Ladies, I am facing a kind of problem which I think only Ladies could answer. All guys have the same opinion.?

Question

I Think I am addicted to sex. I have slept with more than 40 women as of now and I'm only 25. I am worried, that it might affect my married life later on, as I would never want to cheat on my wife, but still might do it. It all started when I lost my virginity at the age of 14 to a girlfriend of a friend of mine. An age when a guy actually starts getting curious about these matters, and I got all the answers even before asking. And I am still on it. Everytime when I would go out thinking that I will not hook-up with anybody, I get up with some girl sleeping right next to me, whose name probably I wouldn't even remember. Every time I asked any guy to help me out of this situation, they would simply come out saying, try to take the most out of it. I do have a sentimental side which I am now scared to show it to anybody (women basically). What should I do? How do I get rid of this urge and need for sex every time? Its a sincere request, please help.

Answer 1

some of the above gurls already gave u some good advice, all i have to add is have WILL & POWER to CONTROL yourself not to keep on living this life.

it's great that you are aware of your problem. maybe what you can do is avoid hanging around places where temptation is high. or else what you can do is tell the gurls that you got a girl friend already and not willing to cheat on her. say something like that you know (wink)

and ohhh .... bite your tounge when ever you feel like asking a gurl to spend the nite with you ......

ps: believe in yourself and you get out of this habit.

remember one day it mite backfire on you if u keep sleeping around ... a baby, or a disiese should be the first reasons to stop this asap!

Answer 2

This is a difficult question. Do you know where the urge comes from and why you can't ignore it?

Perhaps you need to find you a girl who likes sex as much as you, so you can have a lot of sex with here.
Although this will not help you get rid of those urges and girls like that are likely to cheat themselves.

You need to discover that there are other things then sex in life. Perhaps a hobby?
And perhaps you need to talk to girls in a place that is not inviting to having sex. Try to see things you admire in girls; besides the sex you can have with them.

Although trying a psychologist might work. I'm not saying you're mentally sick or something like that, but he can help you discover why you want to have sex so much and if there are other things you can do to channel the urge or something like that.

Good luck

Answer 3

I would like to tell you that you are already taking the first step by asking. It is good that you want to make it right. Sex is really addictive. It is something that gives you acceptance and everything else under the covers. It gives satisfaction but it is actually the kind of satisfaction that never really satisfies, it makes you want for more. And when you're already hooked to it, it's hard to control it. Sex is a gift from God. He found that Adam was lonely and even as he created animals and plants to make him happy, none helped until he created Eve out of Adam's bossom. And God called her woman because she was made out of a man. Sex is a gift from God, it is a venue where you bare your soul and your whole being to a person. The whole act is a combination of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual interaction with the other person. YOu do not have to let go of your need for sex, it is a basic physiologic need of everybody. But you have to find the "genuine touch", why can you not be loyal to your future wife? if sex is your addiction and you love someone, you can do it with just that someone....

Answer 4

Yes, this can be bad if you intend on being married one day unless you marry a woman that has been with several guys. That way she will understand when you call her the wrong name in bed or she compares your size and performance to another guy that she was previously with.

The urges do not go away but your actions always begin with thoughts. You ended up in bed with a woman simply because you asked her to come over to your place (or you went over to her place) late at night with no purpose other than to "hang out".
To avoid this, when you meet her at the party or at the local bar, the moment you think about finding a way to convince her to go somewhere else with you then you need to dismiss that thought from your mind.

Before you get to that point if the conversation starts leading to going somewhere else and doing other things then you need to immediately change the subject.

Before you get to that point, I would even suggest that you go to other social venues that are not designed to encourage men and women to meet for the purpose of going to get laid afterwards.

And most importantly, before that, find some good friends, male and female, which you know you are not going to sleep with and/or someone who is not going to refer you to someone that you can hook up with for that purpose.

All in all if you change the company that you keep and dismiss the thoughts that lead to your undesired actions, you will no longer have that problem.

Answer 5

u r laking self control.do u know about latest neurological research.that our thoughts & emotions can affect our physical body & even our hormonal system.
it is apparent that u r laking the ability to regulate ur thoughts.
to strengthen ur will power i am telling u a very effective technique of meditation.
get shower bfore doing it.ur clothes should b clean.then sit in a dark room.environment should bpeacefull,sit in a relaxed posture on flour,ur waist should b straight.
close ur eyes,and imagin that blue lights are showering on u.these lights r comming from sky.
u can also imagin that ur room is full of blue lights.do this practice daily for 20 or 30 minutes.during this practice u have to forget about outer material world.just concentrate towards ur internal world.if u do it daily.u will get real happiness & pleasure from ur inner.and also many other benefits.
precautions:
this exercise should be done after 2 & 1/2 hour of eating anything.
best time is before sleeping at night or on waking in morning or midnight .select any convenient time.
try to avoid matter relating sex.
this practice will affect ur brain waves.ur brain will produce more alpha brain waves.that r sign of peace,relaxation & self control

Answer 6

Congratulations to you because you realize you DO have a problem, and that's a good start. I was watching the evening news a few years ago. It said that a teen-age girl always wanted to sleep with guys, and she never got satiated. Her parents took her to see the doctor, and they found out the core of the problem, and that's her sexual hormones. You may have the same problem. You must go see a specialist for medical help. I'm sure they can help you. Best wishes.

Answer 7

I think you should see your doctor or a psychologist for your answers. I am not sure how to go about controlling the urges, but if you plan on getting married someday then I would definitely look into what is causing the urges.

Answer 8

Seek out women with some self-esteem and intellect who have more self-respect for themselves than to jump into bed with a virtual stranger. Men would be well advised to follow this suggestion as well. Just because you have a penis doesn't make you immune to all the emotional baggage that comes with having too many partners and too few real relationships.

Answer 9

Cant forbid you men from getting horny all the time, but try this, get a beautiful friend, and make her just your friend, your secret mission is try to be her best friend. Cherish and keep your friendship, even if she want to have a go.

Treat this as a rehab for you.The only person who can help yourself is you!

If you failed this mission, you are in trouble mate! This means, you cant control yourself, especially when youre married one day. Remember, karma does exist.

Answer 10

i personally feel that if you love a person deeply enough and care enough for your partner, it will be impossible for you to cheat on him/her, because that would cause hurt to your partner. and people dont cause hurt to the people they love.

but of course, that's just a personal opinion, because if there are still people who love their partners and still cheat on them because they cannot resist the urge and the lust that overcomes them.

maybe u should talk to someone like a psychologist or something. they'll be able to understand whats going through your mind better and analyse how to help you and all that.

all i can tell you is to try your utmost and very hardest to resist the temptation. no matter how strong it is, i'm sure you'll be able to resist it. it's all in the mind. if you truly don't want to, you will definitely be able to stop yourself.

good luck. :)