I was in a 2 year relationship 5 months ago, and unfortuanetly she ended it. Since then I have become more strong but still miss her. I know that she won't take me back (Even though something inside of me think she will which is wrong to think). Lost all contact with her after she was being mean to me and basically just trying to move on. Slowly it is but understanding that we weren't good for one another. Anyway, she told me she is having sex with other guys, which kinda makes me sick inside still. I personally believe that sex is very intimate and shouldn't be abused. Lust or not, it should be controlled. I am going on Holiday next week to Magaluf with some lad friends, and they say that I should get laid. One of my mates is in a relationship and has a house with her and he says 'What goes on Holiday, stays on Holiday'. I AM SO CONFUSED!!!!! Should I be having sex with girls, or should I wait for someone who I care about and love. Maybe I feel guilty towards my ex.
2006-07-18 03:05:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guilt towards your ex should have no bearing on your relationships now. It sounds like you already know the answer of your question. You already stated that you think sex is something intimate and shouldn't be abused then you ask if you should wait for someone who you care about and love? Of course. Based on your question, it sounds like you have strong morals. Don't compromise your morals because your friend says to, or to get even with an ex-lover. Be true to yourself, you're on the right road to recovering from that past relationship. Keep up the good work.
2006-07-18 03:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Amanda B....she's got it.
You clearly aren't ready to be getting involved so soon - so don't. Don't rush things just because your friends pressure you. They don't know what you feel. They THINK getting laid is the be-all end-all answer, but it's not. Sometimes it'll just mess you up more.
People handle break ups different. Some withdraw from sex and relationships, others dive in. Some people just need love/sex from any place they can get it...that's why they do those things when they break up.
Do what feels right...but definitely don't go LOOKING for girls when you are fresh out of a loving relationship. There's always time for that once you have healed.
2006-07-18 03:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and have some fun. Be safe though. I went through the same thing and I went out and got laid, many, many times. At first I felt guilty, but after a while that went away. Yes there is a difference between lust and love. Getting laid is just that, a good time with not to much emotion but hey do it while you can. After about 5-6 years of being single, I met my wife and lust turned to love and sex was so much better with emotion but I don't regret what I did before I met her. Get it out of your system, have a good time, and when you find the right one, stay with her.
2006-07-18 03:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready. Just wait, but have fun on Holiday. Having random sex is dangerous anyway. By the way, I think it is sweet that you are not all about "Getting it". Rare in a guy. Good luck, and keep your morals. The right girl will come along, and you will be glad you waited.
2006-07-18 03:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get your head straight and THEN move on... If you arent over this chic yet dont just start having sex with random people because someone is going to get hurt and women can be crazy Trust me I am one!!! You could run into the wrong girl and YOU end up getting hurt or worse!
2006-07-18 03:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be intimate with whom you care to be...not for reasons that it has anything to do with someone else...First understand why your previous relationship had failed and try not to repeat or accept such behavior that would allow a relationship to fail..there is nothing wrong with having a good time...but do it or don't do it for the right reasons...
2006-07-18 03:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God. My ex broke up with me about a week and half ago. I just found out she gave someone else a hickey. That makes me nauseous as hell. I don't think you should give up your beliefs or morels or give into peer pressure. Breakups suck. Heartbreak is very painful. I don't think a one night stand can fix that.
2006-07-18 03:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by finkksta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex seems to be moving on. It is 5 months after all. I say get over her and do whatever makes u happy! =)
2006-07-18 03:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with other people isn't going to help make her faint memory. Do what you feel you should do. Don't let others persuade you to do things you aren't ready for. Have sex when YOU are ready, not when your friends think you should be ready.
2006-07-18 03:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be lieing and trying to make u jealous but i think u ahould wait tell u are in a relationshop and u both want to do it and that u care about and love
2006-07-18 03:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋