Can Parents please stop saying "Wait until your married"?

Question

ok even tho they might think thats a good idea........majarity of teens do not wait until there married to have have sex so isn't it just better if you tell your teens to use protection and be safe?

Answer 1

i plan to tell my kids both.

i think it's important to wait at least until you are older and responsible.
i'm not a big advocate of "wait until you're married" and neither is my husband.

i see us just asking our kids to be safe and helping them be safe, by making sure they aren't embarassed about things like birth control.

take care.

Answer 2

Well I'm not a parent myself BUT I do believe in abstinence until marriage. Think about it, is there ANY form of birth control that is 100% effective all the time? No, there isn't. And if you sleep with someone who's slept with other people BEFORE you, how can you be absolutely positive they didn't get some std at some point? And there's also the emotional aspect. Shouldn't you really love the person you make love with? What usually happens after the lust is over? You have to work on the problems of your relationship anyway, and most youths aren't emotionally mature enough to handle romantic relationships. Sex and relationships are for mature ADULTS, who know the potential consequences of sexual activity (such as conceiving a child) and are ready and able to deal with those consequences. If you aren't ready to deal with a baby then you aren't ready for sex. Therefore waiting until marriage works out to your advantage in that when you do get married you are at an age where you are more financially stable and more mature mentally and emotionally. It doesn't mean you HAVE to have any children, but it does mean that you have to be ready for the POSSIBILITY of them and therefore it is better to wait until you can handle that responsibility.

Answer 3

OK, so you are a female teen. You like playing with fire. I wouldn't be the first one to tell you to wait til you are married to have sex. But I will tell you this same thing I told my own daughters: When you are ready to have a baby wake you in the middle of the night you are ready for sex. When you are ready to burp a baby and it pukes down your back you are ready for sex. When you are ready to commit your life to another individual for the biggest part of your life, then you are ready for sex. There is not a single birth control out there that is 100% safe. There is always that chance it may fail. With all of the information on birth control and their protective qualities on the net it is amazing that people do not take the time to investigate them. Not even a tubal is 100% against pregnancy. Teens fail to realize this is why there are PREGNANT teens and teens as fathers. You will find that some does not believe in abortion. Honey are you ready for a commitment with a man yelling for his socks, clothes and etc. Do you want to be responsible for cleaning your own house, paying your own bills and making your own way in life. Stop and think. I was a teen mom and I know the ins and outs. 16 to be exact.

Answer 4

I agree with you. It's more practical nowadays to advice teens to use condoms if they can't wait until they get married to experience sex. it's better to be safe than sorry later. It also prevents unwanted pregnancy and aids in which the girl and baby suffers the most. Staying alive!!! just what MTV is promoting among young teens.

Answer 5

Yes I am a parent of a 17 and 12 year old girl and when my 17 year old started dating i bought her condems and told her to carry them cuz it will happen and i want you protected then when she said she was active i put her on the pill and she still carries condoms for the guy so he has no excuses for not wearing one better safe than sorry and i know she is going to and that is fine with me i rather have her educated in the subject than not and she is always prepared

Answer 6

Yeah that's true I wish my parents told me that. Because the more they tell you to wait the more curious you become to find out how it is and how it feels. I had sex when I was 14 and got pregnant when I was 16. So I went to my big sisiters on my father side because I knew they would understand me better because of the fact they kept on saying they were my big sisters and I could trust them with anything.

Answer 7

Your right a majority of teens don't wait, but I guess that leaves very few "leaders" with all of the followers. If you determine that you too, are a follower, then be sure to prepare yourself for a potientially bad reputation, emotional issues, and overall fear of STD's and pregnancy. I would also recommend getting a gynocologist ahead of time.
However, if you choose to be a "leader", prepare yourself for high integrity, self respect, honorable reputation, regular periods, (no pregnancy) and free from emotional trauma.
The idealogy of "waiting until marriage" is out of vogue, I agree it is not realistic. Your parents along with all parents who care for and love their kids know life and how things work. I know.... they havent quite caught up to your level of knowledge yet.... but they will get there, give them time....
Anyway, they simply want, hope, and pray that you do not compromise yourself because you want to be "laid". Frankly, sex is very natural and a normal part of life, it's great. It is important to understand that with the physical part, comes the emotional parts, and that is the one that in addition to pregnancy, STD (Aids) and the gossip that goes with it will be the part that can potientially affect you the rest of your life.
If you are a gambling person, then go for it....
My daughter was 14 when she decided she was "ready". Got her on birth control and took her to the GYN. She hated that, but too bad, so sad....
Anyway, she is now 23yrs old, and when asked if she wished she had waited at least until 18-19, or out of high school, she is so adament when she SCREAMS YES!!! Why you ask...
Well, no STD, no kids, NO ABORTIONS, but she was so humiliated in high school with her "bright" reputation that it followed her into college. She never knew if the boys she liked showed interest in her because she "put out", or because they REALLY WANTED TO GET TO KNOW HER. Girls were always giggling back in the corner of the restrooms, out in the halls, but she could only guess by the distaste on their faces that they must really like her... Never could confirm that...
Did she "put out", no... Did she loose her virginity, yes. She went with 2 boys during high school. Don't let them tell (high school kids) the story though because she had sex, gave blow jobs to EVERY SINGLE GUY, TEACHER, AND LARGE DOG ON CAMPUS...
GET IT YET????
I know, your a follower..... (so sad.... )

Answer 8

There is no way to be 100% safe. There are sexually transmitted diseases, and there will always be the chance that you will get pregnant. When your in your teens, school is stress enough. A baby would only add to that.

Answer 9

the reason we tell you to wait...just look at half of the questions in the teen section..I think i might be pregnant?..Am i pregnant?..I missed my period could i be pregnant? We want you to wait because we don't want to see any more girls asking this question. You are too young, you should be enjoying life, living it up to the fullest. Spend time being a kid, you have the rest of your life to be an adult.

Answer 10

sometimes protection dont work, If a condom is used and it leakk you put yourself at risk for an unwanted pregnancy or possibly Aids, birt control isint 100% effective eighter for one it dont protect against diseases and I got pregnant on the pill. There are lots of risk factors even using protection

Answer 11

I'm not married and saying that you should wait.. I'm not saying that your a bad person if you don't wait..but i think its better on you if you do wait. at least until you are old enough to take the chances.. you never know whats going to happen.. but that's my opinion