Should I stay with or do the bachelor thing, I have alot of things going for me. Help please.?

Question

I am 21 years old and going into my Senior year of college at Missouri Valley. I study accounting and economics and hold various leadership positions around campus and in the community. I have had an Internship at an Accounting Firm for the past two summers and I am at the Federal Reserve Bank St. Louis now. I have been involved with a young lady for about 5 months now and she has things going for herself too. She is 23 and she is a great woman. My Question to you all is "Should I wait until I get my career started before I settle down, because Im sure I will have alot of opportunities out there" Should I do the Bachelor thing for a while? I know you would say im smart enough figure it out yourself. I just need your thoughts

Answer 1

That's a hard question to answer. If you care for someone but have places to go with your career it can make things really difficult. You just have to figure out what is more important to you - jumpstarting your career and waiting to settle down, or getting serious with your girlfriend. You CAN do both - support each other with your careers and spend time with each other when possible. Relationships are work, too, and if you can compromise, things can work that way too. But it's all in what matters most to you and your life & future right now.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I would say....see where the relationship goes. After all, you are only 21 and she is 23. Enjoy yourself and her and your many things that you having going on. No one says you have to marry this young lady or even think about that right now. Just enjoy everything life has to offer you before you get too serious. Now if the relationship doesn't go anywhere then move on and you will be able to find someone else. Good luck in your future endeavors.

Answer 3

If she were "the one", you would not need to ask this question. Do the bachelor thing, but be prepared for the fact that she will be dating others as well. Or maybe you could date but not be exclusive with her if she is willing to do that. You are 21, you need to live a little, there will be plenty of time later to be settled with one person. Good luck and have fun!

Answer 4

Age is nothing more than a number my dude. If at the age of 21, you feel more inclined to be involved in a long term relationship. I would have to say make it happen. If that young lady knows the meaning of communication, and you two have that as a strong foundation...I don't see what would prevent you two from working together, and planning for a future together. It feels so much better to have someone to come home to, as opposed to the opposite options available. There's only one thing ... with your saying, "...Im sure I will have alot of opportunities.." that statement, in itself ... indirectly says that you don't really see yourself remaining interested in this young lady.

Follow your heart my dude, and remember ...

"The best way to predict the future, is to create it." ~ Divine Bradley

Answer 5

Son, always remember a good woman is hard to find. Not all women are good women. The ones who you think are the best looking women, usually have issues. If you have a woman willing to stick by your side right now while you have nothing, then you should do her the honor of making her your main girl. It's nothing wrong with having a main girl. Sometimes the best ones are the ones you let go. Trust me, if she is a good woman, it will be worth it.

Take it from someone who has been there and done that.

Answer 6

Definitely do the bachelor thing. You are just starting your life. There's an entire world out there to explore, experiences to have and places and people to see. Now is absolutely NOT the time for you to even consider settling down.

Answer 7

At 21 and all you've accomplished, you still need to grow into it.
Reasoning doesn't kick in until 30 so why not wait until then to make those important decisions. Come on, live a little and find out who you are and what you really want.

Answer 8

1st slow down player OK u got an education and it sounds like a good one to. 2nd u have to find out if she really wants ur bragg'n azz girls can be iffy. And 3rd get some 1st if u ever bn wit a women u know @ 21 take ur time and get ur money and mind rite if she loves u she'll be. take it 2 da street

Answer 9

if you love her, you make a go at it... don't do the bachelor thing if you really think you want to be with her... then she doesn't have to wait. so please be sure you dont' want to be with her.most people would say yes, settle down with your career first, but love doesnt come easy and if it is love then your best to settle with her first , but just wait awhile on family (kids) take care and good luck..

Answer 10

If she is great then why not see where it's going. You have all those things going for you. Your relationship may or may not work out but atleast give it the chance to see.