How can we help our teenager daughter to feel good about herself ?

Question

she is a very beautiful (inside-outside) but she think she is no good as she has probably around 10 pounds she could loose so she call herself fat... try to tell her she is a real beauty as this is what i belive from in and outside and everytime i do that she laught at me and says of course i am your daughter..... please help me !!!

thank you all for your great comments and so handy ideas....

I really honesetly appreciate it thank you all.

Answer 1

Buy her the book: The Power of Now ---By Eckhartt Tolle

Answer 2

Get her a personal trainer for a few months and ask her to make a serious committment to go.

There is nothing like having an 'appointment' to go work out for a while. You can't make up excuses because a good trainer will call you and verbally beat you up if you don't show!

After a few weeks, she will start to feel much better about herself physically. Just the act of doing something about it gives you motivation and encouragement.

I also suggest you and your daughter find something you can volunteer together for. It can be easy or tough. Go visit the nursing home, help cook meals for the elderly, etc. The homeless are tougher, there is a lot of lost people there and if you are not strong they will wear you down. You could find some older people who live in your area and help them run errands, cook and clean.

Children learn wisdom from the elderly....it's something that has been lost in our modern society and it's a shame. It is also something that young to middle-aged adults do not understand, so we don't see the value.

The point is, do something for others in your community. Whenever anyone I know statrts to feel down about themselves or life, I drag them to a nearby church...not for services, because I'm not that religious, but to cook lunch for 200 needy people, mostly homeless or very poor families. There is nothing like doing for others less fortunate to make you feel a genuine sense of self-worth and contribution. And the more physical it is, the better, I have found. The feeling of being tired and dirty after having helped feed some folks who really could use a good meal is priceless. You will all feel better, I promise you.

Answer 3

See your daughter is at that awkward age where she wants her own space.She wants to hang around with her friends more than you.About her beauty take her outside and when somebody stares at her say he was staring.Take her to the beauty parlour and get her a very special makeover.At this age everybody feels they are ugly but its a part of growing up.I am a teenager boy,and I have tried my best so that I could make my Yahoo!Avatar good looking.Tease her with boys and everything will be okay.Trust me.
THIS IS THE FASTEST AND THE CHEAPEST METHOD.

Answer 4

Get her involved in a gym after-school programs where she is with other girls her own age girl scouts sign her up to see a therpist could be more there I had signs of bi-polar at a early age but didnt get help till in late 30's so explore all avenues dont just say she is being a teen for your daughters sake good luck

Answer 5

ok look i understand alot people who come from broken familys and its usely the wifes fault , sure the spouse is usely the challenge , u understand they dont could desire to spend time with one yet another, if ur forceing them to get alongside it wont artwork. look she dousnt comprehend why her actual mum and dad have been given divorced she would be able to by no potential get it and could continuously be pissed approximately , u cant replace that actuality . She wont come around till finally shes 18 , im one hundred% useful young infants are the stupist human beings in the international. Like u pronounced there 7 and 10 years previous and shes 15 huge age distinction . it somewhat seems to me u and her have a concern. If yall dont then thats cool yet its usely the spouse that creates all the bull **** drama. If spending time along with her step bro and sister is a discomfort, then they shouldnt could desire to , it deliver back those thoughts of desiring a seamless family , she would be able to by no potential get handed it probly .

Answer 6

If she needs to lose 10 lbs., tell her to run and eat less sugar, 'cause you're not going to convince her she's attractive unless she is.
Also, give her a little freedom. Hanging out with friends will make her feel better about the world.

Answer 7

Well, I never listened to my mom when she told me I was beautiful, because most parents do that. But my journey to self confidence took awhile, how old is your daughter? Is she a first born? First borns tend to be more critical of themselves. I hate to sound like an ad, but one thing that helped me was going to Barbizon Modeling School, it's not just a modeling school, but they teach self confidence, acting and people skills, and overall self improvement. I think you're daughter would really enjoy it, It helped me immensely. Also try to encourage her hobbies and try to keep her away from girls who are shallow and insensitive and who might be pulling down her self confidence. Hope that helps! :)

Answer 8

Thats how being a teen is. There is no special cure. You have to only make sure that she wont go to any extreme behaviors such as Anorexia or Depression. Talk to her, listen to what she has to say, reason with her. Relax. Thats how teenagers are.

Answer 9

She has low self-esteem. Model to her how you care for yourself and she will see her self-worth eventually. Don't focus on her negative comments about herself and try to draw answers out of her, just always be positive. Kids that are involved in goal oriented group activites build self-esteem through achivement no matter how small.

Answer 10

teens don't really want appreication from parents. They like it more when peers say that. It's peer pressure. You have to convince other teens to tell her that message or she will not believe you