i am 15 my mom just walked in on me and my bf sleeping together naked... what should i tell her to make her feel better? i feel SO BAD i never wanted to hurt anyone. but now 15 years of trust are down the drain, and she will never look at me the same again. ANY advice?? please?
2006-07-18 01:36:11 · 7 answers · asked by DeAd DiScO 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
we've been together for a year and a half, been having sex since may. no ones found out until now. I AM SO ******* SCARED please take this question seriously
2006-07-18 02:04:02 · update #1
yes we had sex... we used condoms and im on the pill. but i am still not as worried as getting pregnant as i am about losing my mom. she says he can never come over again but i really do love him and want to be with him forever, otherwise i wouldn't do that with him.
2006-07-18 02:20:33 · update #2
theres not use in denying anything because she seen it but the trust is gone for now you have to earn it back again I know that you dont want to go without seeing your bf but thats gonna have to happen for a while just do everything she says about doing agree to only have him over when shes home and not in your room and gain back that trust, that way your mom knows that she can trust you again just be patient and just follow the rules for a while and just take time to let her trust you again and when she does dont ruin it because she may never trust you again.
2006-07-18 03:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with her. Let her know that you used protection and that way she knows you are safe from pregnancy and diseases! I have a 15 year old son, and I have faced the facts- if a teen is going to have sex- they r going to have sex and we cannot stop that!!! Alls we can do is teach them about protection and the diseases out there and hope they protect themselves and apparently you did that so that shows amazing responsibility and even if she is not proud of you- Im proud of you!!! Your mom probably just had all these wonderful plans for u- hoping you would remain innocent for a very very long time. She is probably worried cuz you havent told her about the protection yet! Open your heart to her. Even if she doesnt talk back- she can hear you talking! Tell her u love your boyfriend and you did use protection for pregnancy and diseases. Let her know you were responsible with it. It still will not thrill her- but she sdhould be very relieved that u were so responsible. I know I would be!!!! She will look at you the same again sweetheart I promise you! A mothers love CANNOT be broken for anything in this world!
2006-07-18 11:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be naked with anyone and especially in your home! There is nothing that you can say that will gain back that trust that you have worked so hard on all this time or make her feel any better.
You will have to start all over with building up that trust. Your mom is going to be hurt for quite sometime. I'm sure she's very disappointed in you too. I know I would be with my sons if that were to happen to me.
At some point you are going to have to sit down and talk with your mom about what happened.
You say she saw you sleeping naked together. You don't say how old your boyfriend is, you don't say why you were naked, and you don't say if you had sex or not. All these are questions that need to be answered.
At 15, you need to have a boyfriend close to your age, if you even should have a boyfriend. You should be hanging out with kids your age and in groups, not alone and naked.
If you are having sex, then you need to think this all the way through. Are you using protection? Do you know that no protection is 100% safe except for not having sex? Has the boy had sex with anyone else? Was it protected sex too? If not then you are having sex with everyone he had sex with before and have a chance of getting all they may have! How about if you get pregnant? Do you think he will stay around? Probably not. How will you tell your mom? How do you think she will feel about that if she is this upset with you sleeping naked together? How will you tell his parents you're pregnant? Will you keep the baby? Will you give it up for adoption? Can you finish school at your school? Do they allow pregnant students? Are you involved in Cheerleading or anything else that you will have to stop because you're pregnant? If you keep the baby, who will watch it while you are at school? If you want to go out on a date or with friends? Just know that your friends will change too because you will be changed. You now have an obligation to this child and you will be "different" from them.
If you have had sex, it doesn't mean that you have to continue. You can stop at any time. Even if you had sex with this boy you can stop having it with him. Just say no, you want to stop. don't let him "make' you continue if you don't want to. Don't let him say "you will if you love me"...give him back, "you won't make me if you love me". If he leaves you because you won't have sex with him then he wasn't with you to begin with for you, he was with you because he got sex from you and he would move on anyway when someone else would give him sex.
Talk with your mom. It's going to be hard. There are going to be hard feelings for awhile and you're going to have to build up your trust again. It might take a very long time to do it...but this is the consequences you have to deal with...besides, if you were sleeping naked with him in your home, deep down I think you wer wanting to be "found out" so it could stop.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 09:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by 317bossyaussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well trust me...if you think that was the worst thing that could have happened in your life...forgedaboudit!!
The worst thing is if the doctor tells you..."yepp!! your pregnant!!"
and all of a sudden your boyfriend wont answer your phone calls.
And dont worry about it...you mom is your mom...and unless you have been lying to her about NOT having sex yet, she will come around, you might want to open up to her and tell her you have questions.
2006-07-18 08:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok she saw it so no use denying it....
just sleeping? well say that you didnt do anything its just too dam hot to sleep dressed!! but maybe in a nicer politer more respectful way.....
2006-07-18 08:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-18 09:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by redskins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WORRY ASK YOUR MOM AL SO TO DO THE SAME THEN SHE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU WHY YOU CHOOSE HIM.
2006-07-18 10:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by mohd s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋