my friend is always guilty when she looks at her partner of 3 years and kids after this one mistake and wants to tell him should she just let sleaping dogs lie? or be honest and risk ruining what they have?
2006-07-18 00:01:36 · 15 answers · asked by kel_m_m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I made a mistake once myself. I finally told my hubby and he responded very strangely. It all worked out in the end and now we are happy. It had an unusual effect on us. I can give you details but not on here. I am Angela, enyawe2000@yahoo.com. Ask me.
2006-07-18 00:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by sapahaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If she informs and if her partner doesn't care she will fling again.
2) It is better not to tell and live with the guilt and be faithful to him ever after.
3) She did not care to think before the fling now why she wants to feel bad tell her to forget it as a bad dream.
2006-07-18 00:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Loviingly_Yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would NEVER find myself in this position because I have not nor will ever cheat on my mate. As for your friend, if the guilt is getting to her and she feels the only way she can relieve the guilt is to tell...then she should confess..WITH the understanding that her relationship may never be the same again, if it survives at all. I wish her luck.
2006-07-18 00:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she want to confess? so that she can share the guilt with her partner and make him feel bad too? If she really loves her partner, she's got to sort herself, get some therapy and counselling to get over the guilt. Telling her partner won't help.
2006-07-18 00:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Littlegreydevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. She'd be mad to 'fess up after so long.
Indescresions like that have an expiry date, you know? After 3 months, if no-one found out, they cease to count. Honest, it says so in the rules. Official, like.
2006-07-18 00:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by femuricious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me, knowing that im lying to him constantly would make me feel consumed by guilt. if she wants him to honest with her she should give him the same respect, i'd feel like my relationship was a lie. mind you everyone else who ive spoken to about similar things believe you shouldnt tell them if it will upset you from the outcome you get but personally i reckon she should be honest with him
2006-07-19 18:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by lickdatramp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and take the risk the truth always comes out.
2006-07-18 00:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should stop whipping herself about it.
the lesson has been learned.
let it stay in the past where it belongs.
look to the future.
don't tell him.
there's nothing to be gained from trashing the marriage.
2006-07-18 00:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him...all trust will vanish, look on your guilt as a punishment or detterent. If you tell him I think no matter what he says he will never forget it
2006-07-18 00:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by DAVID P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she took the risk when she cheated..., she should fess up and be honest with a man who is desrving of her honesty otherwise it will continue to eat at her.
2006-07-18 00:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋