if this happened to you?????

Question

if someone had made up sick things about you how would you deal with it???i was abused as a child i was 9,this sick cow is going around saying that i had sex with my father when i was 17,,,she also knows that my parents committed suicide round this time. how should i deal with this im scared of her.her husband is a christian minister an when i was going through a nervouse breakdown he tryed it on with me i was too scared to tell her at first but then i told her an now she thinks shes getting revenge on me???help,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Answer 1

I had this but about me having sex with my sister, I ignored them, and they went away.

With friends like those who needs enemies

Answer 2

I'm sorry to read about your experiences as a child: & with the minister... my prayers are with you!!

It sounds as if this woman is seeking some sort of 'revenge', & trying to hurt you back for what was said about her husband: as a ministers wife...she should know better!!

If possible you need to 'Try' and talk to the woman involved, and explain to her that what she is saying is not true, and beyond hurtful!! I doubt very much that this will get you very far: but at least an attempt on your part, will show you are trying to deal with the situation in a calm and sensible manner.

If talking to her does not work in stoping the abuse: then a word in you local police/community support officers/solisitors ear may be worth a try>>> depending on what's being said, how, and to whom, you may have grounds to press charges against her, if for nothing else: harassment!!

Take care & good luck.

Answer 3

You need to employ all the available services you can to your immediate disposal.

First, seek legal advice or contact your local citizen's advice bureau to find out how you can go forward. Keep records of her verbal abuse. Get real friends with flawless characters to witness to her misdeeds that would stand up in court, if necessary, against this person. Also, involve the police if the minister tries it on you again. You will need hard evidence to convict him for attempted sexual assault, though. He is seen as a trusted member of the community as a minister, and could possibly bring character witnesses to testify that he is "above reproach".

You will need to be smart, sly and, above all, stronger than these people. You can clear your name if you work hard at it and get the evidence. If you really want to put the nail in their proverbial coffin, bring your proven evidence to the newspapers, local or national (if you're in the UK). But if I were you, I'd show them that I was better than that and just nail them in the courts instead.

Good luck

Answer 4

you know what is true & what is not & I'm sure your
real friends believe you & not the other person
if this lady is a christian then ask her why isn't she acting
the way a christian should act ? It sounds like she & her
husband have some problems & should seek some
counceling
what's she's doing is WRONG, but don't let it bother you
don't give her the satisfaction
just go on w/ your life, in time people will get tired of
listening to her lies & then she'll stop
take care

Answer 5

I think it sounds like you don't need a friend like her. You have had enough bad things in your life already. Just drop her. You know the truth in your heart and the people that believe her are just as shallow as she is. You are certainly tempted to do things, but there is no way to get even. Just say to her, I am sorry you are angry with me, be the better person and just leave it at that. Walk away. If you want to talk about it, I would be willing to do more with you, but you need to focus on the positive in your life, do what you will be proud of, do things that make you feel better.

Answer 6

i think this is down right terrible...i would get one of my friends or more than one and i would go to her in person and tell he that she is spreading rumour about you and you want them stopped.. and she can not do anything if front of other wittnesses.. if you had money i would go get a gag order put on her so if she opens her mouth again about you or what happened to your family.. she will be held liable..i would not just take this any longer.. if her husband is a christian minister perhaps you could even go to him and tell him that it is upsetting you what his wife is spreading around....you have grounds for mental distress and i do not know you would have to contact a lawyer...he canot surely be like that if he is a minister...i think i would get the gag order if you are scared... i do not know how much that will cost.. you just go to the judge and ask him for one like you would a restraining order.....i hope this helps and i hope that you get this took care of.. if i knew there number i would call them myself and tell them to stop this or there was going to be consequesnces to pay...i know you are not suppose to let things people say bother you but when it effects your health, then someone needs to do something..

Answer 7

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.

Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.

Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.

Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?

Answer 8

You know I iwll be sooo cold in Hell because of all the Christians in front of the fires. Look. Phone the samaritans and speak to someone who can Listen actively. SOmeone who can give real advice. Its all very well if someone here has similar ecperiences but otherwise you will get stupid answers. Ignore the ignorance of gossips and speak to a counsellor or your GP.

Answer 9

Good news, no one ever fully listens to women (or men for that matter), a pinch of salt is always required.

We only listen when we have to and we know there are TV shows with lie detector tests, go on TV or think about getting legal representation.

Answer 10

Omg

Let me help you out :). Ok, theres NOTHING to be afraid of. If anyone hurts you, bite back. She makes up stuff about you, so take a deep breath, practice plenty of times, and go tell her off!!

Her husband touches you, why dont you tell her that infront of her face too???

What are you afraid of? You have nothing to lose. You can't juz make anyone bully you!! I'm here to help. If you need support, contact me.

Answer 11

I am not qualified to answer this question, however I would suggest that you go to your Doc and ask to be referred for cognitive therapy. Meantime stay calm and try to think rationally and keep out of this vile persons way big time.

All the very best.