I had to change to survive and became harsher and sterner now she thinks I don't love her,I cahnged for her good and find it difficult to show my feelings, any suggestions?
2006-07-17 23:44:02 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I never and never will lay a finger on my wife I had to harden to survive the crap given to you in life, abuse does not enter into this in the slightest ,I have just fell into a shell I think.
2006-07-17 23:59:23 · update #1
Thank you all for the positive veibes sent I will endeavour to use your advice in the best way possible.Watch this space.xx
2006-07-18 00:13:05 · update #2
what would prompt you to change so drastically? Take time out to figure out what she likes. Make an adjustment within yourself to please her for one whole day of the week. Whatever she wants. Now don't become a love slave and loose your position but show an intreset in what she does. After your comfortable with that try twice...Also just listening can mean more to a woman than anything and i do mean anything you could give her. Now when you listen....HEAR what she is saying. PLEASE
2006-07-18 00:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by scooter47 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I dont care if you're the man of steel, love will bring any woman to his knees. Being a hardened man changes zero.
So when's the last time you flat out told her "I love you"?
It's too often that people try too hard with baby oil, picnincs, flower petals or restaurants. Just saying "I really love you and i'll never leave you" will do the job if you've been together for a long time. Try it. It can be a bigger turn on than wearing a tarzan outfit in the living room.. or so i've been told >,>
2006-07-17 23:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by wijnha01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Give her your attention more frequently. Send her lovely bouquets of flower at infrequent intervals...with catchy phrases like "your he-man", or "your secrete admirer", and such. learn her sizes and buy her nice gifts (they don't have to be expensive...they can be sexy though). Take her out. You are only limited by your imagination here. There are many, many ways to express your love.
The main thing is the attention. Listen when she talk, hug her more, give her little kisses often.
You can back off that harsh jive. How would you like it for someone you love treated you harshly? It's time to give that up.
2006-07-18 00:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with trying to make some changes to survive but hope u dont do it pretty drastic. Slowly u should go and dont forget that u should also make her feel u still love her, dont forget to compliment her even ones a day. Dont forget special days and little things that can make her feel u are still there for her. Being hard doesnt mean being mean....
2006-07-18 00:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the softer side of you show. Buy her flowers, leave little messages in the house where she can find them, buy her chocolates, do small little things for her. Send her little sms's during the day just to say that you miss her, it's sure to let her smile. In the morning kiss her good-bye and kiss her again when you come from work. Hope this works for you. It definitely works on most chicks. Good luck amigo.
2006-07-17 23:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK say it with me "DRAMA QUEEN" get over yourself I'm sure that your the very first person in history who has a problem if only they were all so easy to deal with. If you want to know a way to show her that you love then stop pretending to be tough and show her just how much you love her and next time have a real problem.
2006-07-18 00:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way to be more real and emotional with her or you will lose her. The way you act is a choice. You can choose to be more tender and emotional with her. Lose her or keep her. The choice is really yours. She's feeling pushed away and excluded. What you show to the outside world doesn't have to be what you show to your wife. Would seem you don't trust her or maybe don't trust yourself. Either way, bad move.
2006-07-17 23:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a sit down and explanation over tea (or coffee if you prefer) situation. Just sit down and talk about it with her im sure she'l understand you did it for her. Even the hardest man on earth has a soft part to his heart..tell her that and soon she'l fall head over heels for you and hey presto love is back in the air!!
hope this helps!
2006-07-17 23:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by idontknow!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do sweet small things like pick a wild flower for her, cook her dinner, just tell her!, leave her little notes on the bathroom mirror or other places that you know she will see them. Hug her and just be affectionate. Women cherish those kinds of things much more than big ticket items.
2006-07-17 23:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a day together. pick a Saturday and spend the whole day together, if you got kids, get ride of them for the day. try to remember things you used to do when you first started seeing each other and re do them. picnics, cinema, dinner, walks and to fin the night, watch the sun set. you need to make a little effort. but it'll be worth it. who knows it might help you as well. good luck
2006-07-17 23:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by rock_style 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋