I and my ex are still friends and we hang out from time to time, but he's married now and his wife didn't know about us hanging out. I e-mailed him Friday to see if we were going to hang out and his wife saw it and called me to ask me questions. The whole entire time, he was in the background saying that I was lying, when in fact all he had to do was tell her the truth and maybe she wouldn't have been so mad. It really hurt my feelings that he lied about our friendship and I told him not to call me anymore, but now I feel like I should have handled it differently. Maybe I should have just told him to let his wife and I meet, but then I know that he would have said no. I don't know what to do. I should kick him to the curb, but we are so much better as friends then we were lovers and I would hate to really lose his friendship. I think I will try to talk to him and convince him to let us meet. What do you think?
2006-07-18 04:12:11 · 4 answers · asked by duncanchild7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well he is married and he would not even admit now you are friends.. he is a loser and though you want him as a friend well leave him there.. go on and find someone that will care for you.. do not waste your time being involved with him..do not let a man do you that way...this can lead to no where except hurt for someone...think about this and move on......
2006-07-18 04:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. "Let no man or woman separate this marriage". OK, so he is probably the biggest goof, and he's giving his wife insecurities that she doesn't like ... you're being used as a weapon in this marriage, and someday, it may be you who separates this marriage ... do you wanna be that jerk???
2. You can try to meet and make friends with her, but it already sounds like this has a small chance of being successful. She's already miffed, and you're the target she's miffed at ... Are you trying to get into a Cat fight???
3. Friends come and go ... It would probably be better for your mental health to just walk away and let him go ... this opens up your heart to accept the man you can share your life with in intimate ways
2006-07-20 12:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it. Your relationship with his him is over. You've got to move on. Can't you see why you would seem a threat to his wife whether you are just friends or not? Give them some space. Maybe after a while when she feels more secure with her marriage, she be less threatened or even grateful for your presence.
2006-07-18 04:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by klunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband-wife bond is much more legitimate and sensitive relationship..
You should have understood your friends side and pretended to have been in line with what your frined was expecting from you...
afterall he was the one who is you friend..you should take his side..
what he needs to tell his wife and what he doesnt should concern you the least...
If you felt uncomfortable..you couldve talked about it later sometimes and sorted it out.
2006-07-18 04:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋