My niece thinks she wears a size 9 but in reality she wears a size 16.?

Question

How do I tell her she looks horrible in those too little clothes she buys?

Answer 1

go shopping with her and tell her you will pick out some clothes. Then show when she is trying them on tell her that they look soooo much better or mature than the other clothes she is wearing. Plus, talk to her parents, tell them to stop buying her those clothes.

Answer 2

Firstly, she must be extremely uncomfortable....geez! Tell her she would look "thinner" if her clothes FIT better.....having bulges , overly stretched material and gaps MAKE you look even heavier. A size 16 is a large size but putting that size 16 body into a 9 must be torture for her on many levels.....tell her maybe a diet ( of course, in a very diplomatic way) might benefit her and then buying a size 9 or even a 7 will look absolutely terrific on her. She is obviously "blocking out" her weight problem by wearing smaller clothes and she needs encouragement to lose weight......not ridicule. Tell her that when she fits into a real "9" you will buy her an outfit and all the accessories. ( I sure know how to spend your money, eh?) It might give her a goal and an incentive to lose the weight. Put her up to the challenge......Good luck to both of you!

Answer 3

Sign her up for "What Not to Wear". (Maybe?)

A lot of the answers on here will cause a fight between the two of you so even though you are irritated with her and most likely a little embaraseed to be seen with her, I would probably keep my mouth shut if she's an adult.

If she's a kid, that's a different story. You do need to say something to her and her mother who should be beaten severly for allowing her kid to dress like that. If your niece is a kid, then her mother is not only allowing this behavior but also most likely paying for it.

Step up to bat, take her shopping, foot the bill and allow a sales person to help your niece. Do not purchase anything that is too small for her.

Part of the problem is that right now, the styles for women are skimpy and even super skinny women look a little on the trampy side. Just because the clothes fit tight and the waste is low and the shirt is high, doesn't mean one should wear it. Just because it says it's your size, doesn't mean it looks good on you.

Kids sometimes get lost just in just trying to wear what's in style for their age group. You don't have to travel far to see young women dressed so that their mid-drifts not only show, they ooze over their belt line. As a women, I find this horrible. I can't imagine that too many men like it either.

Tread lightly, help her as best you can and hope that she eventually out grows this phase in her life.

Answer 4

Try to be honest, but not bluntly honest with her. She could be buying the smaller sized clothes in order to feel better about herself and about the fact that even though it's not technically her size, she can still squeeze into them. Or perhaps she is embarrassed to buy clothes that are her actual size at the stores she shops at.

I would say to try and go shopping with her the next time around and to point out a few clothes that would fit her physique a bit better. If she tries them on and they look good compliment her for it and suggest that she buy them.

I would also be VERY careful how you bring up this topic with her, but try to be sympathetic to the fact that you may just be bursting her ego and depressing her by telling her this stuff.

If she doesn't want to listen, then I would drop the subject. People are free to wear what they want and we're free to criticize. We may not like someone's personal style of dress but it's the person inside that really matters.

I've said this a million times and I'll say it again. It's not what you are, but who you are in the long run.

In any case, people will be who they are regardless of how they dress. Try to overlook the negative quirks and find positive things you enjoy about people.

Answer 5

Uh... how does she fit into them?

I think you should just buy her a top thats the right size for her.. or take her out shoping and make sure she chooses the right size of clothes =)

Don't really think that you should tell her.. maybe hint and say "oo that top is looking a bit small on you, maybe I could take you out shopping to get something that fits better".. she might take the hint!

How old is she?

Answer 6

You must be exaggerating...I am a size 12 and I couldn't get size 9 jeans half way up my legs. Maybe she's really a size 10 or 11. Buy her a really cute pair of jeans that will fit her and let her see how much comfortable they are and how much better they look.

Answer 7

Take a photo of her in one of her bad outfits. Take her shopping and get her to try on clothes of the correct size, without her knowing what the sizes are, then take a photo of that and then compare the two.

She sounds like she's in denial. If she's so concerned, go with her to the gym, somehow get her to realise that it's ok not to be size 9 (I assume that's what her friends are).

Good luck.

Answer 8

Well, just start off by saying "I think that's a little too tight for my liking. Try on a twelve or something and we'll see how that fits." or for her birthday, get her an outfit that is 16 and beg her to try it on so you can see how it is on her. If your niece fits into it nicely, tell her it looks really good on her. That should work perfectly.

Answer 9

Since your related to her, just tell her the truth or buy her some size 16 and say they fit a lot better and look a lot better.

Answer 10

Just ask her to humor you, she isn't ACTUALLY a size 16 but maybe trying somethinig on from a size 16 could show her how cute she could look with baggier clothes. I'm assuming this is juniors?