After a lot of counseling (1 yr+) and talking to friends, we read the "Five Love Languages". We read the book and took the tests. I feel words of affirmation (score:12) followed by quality time(8). Hers were quality time(7), receiving gifts(6) and physical touch(6). Afterwards, we spent a week together camping and discussed the book giving examples of what was missing, what we didn't like and most importantly, when we had spoken the others language loud and clear.
This was two months ago, and I don't feel like I've seen a change. I mentioned this after a month with more examples and I still have not seen it. I feel like I have been trying to make her feel loved. I have surprised her with concert tickets to someone she liked, I bought oils for long massages and I am learning to be the lover she needs. I own a business and agreed that I would leave at 7:30pm and save Saturdays for us. I haven't missed this once.
I haven't felt anything from her yet. How long does it take?
2006-07-18 04:09:25 · 4 answers · asked by mansonpeters 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not familiar with "5 Love Languages". But I have learned from life that no matter how much giving one is will to give, the other person has to be receptive. (Able or ready to accept new ideas, suggestions, etc.) With out this, its like plugging a electrical cord into a dead socket. Regardless, of the best written, thought out, test proved facts in the world on love, it still take two!!!
2006-07-18 04:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your 5 Variable Love Profile Propensity for Monogamy: Your propensity for monogamy is extreme. you detect it straightforward to be dedicated and unswerving to one individual. And in return, you anticipate the comparable from who you adore. Any sign of straying, and you will end issues. adventure point: Your adventure point is medium. you probable have had a pair significant loves. and you will have even had your coronary heart broken. yet you haven't any longer relatively dated a brilliant form of folk. Dominance: Your dominance is low. this does not propose you're a doormat, basically balanced. you recognize a courting isn't approximately getting your way. and you adore to grant your sweetie various freedom. Cynicism: Your cynicism is low. you're an eternal optimist while it includes love and romance. no count number what number circumstances you have been harm - you're not at all bitter. you have self assurance in one genuine love, your suited soulmate. And in case you haven't any longer got here upon genuine love yet, you recognize you will quickly. Independence: Your independence is medium. In relationships, you elect the two "me time" and "we time". you in many circumstances locate it straightforward to be a piece of a pair. yet on occasion you start to sense a sprint smothered.
2016-10-08 01:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up!!!! if you do you will create and endless cycle of selfishness, resentment, anger etc..... it sounds like you are putting your needs and desires aside to concentrate on hers, this is how it should always be between a married couple. this is what makes a marriage last. but maybe she is still focusing on herself (being selfish) instead of being selfless. Maybe you all need counseling, maybe there is resentment somewhere down line that needs to be dealt with. or ask her about it. see if she still remembers what your love language is. I believe the love languages are a great method for understanding each other if both people are willing to put aside their needs and focus on the other persons. dont give up though, you are doing the right thing. God will bless you if you just hang in there.
2006-07-18 04:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by toni h 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Ditch her and I'll meet you later?
2006-07-18 04:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋