Why do girls stand for abuse?

Question

Hello,

People it has always bothered me that girls stand for abuse, they know they are worth more and why do they stay with guys that treat them like crap?

Why not get out there and find a guy that will truly love you for what you are, very special beautiful creatures that make all the difference in this world, they make it worth living!!

Thanks!!

Answer 1

do you want to be my boyfriend and treat me like u said in ur question he he?

i take quite a lot of s**t off my boyfriend and i know theres other men out there who are nice etc but ive been looking for a few years or so now and cant quite seem to find any nice ones!so its easier to stay with the one who your used to a bit of abuse off. But dont be fooled, its not all one way, i abuse him ( verbally of course ) quite alot too.

Its all swings and roundabouts my friend

xxx

Answer 2

A lot of the time its that the guy that is abusing them has broken them down to believe that they could never do better than them. Sometimes there are kids involved and the guy will threaten that she will not keep them if she leaves. Sometimes they are scared for their own saftey if they leave or the guy will know that if he says that he will hurt him self she will not leave. Sometimes is stems from issues that happened in childhood. It could be that they are craving the attention of the oppisite sex so badly that they justify the 10 bad things that person did with 1 good thing. The other big thing is like a lot of relationships the girl will see it long before it escalates in to something really bad but she believes she is the girl that will change him, and she will try and try but never change him. She will think that his change is just around the corner and not want to give up on him.

I completely agree with you on the fact that they should get out and find someone who will treat them the way that they should be treated. Its always easier said than done.

Answer 3

Hello
I was in a abusive relationship for ten years.
I was also protective of the man that was abusing me.
I wouldnt call the police, and I made up excuses for him.
I didnt tell my family or close friends about the abuse.
Shortly before the abuse started I had lost both my
parents, and shortly there after i went through a divorce.
Im not sure if It was the fact that I am an only child, but
I felt very alone. Loosing my parents was devastating.
I felt depressed and my self esteem was low I was
also afraid of being alone again . I think these factors
were the reasons I put up with it for so long. Ive since then
left that relationship, and My self esteem is back!

Answer 4

i am a lady and i have been married 28 years this month past 5 have been pure hell he is an alcholoic and a verbal and physical abuser i dont know why i dont just walk out its hard to say good bye i have a 13 year old son still at home plus two more children a daughter age 21 another son age 27 two grandkids ages 5-2 i dont love him any more and i tell him that but i just cant take that big step i guess i keep hoping he will get help and change but i dont think that will ever happen i do not want any one else in my life but my family so its not because i have interest in someone else that the last thing i want been married since i was 17 i just want to not have to be worried and scared all the time he calls me bad names all the time but i know what kind of a person i am and i think i am a very good person if only i could take that big step ang get out i dont know why we stand for abuse but its high time we stand uo for ourselves

Answer 5

Actually alot of women who are in abusive relationships do not know they are worth more. Most of them get brain washed by their abuser to believe that this is how relationships are. Many women fall in love with their abuser before he becomes abusive, than many times she thinks he will change and that she cant leave him because she loves him. Theres also the scared factor.
y best friends mother was being very badly abused and her husband was abusing the kids too, she used to say she was going to call the cops. The next day her husband bought a gun and she never opend her mouth. It is hard to imagine but there are actually alot of reasons why abused women feel the need to stay in the relationship and the worste part is they believe those reasons are true

Answer 6

The trouble is that these women who are in abusive relationships don't realize that they have other options ..more often than not the abused women have been brain washed into thinking that they are they scum of the universe and that they deserve the abuse ...These women are grateful to their abusers for being in a relationship with them so they tolerate the mental, emotional and physical pain...it gives them the feeling of validity....This is a sad and alarming fact...Teaching young women the value of self worth is more important then people realize ...If only schools would teach a woman studies class in high school so young women would know what to look out for..
This would also assist them in realizing that a man's opinion should never be the determining factor in how you perceive yourself...

Answer 7

Because the person who is abusing you is the one you love, yeah we as gurls should stop that kind of thing happening but everytime he apologize's it does make it a bit better - Until the next time, But it's like when your a child if you have done something bad and you get smacked for it, if you moved then next hit would be the hardest, like in a relationship with a gurl, the next hit is always gonna be harder than the first hit and more soo on ...

There is alot of help out there .. Just gurls dont have the confiedence to go to places .. or aren't even aloud outside in public alone!

It will always be un-answerd

Answer 8

i think they get stuck with the first impression the male gave and they hope it will be that way again some day, that its just a phase for the guy to be that way.some honestly think that things will get better,but they never do.some are mentally and physically abused. i can not tell you which hurts more because ive been there.when i was in that situation i felt i wasnt going to find any one that was any different.then plus you think well at least they are not cheating on me., yet i wasnt even realizing the pain is no different regardless of how they hurt you.i always felt cheating and lying are the worst, but its not.well now that ive spilled my guts, good question!! i must say i do like the way you look at girls in general!!stay that way!cheers!

Answer 9

My ex abused me and i always used to say i would never let a man hit me. I am a sensible person but when you are in that situation its not actually that easy. I deeply loved my boyfriend and when he hit me i didnt want to admit it because i couldnt face leaving him. I made excuses for him that i genuinely believed. He also very cleverly knocked down my confidence so i thought no one else would want me and i thought i couldnt manage on my own, he made me need him. It wasnt until we split that i realised how he had manipulated me, i lost most of my friends because he wanted me with him all the time, i thought this was because he couldnt be without me but i now realise it was so i became isolated and vulnerable. Lots of women say they wouldnt stand for it but i bet many do for the same reasons, I hope that makes sense! I answered your Q before, this is why it hurts me to see my best friend going through the same thing but gives me insight, you can E mail me if you want to know anything else xx P.S its a load of crap that deep down women like being treated like that. Nobody has the right to make assumptions unless they have been there.

Answer 10

Some of us stay with guys that are complete vvankers for the challenge, where as some girls just arent mentally strong enough to stand up 4 themselves and telling the lowlife stupid **** to piss off, probably thanx 2 the guy being mentally abusive to them!!

Its not always the guy treating women like shite though...
We can be 100% bitches if we want!!!

Answer 11

I think this is the question for the decade nice question I think yuo are on the same level as I am very aggravating I liked this girl a lot and she got abused so much she could have it 100 times better with me but she would rather get abused so **** her she deserves it. i only got that attitude after watching her get beat for a year well let me know who comes up with a logical anwser I am dying to know