Lets say I lived with the same woman for the rest of my life but we didn't get married, what would be the difference if we got married? Besides tax breaks. And save your religious babble cause I don't believe in it.
2006-07-18 02:00:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is only SIN in the eyes of you pathetic bigots who have become brainwashed.
2006-07-18 02:07:04 · update #1
a piece of paper
2006-07-18 02:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by kaz 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Commitment. When you take those vows, and put the ring on your finger then you (if you are a person who believes in commitment)are agreeing to never leave this persons side no matter what happens in life. No matter how ugly or hairy it becomes you will stick it out with them beside you. If you are not a person of true commitment then it means nothing and you are just wasting your money and time just to make others happy that you are married. I have been married to the same guy for 27 yrs. Has not always been peaches and cream. Many times we had to work through the rough stuff. But each time you work through the rough stuff and don't throw in the towel your commitment and marriage becomes that much stronger. When you allow the ugly stuff to break up the marriage with out even trying to get through it. You weren't really committed in the first place. Children are a commitment too. When your child turns 12 and becomes a living pain in the backside will you give up on them? Or will you work through it because they are your children? No questions asked. This is the same way you need to enter into marriage. If this is not the attitude you have then do not get married for it will end in divorce before your 5th year. When you live together either one can walk out the door with no explanation at any time. A very insecure way of life.
2006-07-18 02:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married a couple years ago. I went through the cermony, but felt it was really unnecessary. Believe it or not, it was more important to him that we get married. I had already made my commitment to him and knew we would be together. I didn't think a piece of paper could make any difference in how I felt or our relationship.
Physically, being married was no different than living together. We had already sorted out who pays what bills and does what chores etc... We argued about the same things we did before being married and our personalities were the same. The only real physical difference was the fact that we both now wore rings.
That being said, there is something different. The first time I was introduced as his wife and him as my husband, it hit me. It's very subtle and it's hard to explain, but marriage in a way verifies & solidifies your commitment. The person is the same as they were before you got married, but there's something to being able to look at them and know they are your husband (or wife) and know that publicly you made a lifelong commitment to each other.
I hope this helps and possibly answers your question. In case you're wondering, my husband and I lived together for 3 years before getting married and have been married now for about 2.
2006-07-18 02:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, but put a little gruffly. Whether you want to believe it or not, religion and spirituality are two completely different things. I think the main difference between marriage and living together permenently would only be the cermony, and the fact that you would have to get legally divorced if you wanted to seperate. I don't think there is anything permenant about any relationship. Leaving, divorce, all those are viable options. I am also not sure the woman would go for simply living with you the rest of her life. I think that most women (I didn't say all) are looking for that ring and that level of commitment. If you can't give her that, she might not want to be with you. It almost sounds as if you are not willing to get married simply because you are afraid of it. Why not get married? If you are willing to be with this woman for the rest of your life, what is so wrong with putting a ring on her finger and calling her yours? What would you refer to her as if you did not marry her? Your long time girl friend? Your roommate? Your co-habitant? What title would she hold?
2006-07-18 02:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by swedchef13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you're rather upset about the religious aspect aren't you?! My goodness.
Anyway.... Marriage implys committment. Both legal and religious. It's a written promise/contract with the spouse. It makes it alot harder to get out of the relationship. If you aren't married there is no mess of lawyers and fees to move out.... Unless there are children. If there are children you can arrange custody yourself but there will be no legal recourse if the arrangements are broken. For the stuff... you just split it out between you if you break up and go your separate ways no questions asked.
2006-07-18 02:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really know the difference, it sounds like you want to justify your position. If you want to do it, just do it, why try to get justification for it. You sound really touchy about religion. WHy? Have you been hurt? The only reason I think that people absolutely shut the door on "sin issues" is because they have already made up their mind and don't want to feel bad about it. Dont wanna change even it was wrong. Oh well, you alone have to live with your decisions. Do what you want, you are going to anyway.
2006-07-18 02:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by pierson1953 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I look back on my wedding day I realize I could not have done it any other way. To me the difference is marriage is about proving to eachother legally you vow to pledge your life to this person. Just knowing that you are Mr. and Mrs. fills even your worst moments with the sense of devotion. Because marriage is harder to get out of than a live in mate...it allows you the feeling to really TRY to work small disagreements out.
hope this helps
2006-07-18 02:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy makes up bull stories. It's not true. He's some 14-year-old boy who sits around on Yahoo Q&A all day harassing people and making up stories just to get a rise out of people. Just take a look at the other questions and answers he's posted if you don't believe me. Don't even give him the time of day.
2006-07-18 23:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a legal contract, that protects both parties. It allows the transfer of assets at death to be taxfree, (it also provides for a greater exclusion of capital gains upon the sale of a home),and it also provides for the equitable distribution of joint assets (like a home), should the "union" not last. It also provides either spouse with the legal authority to make decisions should the other be incapicitated, (Terry Schiavo).
2006-07-18 02:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In western soceity, not a whole lot. A ring, a piece of paper and arty. Not to mention the financial responsibility if it doesn't work out. That's pretty much what it means to me, however to some women, it means a lot more.
2006-07-18 02:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd qualify for your spouses healthcare benefits (if they have any), Social Security and retirement benefits, hospital visitation rights, the ability to make decisions regarding medical care should they become incapacitated, joint property rights, the ability for your combined incomes to be considered when applying for credit. . . There are over 1,000! Do you want the whole list?
2006-07-18 02:06:45 · answer #11 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋