my boyfriend have cheated on me with his friend at his office, but he's back at me now. Would he cheat again in our next relation?Somebody told me if someone have cheated on you for the firsttime, it would be there's a secound and etc...
Can I forgive him tottaly for a while I always remind what he have done to me, it's so painfull for me..
Is our relation can still move on?
2006-07-18 02:59:16 · 6 answers · asked by cute-girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, Please, oh Please check your grammer when you write English the next time. I mean, It simply is horrendous to read bad grammer. <
Anyways, now to your question, DO NOT Believe people who say, "Once a Cheater, always a Cheater". They are telling that because they have NOT cheated. And people always like to put other people down when they hurt love. Have you spoken to a Cheater and asked him/her what they feel and why they cheated?? Chances are, they will say that they cheated to fill in a void or a vacuum that thier partner could not or did not fill.
I have been cheated by my girl 3 times. I am forgave her all the 3 times. It was not easy the first time, because I didnt know how to react. It was new to me. The Second time, I was shocked, the third time, I was ready to break up. But I wanted to stay commited. No matter what, because, when you love, and when you fall in love, your love is so unconditional, that you promise yourself to love the other person no matter what. What changes when they cheat? Why dont you ask that person why they cheated on you? Why do we hurt ourselves before we know all the reasons?
Forgive him, but sit down and talk to him first. Be there for him. If he is really repentent about the whole affair ( no pun intended ) then this would teach him and you a good lesson.
You will need to spend more time communicating with him, more effectively. Get to know him better, as a friend and then as a lover and then as a Soul mate. You will never go wrong then.
Again, Forgiving him or not is entirely left upto you. And you have as much right to Not Forgive him as he had to cheat on you.
But when you decide you are ready to forgive him, also forget the past. Easier said than done. But remember that Time is the greatest healer and you need to tell him that he will need to win your trust and love all over again.
All the best
2006-07-18 03:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think the best thing is to don't expect anything. You should keep a relationship with him without expecting anything. Talk to him ,enjoy with him but don't think he'll not cheat you. Even if he cheats you again and again just don't take care much. I think the best thing is to learn to live with all kinds of people. Because anyone can cheat you anywhere. Sometimes it may be your own brothers ,sisters or even parents. Its difficult but it makes you strong. And don't be revengefull.Terminating a relationship doesn't mean much because you'll always meet cheaters in life. Better to learn to live with all kinds of people.
2006-07-18 10:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by ravi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. A women I know married a cheater and 20 years into their marriage I saw him out with that blonde from the race track again. Being with a cheater is too dangerous these days. My first husband was unfaithful and he brought HPV home to me. (its an incurable std) Please move on. For the good of your heart and body.
2006-07-18 10:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get hurt again once a cheater always a cheater thats just the way it is.And you say he works in the same office with the person that he cheated with.sorry it will happen again because the temptations there and if not her there will be someone else to catch his eye
2006-07-18 10:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its possible that he made a mistake and he wont do it again but its also possible that he may keep doing this too you because you took him back... I guess only you know your Man and his personality and what hes capable of. Usually if men cheat they will do it again. If he showed remorse for what he did he may have made a mistake if he didnt then get out while you still have your sanity and before you catch a disease!!!
2006-07-18 10:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
srry but it is true once a cheater always a cheater... but u will find some ppl who only do it once so maybe ur lucky. there is much better guys out there for you tho. hope u find a great guy :)
2006-07-18 10:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by diamondprincezz456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋