Is Cyber-Sex cheating? Is it an indication that something wrong after 23 years (mostly happy)?

Question

For the first person who answered. Book have more than covers. And I consider it cheating, but alot of people don't ( as long as you don't meet up). Now MY WIFE WHO is the one having cyber sex, does'nt consider it cheating.

Answer 1

After 23 years together, you have a lot invested and sometimes things can get boring. This other relationship is fresh and exciting and whats the harm, you are not physical, right.

WRONG....It does not have to be physical to be cheating!!! Anything that you take away from the primary relationship and give to another is cheating.

I would suggest you focus as much on your 23 year relationship as you do on the new one and things will be fine.

Answer 2

Yes it is cheating. Even if the other person isn't there it is cheating because it says that if they were she would be having real sex with them. There is something wrong and she is not completely happy with the marriage. It may not have anything to do with you either. Sounds like she needs to do some real soul searching and decide what she really wants, you or computer sex.

Answer 3

Well, she's being intimate (on some level) with someone else, that is not right. She doesn't consider it cheating because she's the one doing it. Maybe if you put your foot down about it that's all it would take. Maybe she just wants to know that you still care that much and don't want her doing that with someone else. On another note, this type of action often leads to more serious "cheating."

Answer 4

yes it is definitely cheating....what's real is real...even though they're not face-to-face it's still cheating. there is an emotional connection going on...there must be something missing in the relationship for one to seek support & attention elsewhere.
At times I do believe that it's easier to pour your heart and your thoughts and inner feelings over email or in a letter...but the receiver should not be someone other than your loved one... Does that make sense? I support new friendships online, but the person needs to control how far they allow the friendship to go....

Answer 5

Yep it sure is.. even though its not persay PHYSICALLY CHEATING.. it is emotionally cheating, any man or woman that needs to use anything or anyone but their spouse to fulfill their emotional, sexual, or intimate needs is cheating.. plain and simple.. Vows arent just given for u to say for a few moments on ur wedding day, they are words your suppose to live by.. and i dont recall anyone or anything other then your spouse being mentioned in the vows..

Answer 6

No its not cheating. Are you there for her when she needs you? Ask her what she is getting off of cyber sex that she cant with you. Maybe its attention.

Answer 7

I think it's unfaithful to even flirt with anyone else. I know that's a tough rule of thumb, and I've caught myself flirting, but having that rule, has helped me to realize what I was doing, got me to stop dead in my tracks, and kept me from going down roads that I would regret.

Even if I didn't have that tough rule, I mean she's seeking sexual encounters with other people, I think that's pretty crystal clear cheating.

Answer 8

While it may not be cheating, it shure indicates that something is wrong. The train is leaving the station

Answer 9

Yes it si cheating, and yes it is an indication that something is wrong. Go to counseling and work it out. And STOP cheating!

Answer 10

I was doing the same thing to my boyfriend. He said it was disrepecting him so I stopped. But at the time i was so wrapped up into it that i wasn't thinking of him.