How Do I make my dad understand I want a career not just a job?

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How Do I make my dad understand I want a career not just a job?
I am 24 years old. I have been doing seasonal work in Mallorca since I was 18. I was planning to go to Main Land Spain this Summer as I did not want to return to Mallorca. However my plans fell through. I have usually returned to a job in the winter after my stint in Mallorca. However this winter. I could not get my job back due to management changes and issues beyond my control so I signed on. As i was planning to go to Spain I worked a Part Time job in a cafe for 10 hours a week or so until the boss started to mess about and the hours and cr@p she dished out were not worth while.
When my plans of going to Spain did not work out I thought i would go spend the Summer in Skegness (I live in Bradford) with a friend. She was part way through moving house and things were going slow so I knocked that on the head.
Now I want a career not just a job. I want to get into Youth Work but it is a slow process how do I get my dad to understand. I don't feel I am wrong at wanting a good future.

while i was in Mallorca i achived all i could and i am happy with my choices.
yes it would have been nice to settle in mallorca have a nice little job and family and that but i have always wanted more.
The way my mum talk it is like my dad will throw me out as i can not be a sucessful as him or my mum or brother. Luck has a part is sucess and in time i will fall lucky i know Rome was not built in a day.
I am sick of the tears of frustration I cry almost every day and the pain i feel when things are not sucessful but i have to keep going.

I have GCSE's ranging from A-F City and Guilds Numeracy I know how to use a pc and the internet, I did BETC Leisure and Tourism Animation Option that is hotel entertainment and I have gone as far as i wanted to in Entertainment, I also did BTEC Overseas Operations which trained you to be a childrens rep I did as much as i could cope in that job.

Now when I left school I have no idea what I wanted to do career wise but i did not want to waste my life on dead end jobs so I did what i wanted to while i was young and gained work and life experience.

Now I know what i want to do and it is youth work or something in residential Units ( Children's homes)
I want a career that is challenging and rewarding and i am willing to study again and volunteer but its hard to find the information as a lot comes from 3rd parties and criminal record checks take a while and the job centre are slow.
My dad thinks i am lazy and sit on my backside. It is tearing my mum to pieces as dad is on her back

My mum is stuck in the middle as she knows what i want to do but my dad is not willing to understand and it is not easy living at home.
At time I help with the cleaning but in everybody else eyes this is my destiny when i get married to be a mother and a wife and do the house work and have a job and i kind of resent doing that now but i do.
i always believed parents were meant to support you in you descisions and my mum does but she is again Piggy in the middle between me and my dad. I feel like that baddy for wanting to provide a better future ffor myself while i still can but my dad thinks i should get a job any job. He does not see todays world Im in a catch 22 with recruitment agencies if i have experience they want qualifications and visa versa.

I decided to go to mallorca to work and learn the language which i have done.
I am now home and I have always when able to paid my own way as much as I can i have learnt to budget and be good with my money to avoid problems in my future

Answer 1

Well, first of all, I'm glad that you have the attitude that you have to keep going and you're not giving up. That's great! I understand how tough parents can be and they set their expectations high for their children. It sounds to me that you have an idea of what you want to do, but you're still trying to get there. What I recommend is to sit down and write down all of your goals on a piece of paper. Create a map of what you have done and what you still have to do to get to where you want to be. Plan out your career steps and start taking them. Once you start making progress, show your parents that you are serious about what you want. Sometimes people just need to see concrete evidence that you are serious about something, and not just saying you are.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I understand BOTH sides of this situation. You seem to have a problem focusing on your goals and achieving them. Your Father sees that and thinks that this latest decision to get into Youth work is just another passing fad. The only way to change his mind is to return to Mallorca and work there with your family but start taking your classes part time on your own...and above all STICK WITH IT. It wont be long until your parents see that you are serious about this and will do their best to support you.

Also you are an Adult. It sounds to me like you still live at home or rely on your parents for some kind of support. Now would be a good time to actually do the adult thing and work on your own WITHOUT your parents finicial support and achieve your goals on your own. The success will be so much sweeter when it comes....and the failure (IF that is the outcome) will be a far easier to face.

Answer 3

I grew up in America and I have had to fight for everything I've done, as my parents are wonderful people but are not at all into things that I am into. My parents are both laborers and didn't even understand that I wanted to go to college where I wanted to go. I think they expected everything to fall through. They didn't.

I think that even if your parents don't want you to live there anymore, fine. You can work and support yourself. Many people have to do that even earlier. If you are willing to leave your family in pursuit of your goals, then you will have proven that you are serious.

Your parents will always love you. They just want the "best" for you. Problem is... they don't know what's best for you. You have to find out.

Just move out if you have to, get an apartment, and do what you have to do. When you are a success, you can go to them and show them that you were not wrong.
God Bless you.

Answer 4

well.. first if you can get a career instead of dead end jobs: you gonna get paid after few years three times the amount you would be getting paid at the beginning.
To study means you are capitalising ... spending a lot for two or three years but after gettin paid much more and having a much better social position. And also not being frustrated by years of lousy jobs but rewarded by a career you have chosen and persecuted for yourself...
Do you think that'll do for your dad?

Answer 5

He does not have to understand, just do it. You are 24 and he has no choice.

Answer 6

Like my father once told me... "If you do what you love, and do it very well, eventually someone will pay you to do it".
Follow these guidelines and I'm sure your dad will understand.

Answer 7

your 24.. you dont need to tel lyou dad what you want to do... just do it!