I will always love her and I have someone else in my life now. But because of our daughter.( and I still love her) I want to be friends and stop all this yaya stuff. She is always angery towards me. I'm not the one who cheated. What's up with that?
2006-07-18 01:01:13 · 18 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes when people have alot of guilt in their heart for knowing they did something to hurt someone else sometimes its easier not to deal with that person..
Sometimes when someone has disliked a person for so long its hard to stop the anger.. the anger almost becomes habit .. and sometimes people replace anger for pain, they'd rather feel anger then have to feel the heartache..
Maybe its possible that although its totally her fault that she cheated on u..maybe she resents u for not being what she needed at that time.. most women cheat because they are lacking something emotional from their husband.. then some new guy comes into the picture showing her attention actting like he's ready to swoop her off into the sunset.. and well women are easy prey when it comes to our emotions.. and she fell into it.. maybe her guilt makes her resent u.. guilt for breaking her vow, for going against the bible and perhaps she resents you for not stopping it.. the "if he had only of done this or that i wouldnt of "..ect.. again NOT THAT ITS YOUR FAULT.. but that may be how she's dealing with it.. so the resentment turns into anger everytime she see's u..
Hard to say with out knowing her side of the story, the best u can do is just to be honest with her and tell u how u feel.. tell her u want to be friends.. but realize that friends with an x isnt the same as being regular friends.. its more like being civil to each other not sharing of personal lives.. if that makes sense..
Good luck.. it does get easier with time..
2006-07-18 01:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, she feels guilt and regret for what she has done and the only emotion she is capable of showing is anger. Or you don't bring out the best in her, or she's just bitter and evil.
Love your daughter, and don't worry about being friends with your ex, friendship is a two way street, no point in spending your time on a one way road. Focus on the people who want to be your friend.
2006-07-18 02:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she must be angry at herself and is taking it out on you. Does she have someone else in her life too? Maybe she is regretting what she did to you and it comes out in anger. You do need to remain civil with each other if you have a child together. But it takes two to fight, rise above it, ignore her "yaya stuff" and kill her with kindness. Just continue to be there for your little girl and don't let your ex ruin your new relationship. Good luck.
2006-07-18 01:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the whole story. But did you ever think that maybe you could have been part of it??? Were you always there for her when she needed you??? Were you working late, or out with the guys??? Or were you the kind of guy to always be home and sitting at the computer, or reading a book/newspaper, or drinking a beer and ignoring your wife. Obviously, she has some bitterness for some reason to get over. Give her time.
2006-07-18 01:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is feeling guility for what she did so she has a lot of angry in her and it parley your fault if you were being a better husband may be she wouldnt had to go out and cheated on you so you turn around and went out and found some one else just to get back at her cheating on you lol know your daughter is trap in the middle of this and pull between both of you and bothe of your realionship that both of you have is that fair to your daughter.
2006-07-18 01:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you share a daughter together and it would be easier on everyone if you could be friends. If you show each other respect it will be a good lesson for your child. She doesn't benefit anything from mom and dad arguing all the time.
2006-07-18 01:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by hollanduncan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you still love her thats why u still wanna be friends with her.
She is no good for u! She cheated ones why try to make her a friend. Just be civil for the sake of your daughter.
2006-07-18 01:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the situation but she might be upset that you didn't give her a second chance. I'm not trying to justify her affair but you know, I think people give up too easily in marriage.
My husband and I have been through some things that other people might divorce over but we didn't. And we are much, much stronger for it. Please don't take that the wrong way, but I honestly really think people give up too easily (even if it involves an affair)
2006-07-18 01:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by spike_is_my_evil_vampire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels guilty...she knows she screwed up, but typical of a lot of people, she won't just own up to her mistake and move on...she's got to try to mask it by finding things to be annoyed with you about...
Talk to her about it...y'all are no longer married so there's no need for nitpicking and fighting...I think it's great that you want to have a friendly relationship with her, especially for the sake of your child...
Bravo you...hopefully your ex will wake up and do what's best for her kid, since she didn't do what was best for her marriage...good luck!
2006-07-18 01:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you cant be friends with some one if they dont want to. it seems that you have physically moved on, so try moving on emotionally now. she is in the past and apparently likes it that way. why are you stressing so much over it. or do you have some guilt you are not admitting to? keep the relationship amicable for the daughter, but limit your interaction to just that..
2006-07-18 01:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋