A girl was going to her college early in the morning at 7. she was waiting for a bus, a rickshaw jist stoped near her, n a the passenger in the rickshaw asked her if she wanted him to drop her to her college ( the passenger in the rickshaw was a vegetable vendor, this girl thought she knew him coz she used to buy veges. from him everyday)
then on the way the vendor said he had some work for a few minutes, so she could wait or else take the rickshaw n reach her college. The girl told she will wait. then he came n said "it will take some more time....so come in i'll give u a cuppa coffee."
She went in, the moment he closed the door, this vendor raped the girl.
who do u blame....the guy for performing a disrespectful act or the girl for being dumb n foolish enuff to go in?
2006-07-18 00:44:15 · 17 answers · asked by !i!i!i!FaRnAzA!i!i!i!i 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
weird she bought veges from him everyday :P coudnt she store some in the house ??
juss kiddin
definately the man is to be blamed , he could have been just nice and dropped her of at the college.
besides you cant blame a person for being stupid, thats just who they are.
2006-07-18 05:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by c 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust cannot be considered as an offense. The girl in the above
question just trusted a person whom she used to meet in casual contexts.
However, a certain level of vigilance (the question says she was going to college, hence she was at an age to display vigilance), could have avoided the whole incident.
But this expectation from the girl cannot in any way be considered a pretext on which she can be 'blamed'.
The act of crime displayed by the vendor is completely to be blamed, since it was forcible against her wishes, and its anyway a heinous crime altogether.
For the girl, by being cautious she could have allowed the crime 'not to' happen.
And since the 'blame' should be given to someone who allowed the crime 'to' happen in my opinion, so overall, its the vendor who is at fault.
2006-07-19 03:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is accountable for the choice that led to this circumstance...
Additional info:
You can blame the guy for the rape - that is for sure. But the Girl consciously chose to place herself in a situation that looked okay but wasn't. In fact the moment she woke up she started making choices that led to the rape. I will get up. I will eat breakfast. I will get ready to go out. I will go to school. I will take the bus.
Boil it down her choice to get an college education led to the rape...
YOU and only YOU are responsible for the results you create. YOUR choices create your results. Don't like the results make different choices...
In this case many of the girl's choices were based on series of bad assumptions and a carefree attitude - the man had no influence on those.
Accountability is a harsh critic of our choices. Being personally responsible for those choices keeps us from becoming a victim and letting others control our destiny. Think about it.
If I take a plane trip and the plane crashes who is accountable for my death - I am. I could have stayed home or taken a train.
2006-07-18 00:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Steve D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously ONLY the vendor is responsible for raping the girl. The girl is responsible for failing to follow established routines designed to get her to school on time - thus the girl is responsible for missing classes only.
The girl is no more responsible for being a victim of rape than is a bank employee for being shot during a bank heist.
2006-07-18 01:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Houstonian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy. She isnt dumb for being raped. She only did what she thought was right for her. She might have thought since she knew the vender, it would be safer to walk with him so she would be safe. Now she knows different, but no, I do not blame the girl one bit. She didnt asked to be raped by a monster.
2006-07-18 01:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in a technical sense, both of them could be blamed. The vendor mostly, but the girl because you should usually try and be on edge. Not be paranoid, but should have been more careful. She could have said thanks, but no thanks, or just sit in the car. The guy is mostly at fault for the disrespectful act.
2006-07-18 00:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by El-Matto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dunno if i can blame the girl, the blame lies with the vendor who drew a fake picture to lure the girl into his devious trait, he took advantage of her when she was in a needy and helpless situation, she didn't use her instincts very well she blindly trusted the vendor but still cannot put the blame on the girl she was mis-guided and tortured.
2006-07-18 20:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by dhruvy7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is to blame as nobody has its fault. The vendor may be liable to his actions but he is just satisfying a need. As for the girl, she is a victim of the action of the man of which she is the object. She can sue the guy to take the consequences of his actions.
2006-07-18 03:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by coolblueacid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well ,i think its d fault of d vendor, who has done such a henoius crime, but on d same time d gal is also resposible for being so dumb, for not understanding his intentions, d doing such a foolish act of accompanying him, she can refuse or go 2 her college instead of going for a cofee which cost her such an unforgetable memories which will keep her haunting, well , i hope she gets over it as soon as possible.
2006-07-19 05:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by dev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll blame the girl for being dumb n foolish enough to go in.
2006-07-19 01:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by sachin v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋