How do i know if she is cheating on me?

Question

I have a girlfriend at first when i met her,i always see her with a guy,whenever i ask her who that guy is, she will say forget him he his nothing,later our relationship started,and this same guy keeps coming around,the reason am angry with this guy is that when ever he comes they both spend time together uptill midnight sometimes,cos i live close to her, and when i confronted her angrily she now told me she use to date that guy,but my coming on board make her to ask him to leave,yet am not satisfy wit what she told me,cos this same guy keeps coming around,spending time wit her,pls i love this girl and i dont want to loose her to this rich dude,what do i do? and how do i know if she is truly cheating on me,pls i need help my relationship is fast crumbling.

Answer 1

You are going to have to learn to trust your girlfriend, I Don't Mean to Insult You, but I've always been told that Jealousy is a sign of immaturity. This is a Wonderful Opportunity for You to have other Girls as Friend also. Just Because you are in a Relationship with this Girl doesn't mean that She should have to give up any Friends, Boys or Girls, Don't be Jealous of Her Friends and don't loose any of Your Friends Either, Just be Good to Her and Trust Her, She'll Appreciate That!! There's a Reason why this Rich Dude Isn't Her Boyfriend Now and You Are! I Know it hurt for you to have to see Her with other Guy Friends but it something your going to have to learn to deal with all your life! GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND!

Answer 2

Ask her straight away and look into her eyes when you ask the question. If she answers the question strainght away and does not break the stare or blushes, she is not cheating on you. She may say to you, how could you think such a thing, then tell her, because he is always here and you will not give a straight yes or no You could speak to this guy and say and ask him what going on, he will tell you coz that's is what blokes do, but do not drop you guard, be prepared for the answer you may not like it but at least you will know.

You may have to say ok and call it quits, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Answer 3

In my experience in this situation, she is most likely not cheating on you. You said he was rich so I'm assuming you're not. A girl friend of mine used to date a doctor and he spoiled her with his money and treated her horribly in the relationship. She saw no future with him, but continued seeing him because he would take her gambling and to restaurants that she'd never be able to go to otherwise. She's now dating a middle class dude and she still hangs with the doc, but is not sleeping with him. They never really did that sex thing very well anyway, but the money spending was great.

In all of my years I have found only one clue as to whether or not your girl is cheating. If you are not cheating but are being excessively accused of it by her, she's most likely cheating and feeling guilty and taking it out on you.
The most likely thing that will happen is if you accuse, you're driving your partner to cheat. Try not to accuse her and see if she accused you. That will give you a clue.

From the info that you've presented I don't see her as cheating. I do however see her being ashamed of her friendship with her ex. There could be several reasons including the spoiled with money thing, but this will take a lot of patience and open discussion on your part to get her to come clean with it. If she's not happy with your income or life status, dump her while you can. This is the reason for the majority of divorce. If she's into money, move on. There is no room for spoiled rich "Mrs. Robinsons" in this world. We have enough space takers as it is.

Answer 4

Hey dude you are being had!!!!ask her to make a choice you or him. If she used to date him and he is back on the scene then I think maybe the guy is trying to get her back. You say he is rich. Has he bought her any presents in the last few days/weeks since you have been serious with her? If he has then I'm afraid you have to ask her you or him. Maybe she thinks because you love her, she can get away with it by saying oh we are really good friends. Good luck. If your mind is still not at peace then you are better of without her.

Answer 5

Ultimately, it's up to her. The more desperate you sound, the less attractive you will seem to her. Spend some time with other girls too, and see how she reacts.

I am not sure there's a way to find out if she's "cheating" on you at this early stage unless you hire a detective . . . but for what purpose? It's still her choice to be with you or not, she's not even married to you.

Answer 6

If you have to ask, she's probably cheating. Also she won't give you a straight answer. The next time you see him, ask him what's going on. That ought to be interesting.

Answer 7

End it.

You don't trust her now, you never will

Love is unconditional and you should not be getting frustrated and angry ..

DUMP HER and move on. you can do without the stress. You have enough love in you to give to someone who WANTS it.

Answer 8

Ask the guy when she is not around and find out his intentions with her. Then you will know what is going on.

Answer 9

trust her but at the same token explain your not happy with the amount of time shes spending with him an that your feelings coun too.good luck hope you sort things out,xxxxxxxxx

Answer 10

if u dont trust her then how can u have a relationship?
either start trustin her or find someone else to be with that u can trust.