I have been married for 6 years and with my husband for 11 years so we know each other very well. We do have the 3some fantasy and I have to be honest I am really getting into it. It's never been reality although we are looking at actually going ahead. In my mind though its more tender than sexual.
The question is this really - how do I go about meeting another woman I find attractive but is interested in a 3some as I am not a lesbian - just into a bit of fun. I'm in Coventry in the UK so it's not as easy I guess as in the US or in London.
What advise would you have for me/us and what is the best way to not offend anyone in the process. I don't agree with paying websites for their "services" - it's a bit sleazy.
I know this isn't really the right area to post this in - but I don't want a lot of stupid replies from blokes "offering their services" - not V helpful!
2006-07-18 02:51:55 · 11 answers · asked by sarah_home_uk 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Try a local contact magazine, and these days you can find local people wanting to make the same connections in your local paper Classified adverts.
Remember that the person you choose has to appeal to both of you - someone who can arouse your husband while maintaining your comfort-zone, otherwise one or the other of you will have a bad experience with this.
Likewise, it can be easier to find someone from within a social group. If you and your husband were to go a little further than your local pub or club (about 10 miles may work) you may be able to meet someone new socially.
You are not alone in this fantasy - plenty of other people want the same thing! The first port of call should be contact magazines or local papers. Good luck finding what you want!
2006-07-18 02:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Chris M 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Give Love@Lycos a go on www.lycos.co.uk it is a free dating service and not in any way sleazy. Lots of bi-girls on the site looking for just what you are offering. Be warned though once you bring a third person into a relationship it can easily all end in disaster. No matter how much you and love each other someone will end up feeling left out. I can speak from experiance and the experiance of my friends. Let the person know you are just wanting sex and not for her to be part of the relationship.
Appart from that, Good luck!
2006-07-18 02:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one option would be to try a swingers club. while you might not be into the sceen itself, you might meet somebody you both liked that would act as your 3rd.
they have lots of online websites too (free) you just register and choose an ID. Post a note saying what your after and wait for any replies.
* I've been looking into this myself.
JJ
2006-07-18 23:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by just_jen2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try chatting in specific chat rooms in places like AOL, Yahoo, and gay.com. As for paying, I certainly wouldn't pay a matching service, their fees are ridiculous and it is hard to claim anyting on their guarantee if they match you with a poor choice. But you might have to pay the small annual fee to a place like yahoo personals to get the job done.
And I agree with you...I don't know why people will answer you and try to come on to you when they are the opposite of what you stated you want to meet.
2006-07-18 05:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...just as strange an answer. try joining a swingers club. there are plenty about the country. just going doesnt mean you have to do anything, but it means you can meet people on a more social level that might be open to the threesome idea. i definatly agree with whats been said above though, i personally couldnt stand to see my partner involved with anyone else, it would kill it for me. but a friend of mine has joined a swingers club with her partner and have found it a great way to experiment with their sexuality...good luck hun
2006-07-18 08:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by meowser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to craigslist.org. Over on the left select the uk and then pick the nearest city to. Its free.
Insist on a picture.
Be clear about what you want in your post.
2006-07-18 05:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome would be a giant mistake. The sight of your husband having sex with another woman would spoil your marriage forever. Don't confuse fantasy with reality.
2006-07-18 02:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Doctor Hand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to see your man doing it on another woman?It may ruin your life.Life and fantacy are different.If you still want ,join local swingers club or some wife swaping arrangement.Adult website like http://www.alt.com may help you.
2006-07-21 00:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go ahead with this, it'll be the beginning of the end of your marriage.
Fantasy is one thing but reality has consequences.
2006-07-18 05:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by eireblood2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gaydar or gaydar girls have a few bi people that are looking for similar, also face party. both of these sites have a profile facility and a chat and messaging facility for free.
2006-07-18 10:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by softly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋