I have recently separated after many years of marriage (age 36), and got my way to here, love some help.?

Question

Rough time is now behind me and found my way to Yahoo and it's great with plenty of options. Just not sure how to begin my new life with relationships, etc..... Can anyone assist me with groups or ways to simply say hi to someone if required. Love to hear from anyone and feel free to say hello....That's about where I am. By the way she left me and I am a good person.....I've convinced myself of that. Thanks

Answer 1

awww you sound like a really noice bloke and you definately have plucked up enough courage to come on yahoo. i dunno any particular sites many people go on lots of sites i know e.g. www.spogg.com, www.lovematch.com or even through msn. hope you find someone soon mate!

manda

Answer 2

It's great that you aren't beating yourself up about the divorce. Sometimes two "good" people just aren't meant to be together. Hopefully, you learned from the experience and can take what you learned to a new and better relationship. I, too, am divorced after a 12 year marriage. I have two sons and concentrate on them more than myself now. I've always had plenty of friends and keep making more. Smiling and being friendly is easy for some and I guess not others. It sounds like you might be a little shy. Try to see this new life as an adventure and do things that you've never done before. Travel if you can, go to concerts, art galleries, beach, gym... there are lonely people everywhere that would probably love having a new friend. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Don't start out meeting someone online. Although there are plenty of legitimate people out there (met one myself), there are just as many who just want to play "online head games" (met them too).

Better to start out in your own community or even the next town / city over. Take up a new hobby, meet new friends, do something you've never done before. Have fun in your single life and before you know it you'll have tons of friends and you just never know.............during a new hobby you may just meet the person you should have been with all along.

Good luck. You are totally correct, you are a good person. Just don't get so lonely that you hide before a computer screen. It's great if you are so shy you cannot handle meeting someone face-to-face at first, but it is like a bad-habit - hard to break once you get into a cycle.

Answer 4

I'm not sure whether the rough time is behind you. You only just separated, which implies you're not divorced yet. I cannot imagine that in the pre-divorce state you're remotely ready to start a new relationship (unless you're looking for casual sex).

My best and honest advice is to go out and join some sports club or whatever your hobby is. ... a real life one.. and complement that with an online group. That helps keep things in perspective and you actually get out and meet people other than via the puter screen. You can then share your real life experiences with the people in the online forum.

Answer 5

Separation Chat Rooms

Answer 6

Just chill out meet some new friends, only have dates as fun way of going out, spend time doing the things you didn't wouldn't or couldn't do while in your past relationship.

There are loads of groups on Yahoo and other websites too that are based on similar interests etc. So if you have specific interests just do a search on Yahoo GROUPS page for groups with that interest and join up.

Most of all have fun.

Answer 7

Hi! I have a great story for this. My mom was 33 when she married my dad. My dad was 66. I was born about 9 months after they wed. It was my mothers first husband, my dads second wife (his first died of heart failure, they never divorced.) My dad had 7 kids in his first marriage. My mother and my father have had 3, including me. Some of my dads first group of kids are older than my mom. Well, I'm twenty now, my mom is in her fifties and my dad is in his eighties. My dads age has put tons of stress on my father. My father isn't the same man I remember even as a child. Senility is changes you severely. I feel that my dads age difference really gets my mom down now, because his declining health is VERY hard for her. Lets face it, when you get older you lose control of your bowls and urine control. However, my mom is very dedicated to my brothers and myself. My mom feels that my dad was a gift for her, because she had always wanted children. She feels that my dad was a gift to her because she feared that she would never get married and would die alone. She loves my dad, it is just extremely hard. My mother is a nurse by training and my dad is a retired surgeon. My moms training gives her the ability to care for such an older spouse but my dad has the ability to confuse things. So, in short, I believe age isn't a factor in love as long as you realize that you can't stop the aging process. The older one will probably die before the younger, and the aging process is very hard to take for most individuals. However, my mom is very happy she found my dad. I'm sure if she could do it all over again, she would do it again. Oh, and my dad was 2 years old that my moms dad. My moms dad died two years ago of heart failure. Also, my mother is VERY religious and relies on her faith when times get tough. My dad has provided for my mother and has ensured she has way more than enough money that she will ever need. My mother was NOT a gold digger, almost 21 years of marriage proves it. However, from past experience in a law office, some other men and women would not think twice about marrying someone for money...just to divorce them...

Answer 8

When I was ready to start dating again, I signed up on Yahoo personals and later on at Match. I met a few really wonderful guys on Yahoo, totally normal, good looking, smart guys. Try it. It's a great way to date at this age. It allows you to test the waters without going out and going through the trouble of wasting your time with people you dont' know a clue about.

Answer 9

I take it you are very shy and you may have little self-esteem. Start by being confident in yourself. You say you are a good person show it hold your head up and smiles are contagious. If you are ready to get back out there in the dating pool there are many sights on-line like yahoo personals or e-harmony that match you. But surely there's someone you know who's life isn't as perfect as they say it is that would just love to fix you up with the perfect person. Maybe a blind date sounds bad but people who really know you know what you are looking for. Maybe they will be the right one for you.Good luck.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

Take a deep breath and just get out in the world! Find co-ed community sports teams, or hobby groups, or community volunteer work. Just figure out what YOU are interested in, and sign up. Take classes in your community - things like cooking, or crafts or a foreign language - you will expand your horizons and meet people with similar interests.

YOu can try internet dating to meet people (I met my husband that way) but PLEASE be very very safe. Never give out your phone number, OR address to anyone. Plan to meet in a neutral place, and always have a back-up plan to get out if things aren't going well. But it is a great way to meet people as well, as long as you keep your expectations realistic... HAVE FUN OUT THERE!