

PS: if u want any additional details then tell me i'll add them so that u can read them and edit ur answers....i'll be very thankful to all the guys who answer me.....i need ur help guyz

and yea....if there r some typing or language or any grammar mistakes, then im sorry, im crying soooo much....i just randomely typed everything

THANKS

First of all thanks to all the ppl who gave their tym to read through my prob n solvin it....

secondly...for all those ppl who r confused abt the ages:
im 17, my b/f is 24 and F(friend) is 19

thridly...for all the ppl who r confused abt the wors "guyz" in my question...it doesnt mean only "boys"...it means its for all the ppl..."girls n boys".

Answer 1

I'm sorry you are so upset. These silly misunderstandings always blow up into a big deal before they settle down.

You have done what you can; made it clear that you were indeed cutting off contact with your male friend (that's what the email was saying!) and you didn't insult your boyfriend at all so he is overreacting.

If you weren't attracted to the guy then you shouldn't have said that you were, although I understand why you did - to make him feel better about the rejection. Just try to tell this to your oyfriend and be careful not to type anything that may offend him if he reads it or (better yet) don't give him access to all your passwords. He doesn't need them and there is no reason for him to be looking though your stuff. Remember that.

If he doesn't get over himself, then it's his loss. But he will - just calm down and give him time - good luck to you!

Answer 2

it sounds like you are about 14 and are experiencing some drama in your life... it's not worth it. First, you won't know real drama til you a re around 19, broke, sitting in your college dorm starving, and wishing to God you had those days of A and F back, cuz those were the good old days. If you really know love (which i doubt, nothing personal), then all others take a distant back seat to the one you've committed to. By going behind his back to keep contact breaks trust, and I hate nothing more than not be able to trust someone who I am supposed to. Add to that the fact that you were attracted to F and "liked"him, it was all wrong. You committed a grave injustice to A, and he has every right to leave you if he so chooses. Don't hate him for reacting to the decisions you made. Oh, and by the way, in the future, keep your passwords to yourself, at least until you get married. It's for security reasons I say this, not to hide anything or prevent getting caught at doing something shady. Godspeed, DF

Answer 3

If you really loved this guy, then why were you going against his wishes? Would you want him to do that to you? He's right about the trust issue now. Now you have to build it back. Track him down face to face. Tell him how you feel and that you will never hurt him again. And live up to that promise. Tell him he can keep track of everything you do until you earn his trust back. It seems like you are very young. Don't fret if he doesn't take you back. I promise there is more where he come from, just be more careful in the future. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Good luck

Answer 4

Wow...first off your friend seems like an ***. Second your boyfriend's just jealous. He overreacted but not much. Tell him what you meant when you typed to your friend. Tell him it was just because he was being an *** to you. Tell your boyfriend how much you love him, tell him he's the only one. You need to say that stuff to HIM NOT US. Go to his house. Stalk him. Show him how much he means to you. Spend all your time at his front door if necessary, just show him how important it is he knows the truth. Tell him you were wrong to lie, you feel like **** about it, you wish you could take it back. Umm...don't mention the invasion of privacy, reading your e-mails...you need to delete e-mails to people you said you don't talk to if he's got your passwords...by the way that's very trusting of you...point that out. Tell him you gave him your passwords so that he can read and make sure you're not cheating or something, because you trust him. Ask him what you can do for forgiveness. Tell him anything that proves how you love him. Tell him anything to prove your friend was being an *** and you wanted him to shut up. If your boyfriend needs help trusting you just tell him he can check your e-mails every day if he likes. Hope I helped...lots of typing for one questiong. Well, hope it all works out...later days.

Answer 5

I understand what u were trying to do, but don't play games w/people. It only makes them mad and obviously will tick others off! Your boyfriend isn't gonna want to hear what you have to say about the other guy because you already told him that you liked him. You could try explaining everthing to him, but the chances of him listening and understanding are pretty slim. He thinks you have betrayed him and have been doing things behind his back for some time. If you want to reconcile anything with your boyfriend, you probably really need to stop talking w/u're friend.

Answer 6

A b/f that invades your privacy by reading your email, will only keep doing so, and appears to be insanely jealous, I understand the loss of a previous friend of same sex, but that did not have to occur, if he the new b/f was not a self serving possessive idiot. Leave him alone, dont call, dont email, and dont go see him, he will see the error, and in less than a week he will be knocking on your door, begging for forgivness..otherwise he was not the B/f material to strart with! Move on, it appears you have no problem in finding another!

Answer 7

um...that was a lot to digest.
for starters, passwords are PRIVATE for a reason. he doesn't need that much access to your personal stuff and you don't need to be in his business, either. you should understand why the bf doesn't want to talk to you, though. if you and A are strictly friends, with no attraction or anything to make the lines fuzzy, then you really didn't have to hide talking to him from your bf. as a bf he should be there to support you, not control who you talk to and what you talk about.
sounds like A really isn't the friend you "think" he is or want him to be since he's telling you to get lost. and the bf is too controlling. my advice is to RUN away from the both of them. get some friends who like you and a boyfriend who trusts you.

Answer 8

Not being included in the "guyz" category myself being a "gurl" and all. Sounds to me... That you like the attention you get from all of the drama you create in all of your bad choices. And if that is the case, own it and quit whining about it. personally, I would hate you JUST for posting my personal stuff on a website. Is there no end to your neediness and stupidity? I would guess from the fact that you only want these "guyz" things that you referred to to answer because another "gurl" would call you out on your bullsh*it and the "guyz" would tell you whatever you wanted to hear... But you're used to that aren't you?


Basically... You deserve whatever you get from this situation. The dilemma is... are you going to learn to embrace and enjoy it or lament and phony whine over it forever on public websites adding insult to injury and involving about a few thousand total strange "GUYZ" into your life... Seems to be a pattern with you huh?

Been there done this myself honey... actually, I am better at it than you are! all of it. But, I happen to be able to admit to myself and whoever else asks. Most people know what they get if they chose to deal with me, I don't sugar coat it or lead them on to believing anything other than the fact that I am a, nut, drama queen and I love the attention! (Try it, you'll like honesty, it's both fun and easy!)

Most people are not as stupid as you think and love complicates their need to dump your ***, because you are caught up in your own fantasies. There is nothing more sad, than a person who is not only a manipulative witch, than a manipulative witch that has no clue that is what they are.

*Brushes her shoulders off, kicks the dirt off her shoes and sashay's off into the sunset.

Answer 9

You first mistake was lying to your man about being friends/ralking with that other guy. If there isn't any attraction for F and nothing to hide than be honest w/your man about it. If your man has a good reason to dislike him, then maybe you should stop talking to him, if not then your man needs to grow up. You really need to put yourself in your mans shoes to see how you would feel if the roles were reversed.

Answer 10

So obviously he doesn't trust you...Can you deal with that? Confront him about it, not on the phone and not through e-mail. Go to his house or approach him somewhere else. Tell him that right now he's most important to you but he shouldn't care so much about who your friends are. You need some privacy and him trying to pick you friends is just wrong.