Is it like being more attracted to one sex than another or is it not being attracted to one sex at all?
2006-07-18 00:29:21 · 9 answers · asked by NICK V 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Gay means being attracted only to the same sex. I'm gay. I knew I liked boys in a special way that I didnt' feel for girls at all when I was 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11. Got my first b/f late 13 and came out to selected folk at 14.
Bisexual means being attracted to both to various degrees. Kinsey said there are more bisexuals than there are gays.
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2006-07-18 07:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the age of 12 I realized I had homosexual tendencies.
For 9 years I tried EVERYTHING to change to being straight. I only dated girls, avoided being alone with other guys, had sex with a couple of girls, lived with a girl, married her, then when none of that worked, I got divorced and "came out." I was 21 when I finally accepted that I was gay and there wasn't anything I could do about it, counseling couldn't fix it, god didn't fix it, "a good woman" couldn't fix it. It just didn't require fixing.
The only choice I had to make regarding homosexuality was to continue pretending to be something I wasn't for the sake of "society," or be the best damned f@g I could be. I chose the latter.
As for the attraction question... I find many women very attractive. I've even loved a few in a way I find confusing... but I have never enjoyed sex with women. It's like a chore. It seems fundamentally wrong when I'm engaging in the act. It is as uncomfortable as a straight person would be engaging in a homosexual act.
2006-07-18 09:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nick, I think it is different for each person. For me, I was attracted to both, but really couldn't maintain sexual interest in women. I resisted the idea that I might be gay for a long time. I had some brief experiences with men, but pursued women. Only when I finally figured out that I couldn't make that work, and that the few homosexual experience were more frequent, and they were what I sought out, did I realize I was not just fooling around, not even just bisexual, but gay. I was 30 years old, older than most. The majority of the gay men I know tried girls first.
Yet I have friends who knew when they were 11. We're all different.
2006-07-18 09:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, being in a mormon family growing up ni was sheltered from most of the outside world! but somtimes most of the big problems come from inside the home! i never knew anything about gays until i got into high school and was expected to start dating with my other siblings(im 1 of 9 children). i just didnt find girls attractive in a sexual way! i found that i would much rather hang out with them and discuss other guys and or go shopping. i then had a encounter with my older step-bro, and that cleared everything up for me, even tho i was deep in the closet and afraid of what my family would do when they found out i found what i needed! when i look back with out even realizing it that i had had a relationship with my best friend when i was 12, my life has been changed ever since that day in the closet with my step-bro!!
2006-07-18 12:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by kaikai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finally figured it out when I was 18, my 1st semester of college, when I got a huge crush on a friend, who was, unfortunately, straight. I never told her.
I had never known anyone gay growing up. I never really had any attraction to guys, but didn't understand my feelings towards women until I got to my late teens.
2006-07-18 11:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It differs from person to person.
I always liked woman, but NEVER as much as men and assumed everyone felt the way I did. If society did not expect me to date a girls etc. I never would have, even though I never disliked them. (Being gay was a crime when I was in school). As a school kid I was not sexually active, but attracted to guys.
Only when i became sexually active did I realise that with girls (for me), it was just about getting it done, whereas with guys; the earth moved.
2006-07-18 08:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figured out I was bi when I was 16. I loved my boyfriends and I always enjoyed fooling around with them, but I would sometimes think about girls when I touched myself or get a strange squishy feeling when I saw one I liked. For me, I knew because the way I felt about guys and the way I felt about girls was so similar.
2006-07-18 13:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back in middle school, I was really staring at the guys in PE
2006-07-18 11:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I fell in love with my best friend.
2006-07-18 07:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by Paige 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋