i need advice should i be scared or should i be calm?
2006-07-18 00:02:28 · 26 answers · asked by shanny 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First of all, think about this. Think if you want this child or if this child can wait until you have your life sorted out. If you want this child, then you have to start thinking about how you're going to take care of it, do you have a job a home. Does the child have a father? A good one? Think about all of this, CERTAINLY think about if having this baby is the right thing to do. Maybe go to the familyplanning clinic, they are confidential and will help you to decide whether you should keep it or not.
Everyone is scared, no matter what age. But try to remain calm and mature about this situation.
2006-07-18 00:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable that your scared - every pregnant women gets scared, but most young girls make great mums.
The best advice that you can get is to stay calm & go through the motions. Unborn babies can pick up on stress so try to relax & start planning your future.
As soon as your baby is born, you will love it instantly & wonder what you were worrying about.
You don't actually say what you are scared of. Is it childbirth, being a mum or something else?
Can you talk to your mum or is there a young mums group in your area? I sure hope you can find someone to share your worries with soon.
Take care - remember, you are never alone when you are pregnant.
Just Smile :-)
2006-07-18 01:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by MISS B.ITCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the millions of mothers there are in the world. If they can do it then you can. Come on you are a winner. Stay calm and your baby will be calm. Sing and talk to it and laugh and joke and you will have a happy baby. Just think how lucky you are your baby will be like a friend to you if you are young. Be happy...you can do it. When you are out walking...think to yourself....I have a secret that no one knows about yet and smile to yourself. Its a lovely time...No need to get scared. You will be a good mother. As long as you love your baby thats all that matters. Congratulations....hope all goes well with you both. come on...lets have a big smile....its the most marvellous experience in your life so enjoy it.
2006-07-18 00:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by beyond paradise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared, you'll be just fine. I have a nine week old baby (although I am nearly 30), and it is not as difficult as people make it out to be. It is time consuming. So to ensure that you enjoy your baby and make your life easier, do not be scared, enjoy your pregnancy and stay calm now and when you have the baby. Do not get tense. Happy mums make happy and contented babies. Do however read many books about babies whilst you are pregnant, it is a very special time. Childbirth varies from one woman to another but let me tell you this: I cannot stand period pains, and I was worried that if I couldn't cope with period pains, how could I possibly cope with childbirth, and guess what, I had my baby naturally, after 25 hours in labour, with just one pethidine injection. No epidural. It just goes to show. Woman are designed to give birth. It does hurt, but when the midwife handed me over my baby, the pain just disappeared!!! Good luck hun!
2006-07-18 10:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely be calm as your baby will pick up on this. Seriously! My cousin's 17 and had a baby at christmas. When she called me, she sounded just like you do now but shes now doing great and baby's a little angel. Make sure you have a good 'support unit', you understand what I mean by that? Keep your friends and family as close as you can as youll need them in the coming months and years. Definitely speak to either your own mum, or a mum you can trust (say, a friends mum or older sister, anyone who's a mother) they can give you the answers you need. Finally, enjoy it! Yeah, sounds easy for me to say doesnt it, but you should really love what youre doing. PS notice how I dont ask about a boyfriend / partner....if hes stuck around, hooray! If not, then that makes your friends and family even more important. Good luck for the future, youll be just great! :O) Bxx
2006-07-18 00:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, dont let people preach to you about "doing the right thing" I had my 1st baby @ 13 1/2 okay & my 2nd @ 18.. I GRADUATED highschool (early as matter of fact).. no G.E.D I had no father for my 1st child he up and left me the minute he found out. With the 2nd well lets say I wud of been better off with out him. So no matter wut B.S people hand you do what you think is right in YOUR heart.. if you feel you will make a GOOD mother so be it, but please don't bring a child into your life to neglect it, or throw away.. Adoption is around... (not 4 me but)
But trust me on this Teen mom's, young mom's are not all bad,rotten, terrible and wutever.. there are some good young parents out there.. my son is now 14 and we get along great and probably more so because we are so close in age. I dont encourage teens to have kids but, if you are brought into the situation, just remember You Can Do This ! If this is best for you.. There is plenty of programs, clinics and such that are willing to help out young adults even churches.. so trust me you wont be alone! DONT BE SCARED!! DONT LET PEOPLE TELL YOU WHAT TO DO!! It's your body, your baby!
2006-07-18 00:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Stupidity Is My Middle Name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered all your options? There are pregnance resource centers everywhere to help you. I am NOT suggesting abortion, but maybe just some guidence from a consoler. Being a mommy at a young age is very hard, yet rewarding at the same time. Just remember to stay calm at all times, your baby will react by your actions. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-07-18 01:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by 9929 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a mum was the best thing that could have happened to me. I know pleanty of young mums who were scared, but they soon learnt what to do.
If you have pleanty of people around you thats good, if not go to nct meetings and make friends and they can all help. I had my son 12 weeks ago and i didn't even know how to change a nappy, now i know why he cries.
Keep calm, try not to get scared as it can stress you and the baby out, take care and many congrats
2006-07-18 22:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Beka C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are determined to bring this child into the world, then don't be scared. It does no good whatsoever and your life will be what it will be (probably a lot less fun, but what the heck).
You see, bastardy is not the stigma it used to be, more's the pity. Your child will hardly be alone. Just do the best you can to raise it and impart good social values to it (if you can figure out what those are).
But don't be scared. Be resolute. Be brave. Be confident. Be intelligent ... be all the things you have heard good mothers are supposed to be. That's what you are SUPPOSED to do.
And don't do it again until you are married.
2006-07-18 00:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi pregnant lady this is a liitle bit a problem not only for u its a problem to every ladies and i hope u will have a good and wealthy cute baby and i will pray for u too and first u have to be very most enjoyable person in the world and u have to stay with u r mom or husband or some of u r relatives who loves u very much . dont scared its simple be joy ? calm is not nice and congrates
NN
2006-07-18 01:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋