2006-07-18 03:38:11 · 30 answers · asked by mikkkie21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because their self esteem is at an all time low and they feel unworthy of being liked let alone loved by another man! I was mentally abused for a few years by my ex husband and the best thing I did was get away from him! As soon as I did - my confidence came back slowly. Then I met my fiance and he was my rock - he gave me such confidence and showed me love that I never believed I was worthy of!!
2006-07-18 03:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are to afraid to leave the abuser as they have very often been a victim for such a long time both physically and mentally they are afraid to leave. They have a very low self esteem and have become so conditioned by the abusers abuse that they sadly believe they are worthless and don't deserve any better. Some feel that they are dependant on their abuser and that they couldn't possibly go through life without them, this is all conditioning stemming from the abuser manipulation. Very often it takes years of abuse for the victim to say enough is enough and get help. They truly believe that it is their fault they are beaten and mentally abused and in a strange way love their abuser. The abuser is always very convincing after the beating with loads of tears and I love you I'm sorry I will never do it again. This makes the victim feel sorry for them and they are lured into a false sense of security thinking that they are needed. Lets face it everyone loves to feel needed now and again. The abuser is a bully a manipulate and above all a very insecure person
2006-07-18 05:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by kim j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are afraid to leave. Because they've been put down so many times that they feel like they are nothing. The abuse usually doesn't stop when they leave. It usually gets worse! The not so bright women that say they are staying because they love them can't filter through the madness in their minds and figure everything out. They just know they are stuck. And many women who say that they stay because they love him know that they are better off to say that because if the man were to find out differently they would be in a world of hurt. Physical abuse is horrible but the mental abuse that goes along with it is much more powerful. Please don't judge a woman in this situation. You don't know what it is like until you've been in the situation. Another thing you should know is that these abusive men usually don't become abusive until after they are married usually have kids. They are sick manipulators. Heaven help them....
2006-07-18 03:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they ha vent woke-up to the reality that abuse of any kind, about isn't LOVE its about CONTROL .
Many will put up with their partners abuse for years simply because they are afraid of breaking whatever emotional bonds or financial dependency they have with the abusive partner that exists. Many do not realise that out there, if only the take the steps to do so, they can break free from an abusive relationship and forge a much better and happier life for themselves.
2006-07-19 09:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They start to believe that they are to blame for the abuse and feel no self worth!! Also some are to scared to try and escape from an abusive partner. I have been there and even denied to my parents that my ex was abusing me because i felt that it was all my fault and if i had been a better person then he would not get mad at me!!
2006-07-18 03:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because usually an abuser will beat down a woman emotionally to the point that she is feeling as if what he is saying is true.. ie "no man would ever want you", your to ugly, to stupid , to whatever.. and after awhile of having that drilled into your head u believe it.. then add in the physical abuse.. to the point that your terrified that if u try to leave that they will hurt u worse.. or sometimes u try to leave and they threaten u .. to the point u feel trapped.. and usually an abuser is wonderful at playing mind games.. its really not as easy to leave as u would think.. so unless u've been there, its really hard to judge..
2006-07-18 03:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by preciosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are built inside to be intimate not passionate that is why women seem to mature faster than men. In this case they feel that the relationship is still a relationship and they don't even think about the fact that they are being abused.
2006-07-18 03:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by The Master 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they dont have the courage to leave or sometimes they dont have anywhere else to go. Theres a whole load of reasons why they they stay with an abusive partner.
2006-07-18 04:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because abusive people are bullies and they master the ability to convince the person being bullied that they are not worth s**t. These poor victims eventually believe what is being told to them and can not find the courage within themselves to get away from a situation they know is wrong and have convinced themselves they are the ones at fault.
2006-07-18 03:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by i.needitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the time its because it is what there mom did and her mom and so on and so on.
We teach our children valuable lessons every day without ever knowing it. If you don't want your child to grow up thinking something is OK (like living with abuse or abusing someone) then don't live with abuse yourself. But breaking that cycle is very hard.
2006-07-18 03:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋