If you're married or in a long-term relationship, how do you keep you desire for others in check? Seems very difficult!?
2006-07-18 02:26:12 · 22 answers · asked by slans 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The answer is simple:
You do not put yourself in a position to fail.
If you put yourself in dangerous situations, then you're inviting bad things to happen. .
Don't engage in sexual conversations with someone of the opposite sex.
Don't go out alone with someone of the opposite sex if one of you is attracted to the other.
Don't get flirty with people you see on an everyday basis.
Get the drift?
Cheating is bad...but at the same time, it can be really hot. lol. Once you're in the situation, no one is going to be able to resist...so the only way to avoid it...is to avoid the situation all together.
2006-07-18 02:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult!! But luckilly Jesus already conquered sin and we can ask for strength to help us resist temptations. Also, another thing would be to work on your relationship with your partner, to strengthen your weak points. For example, if you feel that you are lacking something in the relationship, you will probably develop a strong desire for it and start seeing the potential to find it in other men/women. Open communication can help so that you can let your partner know what you really need. Keep your relationship fun and do original and new things together so that you don't get bored. And of course, read the Bible and pray together so that Satan doesn't come in with his temptations. God promises in the Bible that you will not be tempted beyond what you can handle!!
2006-07-18 09:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men/women simply cannot keep things in check. It usually has to do with low self-esteem and it is their way of boosting their ego. It's also a way they can reassure themselves they still are attractive to the opposite sex.
It can be difficult to resist temptation. But if your long-term relationship or marriage has any real meaning, the desire for others should remain in the foreground.
2006-07-18 09:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you don't know the difference between right and wrong if you have to ask that question. Temptations of the flesh? Where is your head at? Are you some kind of animal acting on primal instinct or a human being with a brain and the ability to reason? You desire others because you want to and choose to. That's it and nothing more. Your choice.
2006-07-18 09:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a natural question. We are all human and especially in this society where so much sexuality is flaunted, it is much more tempting to be attracted. The first thing you must do is to make up your mind that you WILL NOT stray. This is really important because if you leave the door open just a crack, you will fall. You must determine not to stray. Then the Bible says "bring every thought into captivity in obedience to Christ." You must exercise your will like you do when you exercise muscles. Use your will to bring EVERY thought captive, just stop the thought immediately. Don't entertain the thought, like going on and on with the thought, dragging it on, then it has ensnared you and you will have to fight harder to stop it.
Having a thought come into your mind is not sin, but entertaining it is sin. Look in the 1st chapter of James.
I have faced the same battle. But I have conquered it doing what I have told you. I know it is serious and hard, but if you want to, really want to, you can bring it under control.
2006-07-18 09:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by pierson1953 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God to give you control over your sexuality every single day. Avoid anything and everything that is associated with promoting temptations of the flesh stick to reading the Bible instead of steamy novel, avoid watching movies and music videos that center around fleshly desires.
2006-07-18 09:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we all know that from time to time you will be tested in the area of fidelity. And yes it is difficult especially if you are having problems in a relationship but not impossible. Just keep you mind focus on what you have with your partner and be willing not jeopardize for no one. And if that doesn't work try very not to put yourself in compromising situations.
2006-07-18 10:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult. However, if you make no plans to act on these desires, and keep your impulse control in line, you'll be ahead of the game. During my 3rd marriage I faced this problem a lot, and the way I dealt with it was by concentrating on the negative fallout if I acted on these desires. This kept me anchored in reality.
2006-07-18 09:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overcoming the difficulty of severing all other relations and temptations is what makes a good relationship or marriage so special. It is all right to look, but don't touch and you will be rewarded by having a relationship you can be proud of and cherish for years.
2006-07-18 09:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flee from it!! Have your partner with you as far possible if you are alone with the opposite sex, that will keep your juices in check and mind at bay.....from fantazing....or imagining anything further than a brother or sister relationship. Avoid giving male/female colleagues a ride home....wherever you are in a situation of being alone....if you think you cant have senses and mind in check. FLEE FROM EVERY FORM OF EVIL! The man/woman isnt evil...its the thoughts...Another....Think thoughts that are good, upright......
2006-07-18 09:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Dodobird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋