You have to realize there's a high likelihood that he'll cheat on you again. Why not find someone you can trust? You deserve much better.
2006-07-18 04:06:42
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answered by clarity 7
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What kind of help are you looking for. You found another guy you enjoy spending time with (on the phone) and your bf of 7 years objects. This can mean almost anything, from he has another girl he wants to go for and you have given him the excuse he felt he needed, he was getting tired of the relationship or he is genuinely upset and feels betrayed and broken hearted. The fact that you "forgave" him in the past is of no consequence...that was then, this is now. Besides, what you did was what you did, not what he did. He isn't going to look at life the say way you do. Your options, as I see it, are to either accept that he is gone/going or do some fighting. Consider if you want to stop texting the new guy or to move for a closer relationship. Answer that question first and then consider how far you want to go to get your bf interested again.
2016-03-16 01:25:48
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answered by Anonymous
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No one can tell you that your man will or will not cheat on you again. Sometimes good people make bad decisions. You have to talk to your husband and figure out what made him do this. You have to decide if the life you have with him is worth holding on to and if you can put it behind you. You must forgive him and he must fight for your trust. If you can't, then it will tear you both apart. But if you forgive him, you hvae to let it go. It will remain in your mind an din your heart but you can't bang him over the head every time you think about it. You have to learn to love again and to find oyur way back. If you don't want to do this, that's up to you. Only you know what you want. Follow your heart. Take care and good luck.
2006-07-18 04:58:43
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answered by Alida2u 2
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You shouldn't have a relationship after being cheated on unless you can deal with the consequences of him cheated again.
The best way to handle it is if you choose to stay with the cheater you only have yourself to blame if your cheated on again because he can't cheat on you again if your not in a relationship with him still to begin with.
Remember, a person can treat you only the way you allow yourself to be treated.
2006-07-18 04:11:31
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answered by words from the heart 3
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Its hard.. because although u may forgive him u'll never forget which in the long run ends up leading to insecurities and in arguments being brought up time and time again..
So if your going to stay u need to keep in mind that if he's truely sorry and u truely want to forgive him that 1. he needs to earn your trust back , trust is something earned not given and 2. try not to dwell in the past so that it doesnt affect your future..
Good luck.. im not sure if i could do it or not even as much as i love my husband.. im just not sure i could ever get over the emotional hurt that comes with being cheated upon..
2006-07-18 04:07:47
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answered by Anonymous
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It depends on whether you will be able to trust him in the future. Did he lie? Trust issues can be very hard to resolve. If you cannot trust him & will live the rest of your life wondering what he is REALLY doing, then maybe it's time to say good-bye. If he cheated because he wants someone new, also a good time to say adieu. If this was a one time mistake and the both of you genuinely want this to work out, then move past it, talk things out and I hope it works out for you!
2006-07-18 04:15:59
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answered by savagescorpio 3
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Dump him..or get cosy with someone else..so that he gets a taste of what you have been feeling since he cheated on you!Make him jealous!but if you really wana continue this relationship inspite the cheating thing..forgive..that's what you can do..just erase that chapter from your life..n start fresh!
2006-07-18 04:11:57
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answered by pinks 2
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There isn't once a cheater always a cheater. Get Out. Once the trust is broken that's it. Relationships have to have trust or there is not really a relationship.
2006-07-18 04:09:01
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answered by mssteph800 2
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Ask yourself how he'd feel if you cheated on him? would he tolerate it? Would he like it? Would he feel betrayed? Sure he would and he'd kick you to the curb. So kick him to the curb because you don't need someone who can't be devoted to you and you alone. Don't fall for his excuses because there are none. He cheated because he wanted to and not because of anything you've done. His choice, his consequences. Men who cheat will cheat again and again and again. That's something wrong in them and if they don't fix it, you're wasting your time. Sorry, but that's the reality of it.
2006-07-18 04:16:45
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answered by lmdragonldy 2
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I used to think this was an easy question to answer; Dump his as$.
But since having it happen to me I NOW find its not as easy as I though. If you love this guy then its going to be really hard but you have to leave him. No matter what he tells you, he WILL do it again. I have yet to find a person who has only cheated once.
2006-07-18 04:09:37
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answered by biscuit 3
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