please tell me how do u cope when you lose a parent,only for pple who have lost a parent?

Answer 1

i haven't really lost a parent. but........ sorry for your loss, and hope things get better for you.

Answer 2

Time is the only healer, and even then you will miss your parent terribly. My best support was my Mom, my husband, and my dad's siblings.

I lost my Dad when I was 31, and he was 52. He had a brain aneurysm and died unexpectedly and quickly. I am an only child, and my Dad never remarried after my parents divorce 27 years ago. His death was something that I feared since I was a little girl. I never thought that I would be able to handle it. But, when the time comes, you rise to the occasion.

I am tearing up now even though Dad has been gone for more than 5 years. He loved me and I loved him and we were lucky to have the time together. Yeah - he didn't get to see his grandkids and I have so many questions that need his answers, but I utilize the ones I mentioned above. If I need some approval or a shoulder or anything, I go to my mom or my aunts and uncles. All of those relationships improved and developed upon his death.

Answer 3

Hi!I am sorry about your loss.I cant say I know how u feel bt I can imagine as I lost my mom just over a year ago.I know you are in shock and keep hoping its a dream of sorts and hope things will get back to normal.Thing is the best we can do is relish the time we had with our beloved parent.Just thank God for having had this person in ur life.Don't blame God for what has happened.I dont really know why these things have to happen when they do but somewhere along the line we are bound to recover.Don't however hold back your grief.Cry if u feel like it.You have to let out your grief coz holding it in will be harmful to you.Stay around pple that can support you like friends n family,try not to be alone.It took me a while to accept it,to come to terms.I am ok now and just thank God for all the good times we were able to have.Be strong you will be ok.

Answer 4

You think of the good times, when you were young. You think of all the times when he/she told you stories. We went through my father's wallet, (at his wake) and found his 'memories'. It was fascinating and really very funny. We laughed, we cried, we told stories, we sang, the others drank and all in all, it was a 'great' night - truly. It is the best way to 'get over it'. Although this is not about a parent, an dear old friend died and I collected his ashes from the cemetery. I took them to Ireland where I spread them on the banks of a beautiful stream in the Wicklow mountains where we had spent many pleasant days fishing. That was a wonderful way of getting over his death. My mother was different, but in the same way, we 'celebrated' her life, not her death. Her fifty or so grandchildren and her 13 children held another wake which was not as boisterous as my fathers, but none-the-less, it was excellent in celebrating her passing........ Finally, forget any problems you ever had with the deceased parent, try to concentrate on the good times, pray if that is your choice and you will learn to accept the fact, that unfortunately we all must die...............

Answer 5

My father died, a very long time ago now, and I can tell you it was the hardest thing I had ever had to cope with in my life. Everybody has to grieve in his or her own way, and there is no set amount of time for this. You will never really "get over it", but given enough time, the pain WILL lessen. It's gradual, and just takes time.

The younger you are that the time, the harder it is for you to accept. I was 25, and it happened on my little brothers 21st birthday. That was in 1977. It was very difficult for either of us to get through. But daddy remains very close to my heart, I feel his presence on occasion, and his voice still rings in my ears.

My heart goes out to you, and I can honestly say I feel your pain. I just said a little prayer for you.

Answer 6

I lost my mother 13 years ago, and there isn´t a day goes by that I don´t miss her. How I deal with it is to still talk to her in my head. On those days when I miss her most (she would have been 83 on July 4th) I think of how she would be proud of what I´ve become. I also try to hold on to the good memories of her.
I come from a very poor background with a father who spent most of my formative years in prison, we lived in an area of Newcastle which was rife with crime, but my mother kept us fed and clothed, not the hi tech expensive stuff, and she was a terrible cook, but not one of her four sons turned to crime, she could be proud of us all and I know if she´s watching she´d be smiling.
Hold on to the good memories always, and try to smile about the funny things they did. Celebrate their life, not grieve their passing.
And on those days when it gets really hard to cope, don´t be afraid to tell someone !!!

Answer 7

I lost my father in 1977 when I was eight. I can't recall how I coped with that. Maybe I was too young too fully comprehend tragedy. I lost my Mom last September. That was hard on me. She wasn't even sick. I'm still coping with that. I have a family of my own and they need me to be strong in any situation. So to answer your question, I cope because I'm needed and cannot afford to grieve forever. Time truly heals.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom when I was 9, and now it's been 21 years since her death. It does get easier with time, but I know you must be hurting now. You'll always miss the parent you lost, but you have to remember that life is for the living. Your parent's spirit will be carried on with you as you remember the good times and all the things they taught you. If you find it's hard to cope, as it will be somedays (and somedays are far worse than others) try to find someone to talk to, preferably someone outside the family as other family members will be dealing with their own grief and might not be as helpful as they normally would be. It's ok to be sad and miss them, but it often helps me to think that my mom is watching over me. I'm sure she'd be quite proud of the adult I turned into, and I can only assume the same for you. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

i lost my dad may 1 2005 and i have still not dealt with it really good yet.. it does not seem that long either.. my mom is now so ill that they are putting her in a nursing home cause she needs 24 hour care..and it is so hard to lose your parents...but i am going to try and do different this time.. i lost it with my dad and i took to many pills... so i overdosed myself...but even though we are hurting so badly we need to remember that they are better off out of the pain and suffering they have been going through..and my dad was a baptist minister and i know the life he lived and i know he is in a much better place.. my mom i know she knows the lord and has been suffering so much that i am going to keep in my mind this time that she is ready to go.. i do not like to see her suffer so..and there home in heaven is waiting for themi do not think a person should really stay alone after the loss of a parent.. i think that we need to be with some other loved ones and all until we are thinking more rationally.. i was not thinking rationally at all when my son dropped me off after my dads funeral.. he was a popuar minister and he had 2 funerals and i only made it to the one where he was going to be buried at..and i went 2 weeks ago and saw his tomb stone and how his grave is done...we will miss them and it has took me all this time and the pain is still there.. but i think it will lessen as the years go by.. i lost 3 children as mere babies and it was terrible but nothing like losing your parents..stay strong and take one day at a time.. think they are better off.. they are free now and have a better home that they are going too...people handle grief in so many different ways.. but i just think you need to stay strong and take one day at a time....

Answer 10

Make a scrap book, get copies of pics you like, places you've been to together, write or clip poems that express how you feel, stuff like that.
My mom wasted away from pancreatic cancer right before my eyes, she went from an adult to a baby in less than six mths.
I coped by making a collage of all her pretty pics because I didn't want to remember how she looked at the end.

Answer 11

I stay happy no matter what happen to me,because i believe that Lord do that thing for a best purpose and He do that for a best reason.Even you love very much that person,especially your parent who stand you up.cheer up your not the only one in that situation.me(of course!!!)also loss my father,but pass is pass,even i am a father's girl.and the eldest in my bethren,still I COPE WITH.